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Posted: 03 June 2014 at 3:24am | IP Logged
Originally posted by farz_parachute

I'm going to find myself a nice lady that I can tolerate and love. And marry her son.


Then I'll come and tell you all my MIL loves me so much that she got me married to her son.




I love that my heritage and culture though rich they keep me grounded too. I mean sure humanity above all. I believe in my Maker. I believe in A maker. I'm made. I didn't just exist. Humility above all. Humanity and Humility above all.


They keep us grounded.




Are your children okay? Are they confused? Do they complain of not knowing what they are?



I know not till this very day what I truly am. Sure it bothers me. Lesser now that I've coming to terms with it. But fact remains. I'm mutant.


I mean confused. I'm confused.



But look. You like me anyway.



You got a son of marriageable age? I promise I'm as cool as I sound.




Farz... you are hilarious. 

You're not mutant - just a product of diversity and love across man-made borders :-)

As for your plan? I'm with it. I met my MIL when I was fourteen, and fell in love with her son afterwards. Some days, I like her much more than I do her son. 
When she complains about "your husband", my reply is always "He was YOUR son first"

Who knows? You could be so lucky, too Wink

And I would gladly take you, except my son is only three and well, that wouldn't work LOL

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Oh surely you wouldn't mind. I'm only four. And three quarters.
But people say I don't look my age! I'm a baby.


Well. My mental is 16 I was told. And my soul 50. I'm not kidding.
My mother thinks I'm her best friend. My aunties fight with her saying she's delusional coz let's face it I'm their best friend. Kids. If only they know I'm my Nani's granddaughter.



Okay. Really...I don't like my aunties.

But they don't know that.




You met her when you're 14?


Wow.



Imma want awesome mother in law. To be best friends with.




My true best friend is my alter ego. Loves me. Hates me. Always with me. And I don't mind losing to it too. Even on days when she calls me fat. Coz she's all glamorous. And non existent.



I need a life.




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Posted: 03 June 2014 at 3:47am | IP Logged
Originally posted by farz_parachute

Oh surely you wouldn't mind. I'm only four. And three quarters.
But people say I don't look my age! I'm a baby.


Well. My mental is 16 I was told. And my soul 50. I'm not kidding.
My mother thinks I'm her best friend. My aunties fight with her saying she's delusional coz let's face it I'm their best friend. Kids. If only they know I'm my Nani's granddaughter.



Okay. Really...I don't like my aunties.

But they don't know that.




You met her when you're 14?


Wow.



Imma want awesome mother in law. To be best friends with.




My true best friend is my alter ego. Loves me. Hates me. Always with me. And I don't mind losing to it too. Even on days when she calls me fat. Coz she's all glamorous. And non existent.



I need a life.





Hahahaha!!!

You're only 4 and three quarters? I could live with that. Let's sort out the details later then LOL

Awesome MIL's - not many on this post. But guess it could happen. It's not too way out there a thought. Juliet and I have it. Why not you, too?

Yes, fourteen. She's fantastic. Like I said, I like her more than her son most days :-)

I kind of like your alter ego too. We should meet. 

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Posted: 03 June 2014 at 4:00am | IP Logged
Originally posted by farz_parachute

I'm going to find myself a nice lady that I can tolerate and love. And marry her son.


Then I'll come and tell you all my MIL loves me so much that she got me married to her son.




I love that my heritage and culture though rich they keep me grounded too. I mean sure humanity above all. I believe in my Maker. I believe in A maker. I'm made. I didn't just exist. Humility above all. Humanity and Humility above all.


They keep us grounded.




Are your children okay? Are they confused? Do they complain of not knowing what they are?



I know not till this very day what I truly am. Sure it bothers me. Lesser now that I've coming to terms with it. But fact remains. I'm mutant.


I mean confused. I'm confused.



But look. You like me anyway.



You got a son of marriageable age? I promise I'm as cool as I sound.



Farz,
 
I love my MIL and My MIL loves me.
 
When I do the Karvachaut for my husband, yes I do random things as I please but anyhow... She is the one who keeps running out in the terrace to see if the moon is out,
 
And my DIL is this super cool guy.
 
I stayed for two years with in-laws and I never had to lift a finger, she even fed me. But we still have had difference in opinion and crash of views and Silent treatment but I have had all those with my own mum too.
 
I try to remember she made sacrifices for her son, she invested years in him to raise him a gentleman. Lastly I have a brother and when he does get married I would like his wife to treat my mum with respect.
 
