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Posted: 13 April 2014 at 11:37pm | IP Logged
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so u mean to say forums are meant for only members who should ONLY praise the show ??? and if any member once in a while comes and criticizes it ...u guys just cant digest it..

and pls stop asking us to "stop watching the show"...such a cliched reply from the fans of the show...
in ur own words if u got problem with post "stop reading .."...how does that sound to you???

I will watch it as long as I want to and even pin point the bad things about it...forums are for that...

and FYI there are shows with much more inspiring character  than sandhya...try them out before preaching others how to watch,what to watch and what not to watch...





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I already mentioned I was not doing anything and just wanted to kill some time so thought of replying , Otherwise I wouldn't have Tongue...I have a really good memory and remember even the oldest of things , I should compliment it for remembering the post u made ages ago .
As you said its a public forum, so u also shouldn't instruct me if I should give sugesstions or not ..You said u never thought u woud  make a post in this forum, tht is why I said it was a good move .
The fans of DABH too, look at both the positive and negative points of the serial, no one praises it endlessly...Even for the last week episode I repeatedly wrote how dragging they have been.. The thing is when I weigh the bad points and good points, good points always win over..
 
Other shows on Television are neither inspirational nor interesting, So if you could tell me what else have u been watching thts so inspirational tht you find Bahu and IPS sandhya not so inspirational ?
 
Forget about IPS being not just another profession , My point was does being an IPS mean u should forget ur family? Shashi Mam the writer of this show personally  met some lady IPS officers and many are balancing home and career well ...If Sandhya does tht whats the big deal ? You can't really compare the importance of family , country and duty  as they all hold equal importance in my eyes ...
 
As far as Suraj's character is concerned it has really grown a lot since the show started , there have been times when he was totally mute in front of Bhabo , but many times he openly stood by his wife ...Since the time he got to know about Sandhya's dream , He has been expectional ..Hs done every little thing against the wishes of Bhabo ..
 
Suraj left his house for Sandhya's dream ...He has stopped eating sweets because of Sandhya .DONE a lot more, wont go into details  ..You should see all  aspects of him before commenting.. If you think he stands mute infront of Bhabo then why does she think hes a joru Ka ghulam ?  On few occasions he was all mute, but did  he ever stop Sandhya to argue with Bhabo , or  prove Bhabo wrong ?
 
Are our bfs , husbands or fiancee's so perfect that we find flaws in such a supportive husband? I know that's a personal question , but how many times ur husband has fought with his mother for you ? Why do we expect such a perfection on tv when real life lacks it all?
 
 
Vikram is a henpecked husband and so Is  suraj , Only Mohit is the worst ...Almost all the girls have to cook for their inlaws in their life , whats the big deal if Rathi bahus do it Confused, even Chavi and Bhabo cook too.
Bearing curses day and night Confused? I thought in DABH through Sandhya and Bhabo , they have been showing clashes between modern and traditional mindset, and in the end Bhabo supports Sandhya and is proved wrong.Being from such a conservative background Bhabo has toned down a bit .. Do u think such houses exist  in real where fights don't happen ?
 
Its just that some people take out the positive things from whatever they are watching, while few focus on the negative things only..According to me , marital bliss is having a supporting and loving husband ,You can survive if u have a bad mother in law but can't survive if you have a bad husband.. In Sandhya's case ... she survived in the house because of Suraj
 
Forget about whats entertainment , The thing is , watch something which interests you ...If you don't like something simply don't watch ...I don't have time to invest on things I don't like usually , Many shows come on tv and I dislike milions of things about them , but doesn't mean I'll go to their forums and give opinions which wont matter to ppl who like it.
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@ blue if it doesnt matter at all to the ppl who like it than why to type such a long essay defending it ! it does matter isnt it ????? tht is why u ppl dont hesitate to go personal ! suprisingly the post tht holds no importance to the members gets maximum views maximum essay kind of comments ! period ! 

