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Originally posted by Perfectionist2

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Originally posted by Perfectionist2

<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">OH MY GOOD LORD!</font>


</div>


<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">This page has a lot of Hindus marriage to Christians.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I know Tamara is also one of us... And by us I mean... Present Mam' LOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I am a Hindu Bengali Brahmin.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He is a Catholic.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">But I have a change in story here.I married Five times unfortunately to the same man. Yeah my love story is just filmy.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Once in a Temple... Told him no Ahem Ahem business till I get my Sath Pera... He didn't want to say celibate for the rest of our married lifeLOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My laws are adorable lot but they have beliefs. Hubby not so much, he is more spiritual atheist versionConfused. So I married next in a church just to please his mum and I don't regret it. My Man scratched my back so I can at least pretend to use a loofah on his mums... I love my MIL by the way.Big smileThen court marriage, then my parents accepted and they had us married in a Bengali ritual and finally we had to register my marriage overseas so one more documented version.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">10 yrs of being with the hot ass and I don't regretone bit. Our fights are never bases on religion. </font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He comes to the temple with me, did every ritual I askhim todo,I go to church with him.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My kid has been baptized but we also did the anaprashan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I have a temple at home. But we practice no specific religion. My kid has questions a lot of them andwe patiently answer them. But overseas some of the friends follow no religion at all. So now comes another question like Vegetarianism. Goat eats grass and I eat goat so I am vegan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My hubby has a large group of Uni friends who are Muslims. And my kid is absolutely close to them to a point where we discuss with kids the similarities of every culture and religion. So get the picture, how crazy are kinds are going to be. And btw we also have two Buddhists in our friends circle.</font>









<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My point is the more we point out, complicateand segregate the more confused the future generations will be. I am in no waygoing to ever point out this religion is better than the other cos it is not. Same applies to culture and race. Why do you think there are so many issues with racism because a certain person's upbringing is to blame. If only we get past all of these issues of mundane minds, the world would be a much better place.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I will teach my kids the common selflessness and humility that every culture and religions brings along. I will teach her to be independent and drill it in her that she has a choice and her choice will be respected.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Ultimately I will know I have done my self proud as a mum.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Have you seen the movie snakes in a plane or the Survivor, Will you care which God came to save you, whichman or woman from which culture,Your eyes will hauntfor "The Human" who is going to come to a rescueeven if youchant the name of a specific god.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Believe in humanity people. And love that song - heal the world.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman">Dhanyawad! Aaj ke liya bahut ho gaya...</font>





Hey Juliet,

First I am really shocked to know that you have children Shocked

I am equally surprised to know that we are all in a same situation Smile

But here is the twist: while you can freely practice you own religion and keep a temple at home. I can't. Or I should say, I am not allowed to. If I want to go to temple, I just go sneakingly. My hubby doesn't have any problem but he doesn't want his parents to find out. My MIL lives with us..I can't practice my own religion freely in my own home.

I am sorry but this is a frustrating situation for me. Fine, they don't want our kids to follow but why me? I feel like an idiot. I married the same guy three times too. Court marriage which no one attended it except us. Got marry in a temple where his family didn't come. Got marry in the church which my family didn't attend. Three marriage with the same guy and not even one time I was whole heartedly happy :(

I never thought these things will bother me so much in future. I guess I was too blind in love    LOL

Vinita





<div>
Vinita seriously. A big hug darling..

</div>

I think it's because your MIL stays. With you.




Oh Mil's are crazy... N i get it why shud we be the ones to give up.




But does hubby know how you feel...




That is sad. You should at least be able to do that in your room.




My MiL also gets coocoo..haha. She once told me we-meaning hubby n I will be in different heavens...hahaha... i was like yeah he can stayver at mine on the weekend if Shiva allows... she got angry...




Just told hubby what is withChristianboys after Hindu girls... he went cos we are the best...N we dont know what hit us till after the marriage... haha...




Ha ha ha you just gave me a good laugh...MIL's are crazy LOL

I think our situation got worse since my MIL started living with us. Prior to that it didn't matter so much. We lived in USA and they were in India. I love my husband a lot and he's the only reason why I tolerate so much. He does understand my feeling but he is also helpless. He can't say or change his mom's views so he expects me to compromise for his sake.

By the way we just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary on May 28th. Neither mine or his family ever wishes us. But we always celebrate in our own little way Embarrassed

<div>

Aaah the MIL'sTongueLOL..my husband's entire family lives with me now...my inlaws just moved here last week...and honest to god...I want to run away...I have been fretting about it from the day I got married...I've always been clear with my hubby..that I cant share my kitchen and house...you can have two houses side by side or one over the other..but I need my space...But here they are...and its a test everyday..to hold onto my patience..and my tongue... they are such nice people...they dont bother us..so much..but boy when it comes to micro managing..people..home and situations..I am literally pulling my hair in frustrations and anger by the end of the night..I dont know how I will surviveOuch


I was so happy too when they lived back home...but now..they plan to live here for good!! god save me...and my sanity..LOL


As for hubby's...I feel for them..they are stuck between the 2...where do they go...what do they do.. They say a happy family is due to a guy that knows his jobs well..being a good husband and a good son...but then again..I guess we only stay cos we know he is trying all that he can to keep things and ppl together...rite??Embarrassedsometime though..its good if he stands up for his wife a lil more and doesnt ask so much from her... A woman that is left unnurtured...can only give so much back...its give and take after all...if a guy walks a step for you...we walk 10... and if that doesnt happen often...its upon us to nurture ourselves, defend ourselves..and stand up for what we beleive in!!!Smile


