Destruction of ego OR Sandy's journey to IPS - Page 2

Nice thought-provoking post and replies.

Thanks for reminding Udaan. Though I dont remember much of it  my mom still compares DABH to Udaan and says DABH falls flat in front of Udaan. My cousins does say Udaan did raise the aspiration level of many of them. Even my dad used to watch Udaan and talks about it.

So many excellent posts! Thank you so much for voicing your precious opinions here. I wish I could watch the old serials of the 80s and 90s.

I really hope that DABH shows again strong Sandy, the way she was during the terrorist track. Somehow I can't imagine her like that now after 1 year of trying to please Bhabo. She's become so soft, meek and obedient. She must really evolve to a new, strong Sandy-cop :D.
Otherwise the story has no sense for me.
The message of DABH has been so far that a woman can only achieve her dreams when the society/family agrees to it. And what if the family/society never agrees to it even when we know that they are wrong? Then we can only count on our open-minded husband!
It's a very pessimistic conclusion... and there must be so many girls/women out there, who are now perhaps adult and whose dreams were crushed by the family/society. They can now relive those times and emotions while watching DABH.

About Sandy's age - often when I watch Indian soaps I have an impression that girls showed there mature much later than i.e. the girls that I know or they don't mature at all sometimes, shifting from the financial/emotional protection of the parents to the protection of the husband. Perhaps most of young girls can never imagine living on their own and taking their life in their own hands? They seem to be so impotent, always relying on others, never taking their own decisions. And the chauvinism of their husbands... no matter how rude they behave with their wives, the women always cry and succumb to the mistreatment and abuse... It differs so much from the western way of thinking that I find it difficult to understand sometimes.
On the other hand I know many people in my own home-country, even in my own extended family, who have never left the maternal home or live very close by and never take major decisions without parent's approval or help. But this has serious drawbacks and not everyone is fit for this kind of life. I understand the kind of financial comfort, but it's still like living someone else's life and not really your own.

Maybe that's why Sandy is so eager for Bhabo's acceptance - she cannot become independent due to her upbringing, but then - IPS is so demanding and it requires independence, so I find it difficult to believe that Sandy's father, having inspired her to pursue IPS, would fail to make her an independent lady. Such a bold path of career requires in itself some kind of boldness or even aggression from an individual.
Therefore I'm very happy that we are going to see the 11 month training, far from the family - hopefully we're going to see again strong Sandy, her more real, self-confident self that will bloom when far from the family restrictions and fears. I can't wait and put much hope in the CVs 😃.




Edited by Mrs_Ojha - 10 years ago

@Mrs Ojha. Yes that strong Sandhya has to emerge. They have started the process with RW. Sandhya was married to Sooraj by her brother doing EA and then went on become a docile bahu to protect the sanskaar of the parents. Somewhere along the line she fell in love with her husband. But more than having a married life it is his family that she feels binded to. It is the family that is giving her the feeling of security. As long as Bhabo didnt show any affection to her she was fine, but in Singapore track Bhabo showed some affection to that orphan girl and considering her age she fell for it.

I agree with you.

It's high time for Indian telly Producers/CVs start taking into considerations mood of global audiences. It really sends out wrong message about Indian society.😒.

I humbly request to those who're unaware of Indian culture don't make up their mindset anything bad about Indian MILs on the basis whatever they show it in dramas. I'm blessed with really good MIL who take care of me more than my mother and considered me as her own daughter. India has very rich heritage culture and you'll only come to know about/experience it if you meet someone who has real knowledge about it.

@Ami you are lucky to have a good MIL, so am I. I also have an non interfering MIL.But believe me there are enough people like Bhabo in this generation also. Edited by shruthiravi - 10 years ago

@Shrutiravi:- That's what exactly my point : Not all MILs are same.DABH has a long way to go. I know Indian society is full of Bhabhos in fact Bhabho is much better than some of the MIL's  I've seen. What I want to see a stronger message. Bhabho feeling bad that had she been like Sandhya educated and working Suraj wouldn't have to leave his studies and support the family; Similarly showing Sandhya not bowing down every time and complete makeover of Ems.  Regressive thinking needs to see progressive change then only we can see a better tomorrow.😃.

Not all Indian dramas showing completely cruel and control freak MIL like Bhabho. Look @ dramas like : Meri Bhabhi, Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata hain -- They're showing more matured and open-minded side of MIL which is close to reality and I'm able to connect myself.😳.

I just wanna say don't undermine Indian culture on the basis of what you watch in the dramas. Come here, experience yourself then reach up to any conclusion. Every culture has its own pros and cons. I even say don't trust/believe whatever I've wrote here because India occupies 1/4 or 1/6 population in the world so lots of varieties exist.😊.

I apologized to ruffle feathers. Not at all intended to hurt sentiments of an ardent followers of DABH.🤔.

yaa Ami. That is needed. They should not justify Bhabo. Bhabo should be shown repenting. Till now Bhabo has no repentance. I mean the genuine. She once in a while has a guilt walk and then back to square one. Also Sandhya as Katputli in Bhabo's hand is not acceptable.