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Posted: 14 April 2014 at 1:12am | IP Logged
Originally posted by sanjh11


 
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I already mentioned I was not doing anything and just wanted to kill some time so thought of replying , Otherwise I wouldn't have Tongue...I have a really good memory and remember even the oldest of things , I should compliment it for remembering the post u made ages ago .
As you said its a public forum, so u also shouldn't instruct me if I should give sugesstions or not ..You said u never thought u woud  make a post in this forum, tht is why I said it was a good move .
The fans of DABH too, look at both the positive and negative points of the serial, no one praises it endlessly...Even for the last week episode I repeatedly wrote how dragging they have been.. The thing is when I weigh the bad points and good points, good points always win over..
 
Other shows on Television are neither inspirational nor interesting, So if you could tell me what else have u been watching thts so inspirational tht you find Bahu and IPS sandhya not so inspirational ?
 
Forget about IPS being not just another profession , My point was does being an IPS mean u should forget ur family? Shashi Mam the writer of this show personally  met some lady IPS officers and many are balancing home and career well ...If Sandhya does tht whats the big deal ? You can't really compare the importance of family , country and duty  as they all hold equal importance in my eyes ...
 
As far as Suraj's character is concerned it has really grown a lot since the show started , there have been times when he was totally mute in front of Bhabo , but many times he openly stood by his wife ...Since the time he got to know about Sandhya's dream , He has been expectional ..Hs done every little thing against the wishes of Bhabo ..
 
Suraj left his house for Sandhya's dream ...He has stopped eating sweets because of Sandhya .DONE a lot more, wont go into details  ..You should see all  aspects of him before commenting.. If you think he stands mute infront of Bhabo then why does she think hes a joru Ka ghulam ?  On few occasions he was all mute, but did  he ever stop Sandhya to argue with Bhabo , or  prove Bhabo wrong ?
 
Are our bfs , husbands or fiancee's so perfect that we find flaws in such a supportive husband? I know that's a personal question , but how many times ur husband has fought with his mother for you ? Why do we expect such a perfection on tv when real life lacks it all?
 
 
Vikram is a henpecked husband and so Is  suraj , Only Mohit is the worst ...Almost all the girls have to cook for their inlaws in their life , whats the big deal if Rathi bahus do it Confused, even Chavi and Bhabo cook too.
Bearing curses day and night Confused? I thought in DABH through Sandhya and Bhabo , they have been showing clashes between modern and traditional mindset, and in the end Bhabo supports Sandhya and is proved wrong.Being from such a conservative background Bhabo has toned down a bit .. Do u think such houses exist  in real where fights don't happen ?
 
Its just that some people take out the positive things from whatever they are watching, while few focus on the negative things only..According to me , marital bliss is having a supporting and loving husband ,You can survive if u have a bad mother in law but can't survive if you have a bad husband.. In Sandhya's case ... she survived in the house because of Suraj
 
Forget about whats entertainment , The thing is , watch something which interests you ...If you don't like something simply don't watch ...I don't have time to invest on things I don't like usually , Many shows come on tv and I dislike milions of things about them , but doesn't mean I'll go to their forums and give opinions which wont matter to ppl who like it.
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@ blue if it doesnt matter at all to the ppl who like it than why to type such a long essay defending it ! it does matter isnt it ????? tht is why u ppl dont hesitate to go personal ! suprisingly the post tht holds no importance to the members gets maximum views maximum essay kind of comments ! period ! 
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If you can see she asked me some questions because of which I gave a long reply , Its not a matter of defending here, so  stop distorting things.
It was a general statement when I said , I don't get time to talk about things I dislike in other shows in their forums , You took it personally ..not my problem.
If theres nothing intentional on ur part and just an honest review about the show ,  then why care  what we think ?
 
Initially it does happen that negative posts get a lot of attention, but when it becomes repetitive , just like ur posts are ... no one even gets a reply Wink
You are making me bored now Sleepy


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Posted: 14 April 2014 at 1:19am | IP Logged
Originally posted by nneeiill

@sonali_11

so u mean to say forums are meant for only members who should ONLY praise the show ??? and if any member once in a while comes and criticizes it ...u guys just cant digest it..

and pls stop asking us to "stop watching the show"...such a cliched reply from the fans of the show...
in ur own words if u got problem with post "stop reading .."...how does that sound to you???