Oh dear! Tell me about it. It is very difficult to stay with In laws. My MIL is a good lady but I really miss staying by ourselves. And what frustrates me the most is that his elder brother lives 20 minutes away but she never goes to stay with them. The elder DIL doesn't treat her well so she stays with us. Oh, and and not to forget the elder DIL belongs to their community where as I am not Angry

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Posted: 02 June 2014 at 10:21am | IP Logged
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Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">OH MY GOOD LORD!</font>


</div>


<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">This page has a lot of Hindus marriage to Christians.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I know Tamara is also one of us... And by us I mean... Present Mam' LOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I am a Hindu Bengali Brahmin.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He is a Catholic.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">But I have a change in story here.I married Five times unfortunately to the same man. Yeah my love story is just filmy.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Once in a Temple... Told him no Ahem Ahem business till I get my Sath Pera... He didn't want to say celibate for the rest of our married lifeLOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My laws are adorable lot but they have beliefs. Hubby not so much, he is more spiritual atheist versionConfused. So I married next in a church just to please his mum and I don't regret it. My Man scratched my back so I can at least pretend to use a loofah on his mums... I love my MIL by the way.Big smileThen court marriage, then my parents accepted and they had us married in a Bengali ritual and finally we had to register my marriage overseas so one more documented version.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">10 yrs of being with the hot ass and I don't regretone bit. Our fights are never bases on religion. </font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He comes to the temple with me, did every ritual I askhim todo,I go to church with him.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My kid has been baptized but we also did the anaprashan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I have a temple at home. But we practice no specific religion. My kid has questions a lot of them andwe patiently answer them. But overseas some of the friends follow no religion at all. So now comes another question like Vegetarianism. Goat eats grass and I eat goat so I am vegan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My hubby has a large group of Uni friends who are Muslims. And my kid is absolutely close to them to a point where we discuss with kids the similarities of every culture and religion. So get the picture, how crazy are kinds are going to be. And btw we also have two Buddhists in our friends circle.</font>









<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My point is the more we point out, complicateand segregate the more confused the future generations will be. I am in no waygoing to ever point out this religion is better than the other cos it is not. Same applies to culture and race. Why do you think there are so many issues with racism because a certain person's upbringing is to blame. If only we get past all of these issues of mundane minds, the world would be a much better place.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I will teach my kids the common selflessness and humility that every culture and religions brings along. I will teach her to be independent and drill it in her that she has a choice and her choice will be respected.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Ultimately I will know I have done my self proud as a mum.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Have you seen the movie snakes in a plane or the Survivor, Will you care which God came to save you, whichman or woman from which culture,Your eyes will hauntfor "The Human" who is going to come to a rescueeven if youchant the name of a specific god.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Believe in humanity people. And love that song - heal the world.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman">Dhanyawad! Aaj ke liya bahut ho gaya...</font>





Hey Juliet,

First I am really shocked to know that you have children Shocked

I am equally surprised to know that we are all in a same situation Smile

But here is the twist: while you can freely practice you own religion and keep a temple at home. I can't. Or I should say, I am not allowed to. If I want to go to temple, I just go sneakingly. My hubby doesn't have any problem but he doesn't want his parents to find out. My MIL lives with us..I can't practice my own religion freely in my own home.

I am sorry but this is a frustrating situation for me. Fine, they don't want our kids to follow but why me? I feel like an idiot. I married the same guy three times too. Court marriage which no one attended it except us. Got marry in a temple where his family didn't come. Got marry in the church which my family didn't attend. Three marriage with the same guy and not even one time I was whole heartedly happy :(

I never thought these things will bother me so much in future. I guess I was too blind in love    LOL

Vinita





<div>
Vinita seriously. A big hug darling..

</div>

I think it's because your MIL stays. With you.




Oh Mil's are crazy... N i get it why shud we be the ones to give up.




But does hubby know how you feel...




That is sad. You should at least be able to do that in your room.




My MiL also gets coocoo..haha. She once told me we-meaning hubby n I will be in different heavens...hahaha... i was like yeah he can stayver at mine on the weekend if Shiva allows... she got angry...




Just told hubby what is withChristianboys after Hindu girls... he went cos we are the best...N we dont know what hit us till after the marriage... haha...




Ha ha ha you just gave me a good laugh...MIL's are crazy LOL

I think our situation got worse since my MIL started living with us. Prior to that it didn't matter so much. We lived in USA and they were in India. I love my husband a lot and he's the only reason why I tolerate so much. He does understand my feeling but he is also helpless. He can't say or change his mom's views so he expects me to compromise for his sake.

