Originally posted by: coolmausam
Its Easy to Nothing Inspirational untill and unless we get into a Fate of Sandhya.
Trust me dear It's equally hard for me to write when I write that there is nothing INSPIRATIONAL.Fate like Sandhya?Sans the tragedy of being tricked into marriage .Yes!!Somehow yes -I have no qualms accepting openly ,I had a fate somehow similar to hers.
- Born in a very Modern family where women are treated with respect and are taught to have free and liberal thinking
- Married into a household where women were supposed to be nothing but doormats
- Tyrannical MIL yes
- FIL more strict and orthodox where we did not even had the right to raise our eyes in his presence and could not sit on the same place where he was
- SIL yes ..
- In short a even more fearful set up than this so called TRADITIONAL family
- The only Difference I Had a VOICE my husband too
- So I know what I am writing .Who better than me ?Ain't it
Trust me just to meekly bow down to injustice in the name of being TRADITIONAL is what that bugs me.
A person mutely bearing injustice is an equal culprit..that is my problem with Sandhya.
If A Woman working does not mean she has to Forget her Responsibilities towards her Family
If a Working Woman wears embroidery sarees and jewels it does not mean she is a Typical Bahu, a minimal Look is Good to keep with as long as its not inconvenient to her.We should not Forget she is a Human she too has emotions
My problem has never been with women in serials being clad in a saree.MY PROBLEM HAS BEEN STEREOTYPING.Saree is an official dress I do wear it too...to each his own ...a person is free to wear whatever he feels like but my problem is with the glorification of Saree clad women by demeaning others who do not wear it...
Every job has its own demands,its dress code and code of conduct...
lawyers wear black coat because its the decorum of their uniform..
doctors wear white coats so that protects them from soiling inner clothings also taki thoda ganda ho toh pata chal jayein and infection does not spread..They even tie their hair so that a single baal does not fall on wounds..We cut out nails with no nail polish for hygiene reasons..
Similarly with IPS comes responsibilities and demands too..
So when all others in training academy were busy ith training why was Sandhya being portrayed as an IDEAL woman while others not.
HAIR CUTTING IS Also REQUIRED BECAUSE WHEN A REAL LIFE FIGHT OCCURS..IT IS VERY EASY TO OVERPOWER THE ENEMY BY FORCEFULLY GRIPPING HER LONG HAIR.THE SHORTER THE HAIR LESSER ARE THE CHANCES OF BEING OVERPOWERED...Why do you think army men keep their hair trimmed so that wo kisi bhi enemy k grip mein na aye..Police is not a joke...Sirf mock race lagana hi police giri nahi hoti..
Why are they making it an issue associating it with FEMINISM...BIG DEAL...JOB MILTI HAI TOH USKA DECORUM MAINTAIN KARNA HOTA HAI ...Code of conduct and grooming follow karna padta hai...FEMINISM IS NOT ASSOCIATED WITH THE LENGTH OF YOUR HAIR...Sandy is not working for a cosmetic brand or hair salon or a saree shop ..she is an IPS Officer for which she needs to follow rules of conduct..
I hate how they are portraying it as if its a war bw ADARSH BHARATIYA NARI AND HER LONG HAIR SABHYATA and how the IPS is supposed to be twisted to suit her feminism😕
She too had a Personal Life.and cant be a Professional doormat all the time Leaving her Personal Life.
I specially love this term you used.Yes Indeed there are professional Doormats too.Wish any show had the sense to cater to the 68 percent Urban population according to the census in 2013 who have careers and HIGHLIGHT the woes of being a PROFESSIONAL DOORMAT ,where careers and job givers are exploited.I wish any show had the guts to make such a show which the other half of the India could identify with.I would love to discuss it in such a show if ever such a character is etched out.
With a Husband like him,There is No wrong to Have BCT to Live Happily with her Husband,Family and doing job.
She want to make her Family Happy , like Zakir want to Acheive his Brothers aim and make his Family Happy.
Would like to slightly DISAGREE here.I AGREE people and specially a woman should have a well balanced life but IPS is not merely a JOB..It's a way of life.
Imagine if a doctor says Oh I will serve a posting in Pushkar only because I have my husband there who will serve in remote areas ??If a soldier at the border says Ahh I would not live here and should get a posting near the cosy comforts of my house then probably you and me wouldn't be able to DISCUSS this show even...
See the main point of difference in our OPINIONS is that you are probably viewing IPS as just another career but I view it as a penance and responsibility of life time.Such are NOBLE proffessions where you pledge to serve with devotion without even an iota of confusion or detachment.
I agree she is HUMAN at the end of the day but Police is an epitome of responsibility.It can be merged with other jobs where the security and safety of nation does not lie in your hands.Times will come when her tyrannical saas will pull her down ,she will again be in doldrums??
she has Different shades in her-A Daughter,a wife ,A Bahu,A Bhabi, A Working Woman
A Woman is a human like any other to have emotions and Balance all her Different Sahdes.
Who said she cannot be human ?
But she cannot put the huge responsibility as IPS just to BALANCE her life..BTW Why should she balance?Why can't she just left free to fly and give herself for her dreams without being pressurised .Isn't it too much for a lady to always weigh her and make her BALANCE Everything.
LET HER BREATHE and LIVE HER DREAM.Is this too much to ask for ??
Sandhya is Not only a Bahu also she can Sacrifise her Life to her country and a smart girl in Decoding Tricky Jobs
An Ispirtional Woman is the one who is Successful in her Professional and Personal Life
I Find her Successfull in Both areas.
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