I will watch it as long as I want to and even pin point the bad things about it...forums are for that...

and FYI there are shows with much more inspiring character  than sandhya...try them out before preaching others how to watch,what to watch and what not to watch...



Im open to healthy and logical discussions , but whenever u distort things I simply hate it ..If you read my post again  ...I never said this forum is for praising the show only .I said even the fans consider the good points and bad points of the serial before commenting , its just that in our opinion good points always win over.
Logical criticism is ok , but if its done just to argue uncessarily  or to make the other person believe he/she is wrong , that's not great.
As I said , I hardly read boring posts, after one or two lines I skip it all, Its just that yesterday and today Im free  so just browsing and all ... As I already said , It was a general statement when I said I don't watch something I dislike and better go for the things that interest you. ..Why are u so bothered anyway ?
 
I already asked , whats so inspirational u have watched  that we haven't because of which u want to make us believe Sandhya's character is not inspirational?
 
Repetitive posts and comments , I so done with it already ...I better stop replying.
 

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Originally posted by Sonali_11

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@ blue if it doesnt matter at all to the ppl who like it than why to type such a long essay defending it ! it does matter isnt it ????? tht is why u ppl dont hesitate to go personal ! suprisingly the post tht holds no importance to the members gets maximum views maximum essay kind of comments ! period ! 
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If you can see she asked me some questions because of which I gave a long reply , Its not a matter of defending here, so  stop distorting things.no read ur  post u have again and again commented on how boring her post was and she was stating the same thing again and again now who is distorting the things if u find it boring why to care ???? skip it i skip many post in this forum too big deal !
It was a general statement when I said , I don't get time to talk about things I dislike in other shows in their forums , You took it personally ..not my problem.
u were advicing her not to watch and how ppl shouldnt waste their time and shouldnt come to the forum tht equates to moral policing and it is against the IF rules if u find post worthy enough to discuss than disucss it in a healthy manner without advicing us or giving us tips we didnt ask for tht  
If theres nothing intentional on ur part and just an honest review about the show ,  then why care  what we think ?
thts wat suprise us we post the topic in the forum and some members come up with personal attack ! why so ???? 

Initially it does happen that negative posts get a lot of attention, but when it becomes repetitive , just like ur posts are ... no one even gets a reply Wink

You are making me bored now Sleepy
believe us its a relief to us ! thnks for being bored and dont care to bored again there are rest members in the forum who are finding it logical ! doesnt matter if 2-3 find it boring !
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Posted: 14 April 2014 at 2:01am | IP Logged
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yes u should better stop replying..coz u have nothing to add on

whether it is necessary or unnecessary argument...will u decide it ??

 n why should i tell u which show is inspiring..why dont u check for urself..