By the way we just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary on May 28th. Neither mine or his family ever wishes us. But we always celebrate in our own little way Embarrassed

<div>

Aaah the MIL'sTongueLOL..my husband's entire family lives with me now...my inlaws just moved here last week...and honest to god...I want to run away...I have been fretting about it from the day I got married...I've always been clear with my hubby..that I cant share my kitchen and house...you can have two houses side by side or one over the other..but I need my space...But here they are...and its a test everyday..to hold onto my patience..and my tongue... they are such nice people...they dont bother us..so much..but boy when it comes to micro managing..people..home and situations..I am literally pulling my hair in frustrations and anger by the end of the night..I dont know how I will surviveOuch


I was so happy too when they lived back home...but now..they plan to live here for good!! god save me...and my sanity..LOL


As for hubby's...I feel for them..they are stuck between the 2...where do they go...what do they do.. They say a happy family is due to a guy that knows his jobs well..being a good husband and a good son...but then again..I guess we only stay cos we know he is trying all that he can to keep things and ppl together...rite??Embarrassedsometime though..its good if he stands up for his wife a lil more and doesnt ask so much from her... A woman that is left unnurtured...can only give so much back...its give and take after all...if a guy walks a step for you...we walk 10... and if that doesnt happen often...its upon us to nurture ourselves, defend ourselves..and stand up for what we beleive in!!!Smile


Oh dear! Tell me about it. It is very difficult to stay with In laws. My MIL is a good lady but I really miss staying by ourselves. And what frustrates me the most is that his elder brother lives 20 minutes away but she never goes to stay with them. The elder DIL doesn't treat her well so she stays with us. Oh, and and not to forget the elder DIL belongs to their community where as I am not Angry

I feel ya gal...mine is the other way round...all my MIL's family lives in the city...and a lot of relatives and friends as well..so every day for the past week wen I go home for lunch and after work...there's someone visiting..then  u r busy serving and entertaining...forget ur own routine..u need to be a good host..and every strp of the way..ur MIL wants u to go do something...LOL...here I am a private person by nature..not so social...n Im  put in a situation where I have to be all niceDead
 Boy how I wan to move awayLOL

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Originally posted by Perfectionist2

OH MY GOOD LORD!
 
This page has a lot of Hindus marriage to Christians.
I know Tamara is also one of us... And by us I mean... Present Mam' LOL
 
I am a Hindu Bengali Brahmin.
He is a Catholic.
 
But I have a change in story here. I married Five times unfortunately to the same man. Yeah my love story is just filmy.
 
Once in a Temple... Told him no Ahem Ahem business till I get my Sath Pera... He didn't want to say celibate for the rest of our married lifeLOL
 
My laws are adorable lot but they have beliefs. Hubby not so much, he is more spiritual atheist versionConfused. So I married next in a church just to please his mum and I don't regret it. My Man scratched my back so I can at least pretend to use a loofah on his mums... I love my MIL by the way.Big smile Then court marriage, then my parents accepted and they had us married in a Bengali ritual and finally we had to register my marriage overseas so one more documented version.
 
10 yrs of being with the hot ass and I don't regret one bit. Our fights are never bases on religion.
He comes to the temple with me, did every ritual I ask him to do, I go to church with him.
 
My kid has been baptized but we also did the anaprashan.
 
I have a temple at home. But we practice no specific religion. My kid has questions a lot of them and we patiently answer them. But overseas some of the friends follow no religion at all. So now comes another question like Vegetarianism. Goat eats grass and I eat goat so I am vegan.
 
My hubby has a large group of Uni friends who are Muslims. And my kid is absolutely close to them to a point where we discuss with kids the similarities of every culture and religion. So get the picture, how crazy are kinds are going to be. And btw we also have two Buddhists in our friends circle.
 
 
My point is the more we point out, complicate and segregate the more confused the future generations will be. I am in no way going to ever point out this religion is better than the other cos it is not. Same applies to culture and race. Why do you think there are so many issues with racism because a certain person's upbringing is to blame. If only we get past all of these issues of mundane minds, the world would be a much better place.
 
I will teach my kids the common selflessness and humility that every culture and religions brings along. I will teach her to be independent and drill it in her that she has a choice and her choice will be respected.
 
Ultimately I will know I have done my self proud as a mum.
 
Have you seen the movie snakes in a plane or the Survivor, Will you care which God came to save you, which man or woman from which culture, Your eyes will haunt for "The Human" who is going to come to a rescue even if you chant the name of a specific god.
 
Believe in humanity people. And love that song - heal the world.
 
Dhanyawad! Aaj ke liya bahut ho gaya...
 


Hahaha!
I'm in shock that so many members are shocked that you're married with a child LOL

Living outside of India certainly gives a different view, along with its own challenges. But I suppose you have known both and so you see things differently too - which is a great thing.

You're fab, and I know that you'll teach your children everything they will need to know to become the firecracker you are, and the lovely, warm people that their parents are (Yes, I'm including hubby, because... as much as "I don't like you", I'm his cheerleader too ;)

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Originally posted by -StarsLinedUp-

Originally posted by vinita459

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Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">OH MY GOOD LORD!</font>


</div>


<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">This page has a lot of Hindus marriage to Christians.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I know Tamara is also one of us... And by us I mean... Present Mam' LOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I am a Hindu Bengali Brahmin.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He is a Catholic.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">But I have a change in story here.I married Five times unfortunately to the same man. Yeah my love story is just filmy.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Once in a Temple... Told him no Ahem Ahem business till I get my Sath Pera... He didn't want to say celibate for the rest of our married lifeLOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My laws are adorable lot but they have beliefs. Hubby not so much, he is more spiritual atheist versionConfused. So I married next in a church just to please his mum and I don't regret it. My Man scratched my back so I can at least pretend to use a loofah on his mums... I love my MIL by the way.Big smileThen court marriage, then my parents accepted and they had us married in a Bengali ritual and finally we had to register my marriage overseas so one more documented version.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">10 yrs of being with the hot ass and I don't regretone bit. Our fights are never bases on religion. </font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He comes to the temple with me, did every ritual I askhim todo,I go to church with him.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My kid has been baptized but we also did the anaprashan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I have a temple at home. But we practice no specific religion. My kid has questions a lot of them andwe patiently answer them. But overseas some of the friends follow no religion at all. So now comes another question like Vegetarianism. Goat eats grass and I eat goat so I am vegan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My hubby has a large group of Uni friends who are Muslims. And my kid is absolutely close to them to a point where we discuss with kids the similarities of every culture and religion. So get the picture, how crazy are kinds are going to be. And btw we also have two Buddhists in our friends circle.</font>









