XYZ : Sati - in a broader sense- refers to all the women who are chaste, loyal and unflinchingly faithful to their husbands.
Draupadi's name occurs in the Panchakanya's list- for a different reason.
But to answer your question, Draupadi is also considered a Sati for the simple reason that she did epitomize the qualities mentioned above. She was chaste loyal and devoted to all her five husbands. When Jayadrath abducts her, the way she describes the Pandavas is so beautiful.
Yudhishthira claims that the loved Arjuna the most, but that's just his opinion. Even if we assume she did love Arjuna the most, she did so covertly- never overtly. There's not one incident in the entire MB which supports this charge on her.
In fact after Bhima rips of the divine Mani from Ashwathama's head, and presents it to Drauapdi, she gives it to Yudhishthira - not Arjuna
When Virata throws dice on Yudhishthira's cheek and he starts bleeding Drauapdi rushes to him to staunch the flow of blood, despite the fact that Yudhishthira ignored her pleas for help when tormented by Keechak.
The Drauapdi of the original MB was a noble lady.
AFAIK, her so-called relationship with Karna is contrived, convoluted and crass.
It is said that the characteristic of a Sati lady is that she does not suffer widowhood. Draupadi too didn't.
Now before everyone jumps at me pointing that Mandodari was a Sati and Ravana died before her, I would like to explain. out that for a period of twelve days after a man's death, his wife is still considered a wife. it is only after the thirteenth day ceremony is performed that she is considered a widow. If within a period of tweleve days after her husband's death, his wife too dies, she is considered to have died a suhagan.
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ME : What a disgustingly misogynistic set of criteria of 'Sati' listed in the previous page!! Especially the one about a woman not suffering widowhood and dying within 12 days of husband's death. And this epithet is supposed to be a matter of pride for women? No wonder why India is so f**ked up to the core.
I hope Draupadi is NOT a sati, because she's the only likable woman I find in entire Indian mythology. If she qualifies for that title, she's officially struck off from my mind.
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XYZ : Do loyalty, fidelity respect and honour towards one's husband come under the category of "misogynisctic" ?
No, India is not f**ked to the core because of these values.
Rather, the West is f**ked to the core because of the absence of these values.
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ME : Yes it is.
And the fact you don't understand this is the reason why India is one of the most dangerous places for women.
Spitting on those 'values' of yours would be an insult to my saliva. And I have no regret for this statement of mine. Any sane person who has read your post, anyone who has slightest regard for humanity and hopes for a more free and equal world would agree with me.
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ME : Ofcourse women were (and are) considered as properties of men. Why else is daughter called 'paraya dhan' (literally - another man's property)? Why else is husband called 'Swami' (literally - owner/master)? Master of what? A slave or a commodity! Free humans do not have masters. Why else no one among Pandavas even bothered to ask Draupadi's opinion before deciding that they all would marry her? When Karna justified Draupadi's disrobing by claiming that Draupadi was already lost when Pandavas were lost, why else couldn't knowledgeable people like Vidur and Bheeshm think of a rebuttal? Because they knew that woman is a man's property that he has now lost to another man.
But despite being treated like shit all your life, if you still consider it to be a matter of pride and the purpose of your life to lick your husband's feet incessantly, and jump into fire at his death, you are an ideal woman! That's Great Indian Kaalchaar for you.
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XYZ : We indians have the culture where women perform their duty as a daughter,wife,mother,daughter in law in a religious manner...this is what we are born with and is in our blood how much modern we become...this is the reason why we have so much of respect for our elderly people...why still infront of our parents and in laws we still bow our heads...husband in india or in western countries are karta of the family...even in christianity during marriage wife takes oath to love and care for her husband and his family and husbamd take oath of taking responsibility of fulfilling all the needs of his husband...it is not vice vrsa...in western countries too husband is a master of the family...is the head and takes all the duty...isnt it an exception when a husband is taking care of family sitting at home cooking food for his wife waiting for her in the evening and wife comes from office ask her husband to serve food for her...dear even a woman doesnot feel good to marry a man who will be dependent on her rather she will always ask for a partner whom she will feel dependent on...
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When we discuss issues like rape, bride burning, honour killing, etc we tend to see them in isolation however almost no effort is done to delve deep into this sort of deep entrenched and widely accepted culture of misogyny that breeds them.
The question is -- Isn't it our defeat that a large chunk of Indian women themselves (and that too educated ones using most modern technology) suffer from such Stockholm syndrome and consider feminists and liberals as their enemies and proudly lend their shoulders to a thoroughly sexist and abusive culture and its role-models? How does one, then, respond to arguments like **see women here have no problem with it, then what is your problem**?
PS : The purpose of the thread is not to decide who was right in this interaction. So please don't bother to elaborate on that too much. Rather focus on the culturally institutionalized misogyny and women's role in its sustenance.
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