Edited by nneeiill - 14 April 2014 at 2:03am

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@Sonali
Aye Aye Ma'am,Your memory indeed needs to be complimented.SmileKudos to that!!
And It just gets personal Ain't it ?
Your instructions on stop watching -- none taken.
Planar and hypothetical discussions are not my Cup of tea and Believe me when I say it,I read ,understand ,watch and perceive before opening my mouth on any topic coz I do not believe in Half-Baked knowledge nor do I want to claim the CHARGED ALLEGATION of SEEKING ATTENTION by making negative posts.
REAL life ?Hmm Since you questioned about my family and personal life and I wonder if you have such a wonderful memory ,you should have not missed my entire sharing of my personal life story with the forum where I had myself been married to even a more TRADITIONAL AND CONSERVATIVE HOUSEHOLD. 
And fought ? You must be kidding.My husband stopped talking to his Father  for nearly 6 months after standing for me  when my in laws had once tried to question my profession and jobSmile This is what happens in  REAL families. I have myself faced worst than Sandhya but Had I and my husband  not been vocal about it ,we would have never been able to change the REGRESSION that existed and trust me today we have what we want love respect and bonding. Do you really think..I do not love my family? Loving your FAMILY does not mean shying from calling a SPADE A SPADE!!Right.That is my friend is called VOICING your Opinion and FIGHTING for your rights.
While constantly harping about the family ,you crucially missed a huge point which I was trying to make - IF everyone just thinks about balancing life who will work for the upliftment of the society.
How will Sandhya beendani stand for marital abuse victims when she herself is always at the alter shredded to pieces with too much burden and demands from Bhabho.
Families do fight with each other ,we sometimes get burdened by responsibilities too but at the end of the day ..WE HAVE A VOICE. WE HAVE A CHOICE-not to CHOOSE TO SUFFER SILENTLY BUT STRIVE TOGETHER to bring in REAL change.
Who said families don't have fights?Who said every husband is perfect? But at least a VOICE and CHOICE is much needed in this World.
I can go on and on about REAL and Inspirational about TV shows which sadly do not exist anymore.I have watched Udaan ,Astitva,Saans,Mahyagna where the leads had a voice and life.
It would be really great if you please stop getting personal with each and every comment.While talking about characters why pull in my personal life or my husband or as a matter of fact my viewing skills and trying to judge how FREE I am to JUMP into forums giving my UNCALLED Opinions.Everyone has a BUSY life and just because they CHOOSE to speak about something in a Forum that Doesn't mean they ARE ATTENTION SEEKERS.I have all the attention in this world ,I want in my REAL lifeSmileVirtual platform would be the last place to seek one.
I belong to a family of army-men so ,at least the men I know in my family CONSIDER country and service to mankind above FAMILY PERIOD!!
If one does not,then it's half-hearted DEVOTION.
I hope this is probably the end to your boredom reading my posts.
BTW who decides what is a LOGICAL DISCUSSION? 
  • An Individualistic perception?
  • A mass Botched up Opinion?
  • Or simply a Euphoric sense of delusional decipherence of FACTS merged with OPINIONS?
Sadly Enough !! There are no physical parameters to gauge Abstract entities.Until those discovered ; judgments  are HIGHLY individualistic and SELECTIVE Reproach is Escapism.Smile




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I am reading Kiran Bedi's biography these days...
A REAL LIFE STORY OF A REAL IPS OFFICER and the first oneBig smile


Her Marital Life

Kiran Bedi was determined to choose her own life partner at an early age, as the bitter shades of marital relationship of her elder sister always bid a nightmare to the term called marriage. Shashi her elder sister was a girl next door who dreamt of leading a normal life like any other girl. Sashi got engaged to a Canada-based Indian heart specialist while she was pursuing her Master's degree. The marriage was a disaster as the doctor was already engaged to someone else in Canada. But Shashi could not fight for her marriage but had to succumb to the doctors interest (like bribe) and stay with him for life in an unknown land. This bitter experience increased Kiran's determination to make her own way in her own country.

Kiran Bedi's first serious relationship did not work for long. The basic reasons was that she was strongly career oriented, while he wanted her career to be secondary to his. The second issue was that he wanted a traditional marriage that included a dowry. The brave heart lady was not willing to be domesticated, so she decided to end the relationship. She then met Brij Bedi at the Amritsar tennis courts who shared same interests, beliefs and goals. He was nine years elder to her. They married in 1972 in the most unique marriage ceremony of the yesteryears. Neither of them believed in religious ceremonies, or an expensive marriage ritual. Therefore they went to the Shiva temple and prayed, going around the temple seven times. Then they organized a joint reception paid from their combined earnings.

When Kiran and Brij Bedi learnt that their carers needed special attention both of them decided to lead a separate life by remaining soul companions. Both of them took delight in leading a life that reciprocates growth of an individual. When a far they took the delight in expressing their loneliness, unhappiness, and distance in the form of poetry. This kind of marital arrangement is unconventional in India even till this date. With both parental and marital support, Kiran strived to make a difference around her.

Kiran and Brij had a daughter, Saina, three years after Kiran started her career in the Indian Police Service (IPS). Saina is also involved in community service. She along with her husband Ruzbeh N. Bharucha, (a journalist by profession) produce short films and documentaries.

Her Career
When asked in an interview why did she choose career in Police she promptly replied, " For me policing is not punitive. It always stood for social welfare. But tough welfare. Where I could command welfare, I could demand welfare, and I could produce welfare."


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