<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My point is the more we point out, complicateand segregate the more confused the future generations will be. I am in no waygoing to ever point out this religion is better than the other cos it is not. Same applies to culture and race. Why do you think there are so many issues with racism because a certain person's upbringing is to blame. If only we get past all of these issues of mundane minds, the world would be a much better place.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I will teach my kids the common selflessness and humility that every culture and religions brings along. I will teach her to be independent and drill it in her that she has a choice and her choice will be respected.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Ultimately I will know I have done my self proud as a mum.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Have you seen the movie snakes in a plane or the Survivor, Will you care which God came to save you, whichman or woman from which culture,Your eyes will hauntfor "The Human" who is going to come to a rescueeven if youchant the name of a specific god.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Believe in humanity people. And love that song - heal the world.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman">Dhanyawad! Aaj ke liya bahut ho gaya...</font>





Hey Juliet,

First I am really shocked to know that you have children Shocked

I am equally surprised to know that we are all in a same situation Smile

But here is the twist: while you can freely practice you own religion and keep a temple at home. I can't. Or I should say, I am not allowed to. If I want to go to temple, I just go sneakingly. My hubby doesn't have any problem but he doesn't want his parents to find out. My MIL lives with us..I can't practice my own religion freely in my own home.

I am sorry but this is a frustrating situation for me. Fine, they don't want our kids to follow but why me? I feel like an idiot. I married the same guy three times too. Court marriage which no one attended it except us. Got marry in a temple where his family didn't come. Got marry in the church which my family didn't attend. Three marriage with the same guy and not even one time I was whole heartedly happy :(

I never thought these things will bother me so much in future. I guess I was too blind in love    LOL

Vinita





<div>
Vinita seriously. A big hug darling..

</div>

I think it's because your MIL stays. With you.




Oh Mil's are crazy... N i get it why shud we be the ones to give up.




But does hubby know how you feel...




That is sad. You should at least be able to do that in your room.




My MiL also gets coocoo..haha. She once told me we-meaning hubby n I will be in different heavens...hahaha... i was like yeah he can stayver at mine on the weekend if Shiva allows... she got angry...




Just told hubby what is withChristianboys after Hindu girls... he went cos we are the best...N we dont know what hit us till after the marriage... haha...




Ha ha ha you just gave me a good laugh...MIL's are crazy LOL

I think our situation got worse since my MIL started living with us. Prior to that it didn't matter so much. We lived in USA and they were in India. I love my husband a lot and he's the only reason why I tolerate so much. He does understand my feeling but he is also helpless. He can't say or change his mom's views so he expects me to compromise for his sake.

By the way we just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary on May 28th. Neither mine or his family ever wishes us. But we always celebrate in our own little way Embarrassed

<div>

Aaah the MIL'sTongueLOL..my husband's entire family lives with me now...my inlaws just moved here last week...and honest to god...I want to run away...I have been fretting about it from the day I got married...I've always been clear with my hubby..that I cant share my kitchen and house...you can have two houses side by side or one over the other..but I need my space...But here they are...and its a test everyday..to hold onto my patience..and my tongue... they are such nice people...they dont bother us..so much..but boy when it comes to micro managing..people..home and situations..I am literally pulling my hair in frustrations and anger by the end of the night..I dont know how I will surviveOuch


I was so happy too when they lived back home...but now..they plan to live here for good!! god save me...and my sanity..LOL


As for hubby's...I feel for them..they are stuck between the 2...where do they go...what do they do.. They say a happy family is due to a guy that knows his jobs well..being a good husband and a good son...but then again..I guess we only stay cos we know he is trying all that he can to keep things and ppl together...rite??Embarrassedsometime though..its good if he stands up for his wife a lil more and doesnt ask so much from her... A woman that is left unnurtured...can only give so much back...its give and take after all...if a guy walks a step for you...we walk 10... and if that doesnt happen often...its upon us to nurture ourselves, defend ourselves..and stand up for what we beleive in!!!Smile


Oh dear! Tell me about it. It is very difficult to stay with In laws. My MIL is a good lady but I really miss staying by ourselves. And what frustrates me the most is that his elder brother lives 20 minutes away but she never goes to stay with them. The elder DIL doesn't treat her well so she stays with us. Oh, and and not to forget the elder DIL belongs to their community where as I am not Angry

I feel ya gal...mine is the other way round...all my MIL's family lives in the city...and a lot of relatives and friends as well..so every day for the past week wen I go home for lunch and after work...there's someone visiting..then  u r busy serving and entertaining...forget ur own routine..u need to be a good host..and every strp of the way..ur MIL wants u to go do something...LOL...here I am a private person by nature..not so social...n Im  put in a situation where I have to be all niceDead
 Boy how I wan to move awayLOL

This has turned into an interesting topic. 

We started off with duelling cultures and ended up lamenting our in-laws!

ROFL

But love makes it all worthwhile, doesn't it,  ladies?