Yes MIL's tend to try and use culture and heritage and family/anscestory from time to time.
I like to think she wants to pass on values, my hubby thinks it is power struggle. And he is smart enough to say both are equally important and I believe him. We each have a place indispensable.
 
I love my heritage and culture too it. It is who I am, who I was raised to be but I don't like to have clogged thinking. I am open and such is the world today.
 
About you being confused, I am too.
But I don't question it anymore, once you begin to value the finer details of life. This seems ...unimportant. Does being a mutant bother. Doesn't it also mean super powers.
 
Amen on your wish, You will definitely find a lovely MIL and she will insist you get married to her son.

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Get off this thread and write that bloody update woman.LOL

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Posted: 03 June 2014 at 4:18am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Perfectionist2

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Get off this thread and write that bloody update woman.LOL

Jeez Louise!
I'm writing, I'm writing!
But this thread is so damn compelling today. And Farz is making me literally LOL :)

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Posted: 03 June 2014 at 4:23am | IP Logged
Finer details?



Finer details.


What detail?

My brother is home for few days. He said my superpower is the ability to annoy people.

I think my superpower is to charm people.


For few days I've been getting one and a half cup of tea in the evening. Just now. There was only a quarter cup.


Why do mothers favour their son over their daughters?


Papa loves my sister most.




I wish I'm jealous. But am really not. I'm number two on both list. That's quite a feat. (Sis Saima quit smiling)


My mother (and father) in law better keep me in top 3.


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Posted: 03 June 2014 at 4:31am | IP Logged
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Wow!! This topic has def stirred every married woman's heart :-) Oh those MILs...
I thought I would be the only liberal gal here but it seems like there are quite a few strong, broadminded ones and it is really great to see that. I am 50 so I find very few in that age group.

I live in the US though brought up in India (Mumbai, Goa,Gujarat,Kerala) so I have seen different Indians and I spent 10 years of my 25 year marriage in Dubai with the rest here in the US. So, I guess I have seen a mixed bag in India, more secular in the Middle East and liberal in the US. I married my college sweetheart who is a Hindu like me but I am a Brahmin and he is way down the line, as folks say.

What I have realized in my 50 years of life is that most of the major issues in this world have started and are still ongoing, for more than 1000 years in the name of religion. Every religion has it's hierarchy system (defined or undefined) and between religions, there is a clash of which is the superior one. Be it in a broad circle or in the confines of one's family, religion is a prominent issue most of the time.

Take the "religion" out of mankind and we would be in a much better world, don't you think? We would like people for who they are, marry a person who we would be happy with, work for the betterment of mankind and not for religious institutions who tend to enforce laws to abide by and so forth...

And, over and above the religions, we have wealth and status to segregate us too! Isn't it all too much for this little world we live in?

I grew up with a very religious mother who goes to temples every so often, prays for hours on end daily. On the other hand, my agnostic dad was more of a Gandhian in his ways with no touch with material things...So, I am a skeptic :-) Hubby and kids are atheists and believe in science and that's all there is.
 
Culture- what is culture? If celebrating festivals is culture then I do not do that like normal people. I don't rush to make high fat and sugar sweets for Diwali and other Hindu festivals in the name of God to only feed our bodies and ruin it. The rate of diabetes has gone so high in India that people talk of it just like having a mild digestive issue. Isn't that scary?

I like talk to my boys about festivals as a time to bond with family, sit together and do things we love. I don't believe in doing pooja annually for my dad's death anniversary. Instead, we give food to the food bank. I tell my kids that being a Hindu and being Indian means we treat people with respect, whoever they may be and we help anyone we can but not at the cost of our own family. That has to be priority otherwise one can ruin one's life if we go to the extreme in helping others.

Raising the kids to be good human beings and being good role models ourselves is all I strive for and if I see that I have done a good job, then I have done absolute justice to my culture. I may look different from my neighbor but we can embrace each other and look beyond the superficial issues that seem to bother us :-(

Guess I have ranted enough...time for another topic, I guess! 

You are FABULOUS!  

I simply love your outlook and they way you've woven your culture into your boy's lives without any kind of indoctrination.

Your broad outlook and open-mindedness is indeed inspiring!

You've certainly done justice to your culture by raising your boys the way you have. I am not saying it's right or wrong - but it is the way I aspire to be with my son. 

Great job, and I love love LOVE your comment Hug

Thanks but being like this has its cons... My mom never understands why I dont wear jewelry which is another one of those things to measure people...why I am the way I am! I collect a few enemies along as I am pretty vocal at times when people go overboard for God but totally disregard a poor destitute! Anyway, loved all the comments and enjoyed reading about everyone's lives!

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