Originally posted by: Rehanism
That's because of two reason :
1. The thread was dedicated to a different discussion and I knew it would be unwelcome if I went for an elaborate debate on the issue of Sati. I tried to keep it short yet strong.
2. I assumed that 21st century homo sapiens equipped with higher education and capable of using latest gadgets won't require it to be sat down and explained discretely why its wrong to extol death of a woman before/immediately after her husband as the highest possible merit of her life that distinguishes her as 'Maha Sati'. I believed we had evolved enough to feel nothing but repugnance towards such a thought. Apparently I was wrong. I had underestimated the power of religious and cultural indoctrination.
You are making a lot of unfair presumptions here.
Firstly, you never tried to better understand what XYZ meant
by extolling Sati. She could have been extolling the virtues of loyalty and
faith, and not exactly extolling the death before/immediately after the death
of the husband. You made a similar presumption about "saubhagyavati bhava" to
be "may your husband outlive you" rather than a more innocuous "may you never
suffer the grief of loss". You appear to have a fixed bias against people of
faith assuming every belief to be of negative connotation.
Secondly, you didn't engage in a dialogue with XYZ asking
her to extrapolate her views on Sati in terms of death. Does she actually
believe that women whose husbands die before them are unchaste or disloyal? Or
does she acknowledge that death is unpredictable? Does she actually believe
that all men who outlive their wives actually had chaste and loyal wives? Did you ask her if she believed abusive and
unfaithful husbands still required chaste loyal wives or does she acknowledge
the woman's right to leave such a man? Many people have a distinction between
what myth & faith vs practical real life applications. Believing in certain
myths doesn't always necessarily mean that people take everything literally for
practical purposes. It is important to determine what the person believes in
the most practical terms.
Finally not everyone is privileged to have the highest
education or have latest gadgets. Even those who get a better education do not
have the fortune to be exposed to a variety of ideas and a variety of cultures.
Most people are confined to the cultures and beliefs they were born in. Quality
education itself in many parts of India is not about questioning and exploring
curiosity, but an indoctrination of the syllabus. People are not taught to
reason, to extrapolate, to learn how to critically think. They are taught to
take the teacher's word and never question them on anything. They are taught
learn by rote blindly what is stated in a textbook. Religion and education are both about listening
to the elders and blindly believing the book. So how can we accuse religious
indoctrination when the basic tools that harness our sapient abilities are nonexistent.
The problem is not solely of religion but also failure of
society in general to promote knowledge. It is more the fault of the educated
who are experts at blaming the ignorant, the uneducated, the religious, but
with all their knowledge and intelligence have failed to come up with solutions
for the problems.
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