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Originally posted by Tamara27

Originally posted by -StarsLinedUp-

Originally posted by vinita459

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Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">OH MY GOOD LORD!</font>


</div>


<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">This page has a lot of Hindus marriage to Christians.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I know Tamara is also one of us... And by us I mean... Present Mam' LOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I am a Hindu Bengali Brahmin.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He is a Catholic.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">But I have a change in story here.I married Five times unfortunately to the same man. Yeah my love story is just filmy.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Once in a Temple... Told him no Ahem Ahem business till I get my Sath Pera... He didn't want to say celibate for the rest of our married lifeLOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My laws are adorable lot but they have beliefs. Hubby not so much, he is more spiritual atheist versionConfused. So I married next in a church just to please his mum and I don't regret it. My Man scratched my back so I can at least pretend to use a loofah on his mums... I love my MIL by the way.Big smileThen court marriage, then my parents accepted and they had us married in a Bengali ritual and finally we had to register my marriage overseas so one more documented version.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">10 yrs of being with the hot ass and I don't regretone bit. Our fights are never bases on religion. </font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He comes to the temple with me, did every ritual I askhim todo,I go to church with him.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My kid has been baptized but we also did the anaprashan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I have a temple at home. But we practice no specific religion. My kid has questions a lot of them andwe patiently answer them. But overseas some of the friends follow no religion at all. So now comes another question like Vegetarianism. Goat eats grass and I eat goat so I am vegan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My hubby has a large group of Uni friends who are Muslims. And my kid is absolutely close to them to a point where we discuss with kids the similarities of every culture and religion. So get the picture, how crazy are kinds are going to be. And btw we also have two Buddhists in our friends circle.</font>









<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My point is the more we point out, complicateand segregate the more confused the future generations will be. I am in no waygoing to ever point out this religion is better than the other cos it is not. Same applies to culture and race. Why do you think there are so many issues with racism because a certain person's upbringing is to blame. If only we get past all of these issues of mundane minds, the world would be a much better place.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I will teach my kids the common selflessness and humility that every culture and religions brings along. I will teach her to be independent and drill it in her that she has a choice and her choice will be respected.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Ultimately I will know I have done my self proud as a mum.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Have you seen the movie snakes in a plane or the Survivor, Will you care which God came to save you, whichman or woman from which culture,Your eyes will hauntfor "The Human" who is going to come to a rescueeven if youchant the name of a specific god.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Believe in humanity people. And love that song - heal the world.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman">Dhanyawad! Aaj ke liya bahut ho gaya...</font>





Hey Juliet,

First I am really shocked to know that you have children Shocked

I am equally surprised to know that we are all in a same situation Smile

But here is the twist: while you can freely practice you own religion and keep a temple at home. I can't. Or I should say, I am not allowed to. If I want to go to temple, I just go sneakingly. My hubby doesn't have any problem but he doesn't want his parents to find out. My MIL lives with us..I can't practice my own religion freely in my own home.

I am sorry but this is a frustrating situation for me. Fine, they don't want our kids to follow but why me? I feel like an idiot. I married the same guy three times too. Court marriage which no one attended it except us. Got marry in a temple where his family didn't come. Got marry in the church which my family didn't attend. Three marriage with the same guy and not even one time I was whole heartedly happy :(

I never thought these things will bother me so much in future. I guess I was too blind in love    LOL

Vinita





<div>
Vinita seriously. A big hug darling..

</div>

I think it's because your MIL stays. With you.




Oh Mil's are crazy... N i get it why shud we be the ones to give up.




But does hubby know how you feel...




That is sad. You should at least be able to do that in your room.




My MiL also gets coocoo..haha. She once told me we-meaning hubby n I will be in different heavens...hahaha... i was like yeah he can stayver at mine on the weekend if Shiva allows... she got angry...




Just told hubby what is withChristianboys after Hindu girls... he went cos we are the best...N we dont know what hit us till after the marriage... haha...




Ha ha ha you just gave me a good laugh...MIL's are crazy LOL

I think our situation got worse since my MIL started living with us. Prior to that it didn't matter so much. We lived in USA and they were in India. I love my husband a lot and he's the only reason why I tolerate so much. He does understand my feeling but he is also helpless. He can't say or change his mom's views so he expects me to compromise for his sake.

By the way we just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary on May 28th. Neither mine or his family ever wishes us. But we always celebrate in our own little way Embarrassed

<div>

Aaah the MIL'sTongueLOL..my husband's entire family lives with me now...my inlaws just moved here last week...and honest to god...I want to run away...I have been fretting about it from the day I got married...I've always been clear with my hubby..that I cant share my kitchen and house...you can have two houses side by side or one over the other..but I need my space...But here they are...and its a test everyday..to hold onto my patience..and my tongue... they are such nice people...they dont bother us..so much..but boy when it comes to micro managing..people..home and situations..I am literally pulling my hair in frustrations and anger by the end of the night..I dont know how I will surviveOuch

</div>
I was so happy too when they lived back home...but now..they plan to live here for good!! god save me...and my sanity..LOL


As for hubby's...I feel for them..they are stuck between the 2...where do they go...what do they do.. They say a happy family is due to a guy that knows his jobs well..being a good husband and a good son...but then again..I guess we only stay cos we know he is trying all that he can to keep things and ppl together...rite??Embarrassedsometime though..its good if he stands up for his wife a lil more and doesnt ask so much from her... A woman that is left unnurtured...can only give so much back...its give and take after all...if a guy walks a step for you...we walk 10... and if that doesnt happen often...its upon us to nurture ourselves, defend ourselves..and stand up for what we beleive in!!!Smile


Oh dear! Tell me about it. It is very difficult to stay with In laws. My MIL is a good lady but I really miss staying by ourselves. And what frustrates me the most is that his elder brother lives 20 minutes away but she never goes to stay with them. The elder DIL doesn't treat her well so she stays with us. Oh, and and not to forget the elder DIL belongs to their community where as I am not Angry

<div>
I feel ya gal...mine is the other way round...all my MIL's family lives in the city...and a lot of relatives and friends as well..so every day for the past week wen I go home for lunch and after work...there's someone visiting..then u r busy serving and entertaining...forget ur own routine..u need to be a good host..and every strp of the way..ur MIL wants u to go do something...LOL...here I am a private person by nature..not so social...n Im put in a situation where I have to be all niceDead
Boy how I wan to move awayLOL

This has turned into an interesting topic.

