Originally posted by manzilmukul@Sonali
Aye Aye Ma'am,Your memory indeed needs to be complimented.Kudos to that!!
And It just gets personal Ain't it ?
Your instructions on stop watching -- none taken.
Planar and hypothetical discussions are not my Cup of tea and Believe me when I say it,I read ,understand ,watch and perceive before opening my mouth on any topic coz I do not believe in Half-Baked knowledge nor do I want to claim the CHARGED ALLEGATION of SEEKING ATTENTION by making negative posts.
REAL life ?Hmm Since you questioned about my family and personal life and I wonder if you have such a wonderful memory ,you should have not missed my entire sharing of my personal life story with the forum where I had myself been married to even a more TRADITIONAL AND CONSERVATIVE HOUSEHOLD.
And fought ? You must be kidding.My husband stopped talking to his Father for nearly 6 months after standing for me when my in laws had once tried to question my profession and job This is what happens in REAL families. I have myself faced worst than Sandhya but Had I and my husband not been vocal about it ,we would have never been able to change the REGRESSION that existed and trust me today we have what we want love respect and bonding. Do you really think..I do not love my family? Loving your FAMILY does not mean shying from calling a SPADE A SPADE!!Right.That is my friend is called VOICING your Opinion and FIGHTING for your rights.
While constantly harping about the family ,you crucially missed a huge point which I was trying to make - IF everyone just thinks about balancing life who will work for the upliftment of the society.
How will Sandhya beendani stand for marital abuse victims when she herself is always at the alter shredded to pieces with too much burden and demands from Bhabho.
Families do fight with each other ,we sometimes get burdened by responsibilities too but at the end of the day ..WE HAVE A VOICE. WE HAVE A CHOICE-not to CHOOSE TO SUFFER SILENTLY BUT STRIVE TOGETHER to bring in REAL change.
Who said families don't have fights?Who said every husband is perfect? But at least a VOICE and CHOICE is much needed in this World.
I can go on and on about REAL and Inspirational about TV shows which sadly do not exist anymore.I have watched Udaan ,Astitva,Saans,Mahyagna where the leads had a voice and life.
It would be really great if you please stop getting personal with each and every comment.While talking about characters why pull in my personal life or my husband or as a matter of fact my viewing skills and trying to judge how FREE I am to JUMP into forums giving my UNCALLED Opinions.Everyone has a BUSY life and just because they CHOOSE to speak about something in a Forum that Doesn't mean they ARE ATTENTION SEEKERS.I have all the attention in this world ,I want in my REAL lifeVirtual platform would be the last place to seek one.
I belong to a family of army-men so ,at least the men I know in my family CONSIDER country and service to mankind above FAMILY PERIOD!!
If one does not,then it's half-hearted DEVOTION.
I hope this is probably the end to your boredom reading my posts.
BTW who decides what is a LOGICAL DISCUSSION?
An Individualistic perception? A mass Botched up Opinion?
- Or simply a Euphoric sense of delusional decipherence of FACTS merged with OPINIONS?
Sadly Enough !! There are no physical parameters to gauge Abstract entities.Until those discovered ; judgments are HIGHLY individualistic and SELECTIVE Reproach is Escapism.
As far as personal questions are concerned u can always choose not to answer, but since u were interested in sharing ur real life story in earlier posts on the forum , without any hesitation I asked few personal questions ... I won't get personal further, although I do have few things on mind..
Regarding the show , If you haven't watched it from the beginning , that clearly means u didn't watch or perceive and ur comments are based on half baked knowledge...DABH has completed one of its important phase and about to enter another ,i.e Life of Suraj and Sandhya post IPS ..I started watching from april 2012 , but when I watched it from the beginning it was only then I understood it all well and was able to connect with the characters..
You are judging the show on the basis of this jungle track, So no point arguing with you.
As I said , DABH tries to cast a positive spell, It is set up in a traditional background ..an obedient son like Suraj does every possible thing against the wishes of Bhabo to make his wife an IPS..It is also about the clashes of traditional and modern mindset which has been shown through Bhabo and Sandhya...Bhabo is proved wrong everytime and supports Sandhya..So yes , had Suraj and Sandhya not voiced their opinions, they would have never achieved what they wanted
In my opinion real life cant really be compared with fiction, a lot depends on the trp here , In real ...
I know quite a few guys who are not so well settled themselves and want a working wife who can bear expenses of the family with them ( now this is called being greedy)..In this case if husband fights with his family so tht they allow his wife to work , I wont be impressed. Another case,
I doubt there are many men who are secure enough , to see their wives having a much successful career than them... Some are too conservative that they want their wife to sit at home and make babies only ( another extreme).
Suraj does belong from a traditional family , he is doing it all for his wife out of greed...Being a halwai understood what Sandhya's dream means to her...I remember once Rohit Raj the director got great feedback from few husbands who said they have started caring for their wives more now, or they now are ok with their wife wanting to have a career ...Now this is called striving to bring a change through a show
When the show is on air, if its get trp and people get a positive msg , then all is well...Obviously there would be ppl who may find this show not so great , but then again its their choice.DABH is much better than other shows on air right now, It does have flaws I agree. In my opinion family , country and duty all hold equal importance...whatever u say , I disagree compleltely , So no point discussing further...My friends and other people I know are from army background too, they have been balancing both home and career well..Its not that they don't attend family functions or spend time time with their family ( So if Sandhya attended chavi's wedding not a big deal). Shashi Madam, herself met lady IPS officers, They have a successful marriage and career...Why do u think we have to pick either one of them to be successful in life
As far as DABH is concerned how Sandhya manages homes and Duty will be seen in the upcoming tracks , so why talk about it now? I have not watched the shows u have mentioned , but have watched Astitav ( Its about extra marital affair , husband cheats on his wife and she suffers through out ) ...Now do u find that inspirational
sorry to say I don't think such things should be promoted on national television
Why do u distort things by asking general questions ...'What is a logical discussion and all ''...
for now we both were having a conversation and I found ur posts illogical, this is what I have judged ...
Edited by Sonali_11 - 14 April 2014 at 10:48pm