We started off with duelling cultures and ended up lamenting our in-laws!

ROFL

But love makes it all worthwhile, doesn't it, ladies?


Ha ha ha that's what I was thinking. The topic started with dual heritage but ended on MIL's LOL

Yes, love makes it worthwhile. But sometimes I just want to take all my frustration out LOL

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It was bound to happen...we fall in love...we dont know what we are in store for,,...hail the guys family...we dont know what to expect...and soon..if we are not the lucky few whose inlaws are better than their parents end up...wondering how the hell did I get into this?? Cutural upbringing, even if its within the same country and religion are still something that takes a toll on an adult wanting to start a new realtionship...imagine how hard can that get if the religions..heritages and ethnicities are different...and then it adds on once the kids come into the picture..I wouldnt know cos I have none..but I will soon enough...and I feel its gonna start from the rituals..to the name and how to raise them..thankfully I am a stubborn gal...I dont comply unless it makes sense...wow...thats gonna be a fun part of my lifeSilly
PS...Atleast in an arranged marriage we know what we are getting into..we meet our inlaws simaltaneously to our hubby to be...and we have some time in between to work things out before we actually get to live with them...
For me...I met them when they came here...almost 2 years into our relationship...they wanted to meet my dad to reject me..even before meeting me...on the basis of a lot of things...culture being a minor part...and from that day till my marriage..i had aprx 6 months...so that's how my inlaws came into picture..a beautiful..positive start..LOL


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Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Tamara27

Originally posted by -StarsLinedUp-

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by -StarsLinedUp-

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">OH MY GOOD LORD!</font>


</div>


<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">This page has a lot of Hindus marriage to Christians.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I know Tamara is also one of us... And by us I mean... Present Mam' LOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I am a Hindu Bengali Brahmin.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He is a Catholic.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">But I have a change in story here.I married Five times unfortunately to the same man. Yeah my love story is just filmy.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Once in a Temple... Told him no Ahem Ahem business till I get my Sath Pera... He didn't want to say celibate for the rest of our married lifeLOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My laws are adorable lot but they have beliefs. Hubby not so much, he is more spiritual atheist versionConfused. So I married next in a church just to please his mum and I don't regret it. My Man scratched my back so I can at least pretend to use a loofah on his mums... I love my MIL by the way.Big smileThen court marriage, then my parents accepted and they had us married in a Bengali ritual and finally we had to register my marriage overseas so one more documented version.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">10 yrs of being with the hot ass and I don't regretone bit. Our fights are never bases on religion. </font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He comes to the temple with me, did every ritual I askhim todo,I go to church with him.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My kid has been baptized but we also did the anaprashan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I have a temple at home. But we practice no specific religion. My kid has questions a lot of them andwe patiently answer them. But overseas some of the friends follow no religion at all. So now comes another question like Vegetarianism. Goat eats grass and I eat goat so I am vegan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My hubby has a large group of Uni friends who are Muslims. And my kid is absolutely close to them to a point where we discuss with kids the similarities of every culture and religion. So get the picture, how crazy are kinds are going to be. And btw we also have two Buddhists in our friends circle.</font>









<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My point is the more we point out, complicateand segregate the more confused the future generations will be. I am in no waygoing to ever point out this religion is better than the other cos it is not. Same applies to culture and race. Why do you think there are so many issues with racism because a certain person's upbringing is to blame. If only we get past all of these issues of mundane minds, the world would be a much better place.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I will teach my kids the common selflessness and humility that every culture and religions brings along. I will teach her to be independent and drill it in her that she has a choice and her choice will be respected.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Ultimately I will know I have done my self proud as a mum.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Have you seen the movie snakes in a plane or the Survivor, Will you care which God came to save you, whichman or woman from which culture,Your eyes will hauntfor "The Human" who is going to come to a rescueeven if youchant the name of a specific god.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Believe in humanity people. And love that song - heal the world.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman">Dhanyawad! Aaj ke liya bahut ho gaya...</font>





Hey Juliet,

First I am really shocked to know that you have children Shocked

I am equally surprised to know that we are all in a same situation Smile

But here is the twist: while you can freely practice you own religion and keep a temple at home. I can't. Or I should say, I am not allowed to. If I want to go to temple, I just go sneakingly. My hubby doesn't have any problem but he doesn't want his parents to find out. My MIL lives with us..I can't practice my own religion freely in my own home.

I am sorry but this is a frustrating situation for me. Fine, they don't want our kids to follow but why me? I feel like an idiot. I married the same guy three times too. Court marriage which no one attended it except us. Got marry in a temple where his family didn't come. Got marry in the church which my family didn't attend. Three marriage with the same guy and not even one time I was whole heartedly happy :(

I never thought these things will bother me so much in future. I guess I was too blind in love    LOL

Vinita





<div>
Vinita seriously. A big hug darling..

</div>

I think it's because your MIL stays. With you.




Oh Mil's are crazy... N i get it why shud we be the ones to give up.




But does hubby know how you feel...




That is sad. You should at least be able to do that in your room.




My MiL also gets coocoo..haha. She once told me we-meaning hubby n I will be in different heavens...hahaha... i was like yeah he can stayver at mine on the weekend if Shiva allows... she got angry...




Just told hubby what is withChristianboys after Hindu girls... he went cos we are the best...N we dont know what hit us till after the marriage... haha...




Ha ha ha you just gave me a good laugh...MIL's are crazy LOL

I think our situation got worse since my MIL started living with us. Prior to that it didn't matter so much. We lived in USA and they were in India. I love my husband a lot and he's the only reason why I tolerate so much. He does understand my feeling but he is also helpless. He can't say or change his mom's views so he expects me to compromise for his sake.

By the way we just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary on May 28th. Neither mine or his family ever wishes us. But we always celebrate in our own little way Embarrassed

<div>

Aaah the MIL'sTongueLOL..my husband's entire family lives with me now...my inlaws just moved here last week...and honest to god...I want to run away...I have been fretting about it from the day I got married...I've always been clear with my hubby..that I cant share my kitchen and house...you can have two houses side by side or one over the other..but I need my space...But here they are...and its a test everyday..to hold onto my patience..and my tongue... they are such nice people...they dont bother us..so much..but boy when it comes to micro managing..people..home and situations..I am literally pulling my hair in frustrations and anger by the end of the night..I dont know how I will surviveOuch

</div>
I was so happy too when they lived back home...but now..they plan to live here for good!! god save me...and my sanity..LOL


As for hubby's...I feel for them..they are stuck between the 2...where do they go...what do they do.. They say a happy family is due to a guy that knows his jobs well..being a good husband and a good son...but then again..I guess we only stay cos we know he is trying all that he can to keep things and ppl together...rite??Embarrassedsometime though..its good if he stands up for his wife a lil more and doesnt ask so much from her... A woman that is left unnurtured...can only give so much back...its give and take after all...if a guy walks a step for you...we walk 10... and if that doesnt happen often...its upon us to nurture ourselves, defend ourselves..and stand up for what we beleive in!!!Smile


Oh dear! Tell me about it. It is very difficult to stay with In laws. My MIL is a good lady but I really miss staying by ourselves. And what frustrates me the most is that his elder brother lives 20 minutes away but she never goes to stay with them. The elder DIL doesn't treat her well so she stays with us. Oh, and and not to forget the elder DIL belongs to their community where as I am not Angry

<div>
I feel ya gal...mine is the other way round...all my MIL's family lives in the city...and a lot of relatives and friends as well..so every day for the past week wen I go home for lunch and after work...there's someone visiting..then u r busy serving and entertaining...forget ur own routine..u need to be a good host..and every strp of the way..ur MIL wants u to go do something...LOL...here I am a private person by nature..not so social...n Im put in a situation where I have to be all niceDead
Boy how I wan to move awayLOL

This has turned into an interesting topic.

We started off with duelling cultures and ended up lamenting our in-laws!

ROFL

But love makes it all worthwhile, doesn't it, ladies?


Ha ha ha that's what I was thinking. The topic started with dual heritage but ended on MIL's LOL

Yes, love makes it worthwhile. But sometimes I just want to take all my frustration out LOL

Seems here is the place to do so, Vinita ;)

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Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Tamara27

Originally posted by -StarsLinedUp-

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by -StarsLinedUp-

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

Originally posted by vinita459

Originally posted by Perfectionist2

<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">OH MY GOOD LORD!</font>


</div>


<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">This page has a lot of Hindus marriage to Christians.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I know Tamara is also one of us... And by us I mean... Present Mam' LOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I am a Hindu Bengali Brahmin.</font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He is a Catholic.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">But I have a change in story here.I married Five times unfortunately to the same man. Yeah my love story is just filmy.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Once in a Temple... Told him no Ahem Ahem business till I get my Sath Pera... He didn't want to say celibate for the rest of our married lifeLOL</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My laws are adorable lot but they have beliefs. Hubby not so much, he is more spiritual atheist versionConfused. So I married next in a church just to please his mum and I don't regret it. My Man scratched my back so I can at least pretend to use a loofah on his mums... I love my MIL by the way.Big smileThen court marriage, then my parents accepted and they had us married in a Bengali ritual and finally we had to register my marriage overseas so one more documented version.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">10 yrs of being with the hot ass and I don't regretone bit. Our fights are never bases on religion. </font>



<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">He comes to the temple with me, did every ritual I askhim todo,I go to church with him.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My kid has been baptized but we also did the anaprashan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I have a temple at home. But we practice no specific religion. My kid has questions a lot of them andwe patiently answer them. But overseas some of the friends follow no religion at all. So now comes another question like Vegetarianism. Goat eats grass and I eat goat so I am vegan.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My hubby has a large group of Uni friends who are Muslims. And my kid is absolutely close to them to a point where we discuss with kids the similarities of every culture and religion. So get the picture, how crazy are kinds are going to be. And btw we also have two Buddhists in our friends circle.</font>









<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">My point is the more we point out, complicateand segregate the more confused the future generations will be. I am in no waygoing to ever point out this religion is better than the other cos it is not. Same applies to culture and race. Why do you think there are so many issues with racism because a certain person's upbringing is to blame. If only we get past all of these issues of mundane minds, the world would be a much better place.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">I will teach my kids the common selflessness and humility that every culture and religions brings along. I will teach her to be independent and drill it in her that she has a choice and her choice will be respected.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Ultimately I will know I have done my self proud as a mum.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Have you seen the movie snakes in a plane or the Survivor, Will you care which God came to save you, whichman or woman from which culture,Your eyes will hauntfor "The Human" who is going to come to a rescueeven if youchant the name of a specific god.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman, Times, serif">Believe in humanity people. And love that song - heal the world.</font>






<font size="4" face="Times New Roman">Dhanyawad! Aaj ke liya bahut ho gaya...</font>





Hey Juliet,

First I am really shocked to know that you have children Shocked

I am equally surprised to know that we are all in a same situation Smile

But here is the twist: while you can freely practice you own religion and keep a temple at home. I can't. Or I should say, I am not allowed to. If I want to go to temple, I just go sneakingly. My hubby doesn't have any problem but he doesn't want his parents to find out. My MIL lives with us..I can't practice my own religion freely in my own home.

I am sorry but this is a frustrating situation for me. Fine, they don't want our kids to follow but why me? I feel like an idiot. I married the same guy three times too. Court marriage which no one attended it except us. Got marry in a temple where his family didn't come. Got marry in the church which my family didn't attend. Three marriage with the same guy and not even one time I was whole heartedly happy :(

I never thought these things will bother me so much in future. I guess I was too blind in love    LOL

Vinita





<div>
Vinita seriously. A big hug darling..

</div>

I think it's because your MIL stays. With you.




Oh Mil's are crazy... N i get it why shud we be the ones to give up.




But does hubby know how you feel...




That is sad. You should at least be able to do that in your room.




My MiL also gets coocoo..haha. She once told me we-meaning hubby n I will be in different heavens...hahaha... i was like yeah he can stayver at mine on the weekend if Shiva allows... she got angry...




Just told hubby what is withChristianboys after Hindu girls... he went cos we are the best...N we dont know what hit us till after the marriage... haha...




Ha ha ha you just gave me a good laugh...MIL's are crazy LOL

I think our situation got worse since my MIL started living with us. Prior to that it didn't matter so much. We lived in USA and they were in India. I love my husband a lot and he's the only reason why I tolerate so much. He does understand my feeling but he is also helpless. He can't say or change his mom's views so he expects me to compromise for his sake.

By the way we just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary on May 28th. Neither mine or his family ever wishes us. But we always celebrate in our own little way Embarrassed

<div>

Aaah the MIL'sTongueLOL..my husband's entire family lives with me now...my inlaws just moved here last week...and honest to god...I want to run away...I have been fretting about it from the day I got married...I've always been clear with my hubby..that I cant share my kitchen and house...you can have two houses side by side or one over the other..but I need my space...But here they are...and its a test everyday..to hold onto my patience..and my tongue... they are such nice people...they dont bother us..so much..but boy when it comes to micro managing..people..home and situations..I am literally pulling my hair in frustrations and anger by the end of the night..I dont know how I will surviveOuch

</div>
I was so happy too when they lived back home...but now..they plan to live here for good!! god save me...and my sanity..LOL


As for hubby's...I feel for them..they are stuck between the 2...where do they go...what do they do.. They say a happy family is due to a guy that knows his jobs well..being a good husband and a good son...but then again..I guess we only stay cos we know he is trying all that he can to keep things and ppl together...rite??Embarrassedsometime though..its good if he stands up for his wife a lil more and doesnt ask so much from her... A woman that is left unnurtured...can only give so much back...its give and take after all...if a guy walks a step for you...we walk 10... and if that doesnt happen often...its upon us to nurture ourselves, defend ourselves..and stand up for what we beleive in!!!Smile


Oh dear! Tell me about it. It is very difficult to stay with In laws. My MIL is a good lady but I really miss staying by ourselves. And what frustrates me the most is that his elder brother lives 20 minutes away but she never goes to stay with them. The elder DIL doesn't treat her well so she stays with us. Oh, and and not to forget the elder DIL belongs to their community where as I am not Angry

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I feel ya gal...mine is the other way round...all my MIL's family lives in the city...and a lot of relatives and friends as well..so every day for the past week wen I go home for lunch and after work...there's someone visiting..then u r busy serving and entertaining...forget ur own routine..u need to be a good host..and every strp of the way..ur MIL wants u to go do something...LOL...here I am a private person by nature..not so social...n Im put in a situation where I have to be all niceDead
Boy how I wan to move awayLOL

This has turned into an interesting topic.

We started off with duelling cultures and ended up lamenting our in-laws!

ROFL

But love makes it all worthwhile, doesn't it, ladies?


Ha ha ha that's what I was thinking. The topic started with dual heritage but ended on MIL's LOL

Yes, love makes it worthwhile. But sometimes I just want to take all my frustration out LOL

well they are kind of connected... our Indian cultures do show some importance to these things too.. 

When I was in India I used to stay with them only... I never knew I'll have such strong disliking towards my MIL after 2 months of my wedding... 
and worst I don't feel close enough to even say anything to her.. Ermm.. When I used to stay there.. She made me feel like a guest.. 'Don't touch this', 'I don't prefer doing things like', all crap like that.. Angry

Basically no freedom to do as I please in "my so called own house"..
I feel better when I'm here... praying to god our extension of visa works out.. LOLWink

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