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Posted: 01 June 2014 at 10:11pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by Perfectionist2

Originally posted by farz_parachute

Celebrating dual (or multiple in my case) heritage is most definitely the best option...Be proud and mutant. Eh sorry that's for X-Men. I mean be proud and happy of the heritage you carry with you.


Yes.



There is a but.



What about identity crisis. If you have to be just one, which are you? If you have to pick one, which culture? What about friends? Do you lose your identity when you're not friends with like-cultured people? What if there isn't any to be friends with? What if there are, but they've adopted a different lifestyle than yours?

And what if mixing with people with different heritage causes you to lose yours? Maybe lose is too strong a term...but you're no longer familiar to it...


Religion plays an important role yes, but what about identity. Is it one and the same? Can we adopt some aspect of it from one and leave the rest...and adopt some other in the other



And and and. I should sleep.


I love you Mummy dearest! All. All culture and heritage thankfully share some common aspect. Mummy is everything hoga! (sorry Papa)



Heritage. Hmm.


Yes am a victim (a product?) of such crisis (celebration)!


-ConfusedGal


Farz.
I love anything n every thing you write. X men- haha!

I am a victim n also a perpetrator ( if that is the word). Lol! But I have never had an ounce of regret for who I am and whom I am forced to become.

I follow spirituality n humanity as my religion. I intend to teach my kids just that. Willingness to adapt n give them a
Regulated indepence to choose from a very young age.


I have not partiscipated in the discussion of this thread due to my lack of time. But hopefully I shall drop in to stir things
Here. Love all the mummies.

Haven't read every comment but this is definitely an interesting thread.


:)

Hmmm. That does put me a little in perspective.


I know I don't regret my heritage.


Though I have to admit it gets very difficult when even within the family there's richness in culture (remember my multiple heritage? I'm not talking just two here) and you're exposed to one more than the other...yet there's this strange, lingering attachment to the others. Note the plural.

Juliet till next time!


Hugs.



I need to watch TV (another heritage we all share)

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Posted: 01 June 2014 at 10:20pm | IP Logged
hmm.. i only have one .. in each to follow...

but my surroundings... bring me more ..

interesting topic... waiting to read more comment..

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Heritage is what you inherit. But dual heritage is the fact of having parents from different ethnic or cultural backgrounds.

Dual Heritage Children may find adolescence a more difficult time than their mono racial counterparts due to their feelings that they have been discriminated against because of their race and that in larger society their ethnic group is discriminated against. They may also have problems in developing a strong ethnic identity. Low ethnic identification and perceived discrimination are related to a number of factors including low self esteem, delinquent behaviors, and low academic achievements. Some of these negative effects can be avoided if there is strong parental and family support.

Our children are not necesarily expected to adopt either of our backgrounds unless they want to know, but what is more important is that they have as much knowledge and opportunity as we can give them to find the answers and be part of something if they need to.

Love,

Vinita

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Posted: 01 June 2014 at 11:16pm | IP Logged
Amazing topic which is of great importance in today's global village.There are three aspects to this not two- Heritage, Dual Heritage and Environmental Heritage each one having a great influence on an individual. This topic is of great interest to me personally so I am going to come back to bore you with my thoughts later in the day!
Super Saima and Vinita!

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Posted: 02 June 2014 at 1:13am | IP Logged
awesome topic di looking forward to read more comment and get know better about it

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Sis, Vinita that's a brilliant topic. I totally relate to it not because I come from a dual heritage but because my son will be one.

Sis knows am married to the man I loved, ignoring the fact that he was from a different culture altogether. He's a Christian and I am a Hindu. When we fell in love the last thing on our minds was what culture or religion our children would follow.

But after we had the addition to our little family there were a lot of insecurities that my husband and his family had regarding what religion the little one would be taught. This definitely was an initial hiccup as they belong to a minority in India and I come from a major religious group, hence the insecurities. All settled soon as he was the first child in the family and brought so much happiness to all of us. But what my point is that it's not just the child that feels lost sometimes not understanding what he/she is supposed to follow but parents also feel the same. Both want to teach the child their respective cultures.

My son has been baptized so he can follow his father's religion (I have no issues with that) but we have not kept him away from the fact that his mother follows a different religion. He is well aware about the difference in both the cultures and their practices.

The question that Sis asked "How much does having a dual heritage affect ones identity, self-definition and ones understanding of ethnicities and cultures within a diverse World?" I don't have an answer to how much it will affect ones identity or self definition because I have not experienced it, but what I know is that if the child is taught well about both the religions and cultures, then he is definitely going to be a stronger person, understanding different cultures and would be more tolerant too. In the country where I live, where practically every state follows a different culture, it becomes very important that people develop that respect and tolerance for other religions and cultures. This can only happen when families like mine teach the child about both the cultures with an open mind.

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Posted: 02 June 2014 at 3:28am | IP Logged
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Originally posted by kals82

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ofcourse the parents should keep a check on it...

as most of them said ... the plus and minus should be clearly said to them...

having said... i really think even Tv should be monitored...

yday... my 7 year old son.. told me... was shocking..

i asked him will he join painting class...

he said that is for girls..

then waht is for boys...

he said love... good looking girls... imagine seven year old saying that...

that too who watches only cartoons...
even hatori.. and doreman.. have a girl lead.. who the boy is trying to impress...

as a parent.. we should somehow find time to spend.. with them.. irrespective of busy life...

would love to have topic... on how to spend more effective time.. and also curb the TV...

awesome topic...





oh god kalyani...what did u do then??Shocked
i also watch kid's cartoons...doraemon, shinchan and hatori...they surely have a lead and his heroine...even the toon films portray all sort of adult situations...like smooching and passionate hugs...


i just diverted him for time being...

actually we both we out.. for him to learn cycling..

the more time i spend with him... i relaised he is grwoing superfast...

right now the plan is curb as much tv possible..

but in vacation.. no other hang out for them..

but planned to spend most of the time at home.. only with him...

but man.. the time constraint... personal.. tiredness.. and laziness...

but has to do something...


nice move Clap but still u can't keep him outside always...
besides the most disastrous thing is school n their friends... Dead

can u believe that my 4 years old cousin sis wanted to keep the frock we'd bought for her, to wear it on her birthday...so that a boy in her class will appreciate her...as he liked that color Ouch ab main usse kya kahun ??! Confused

its a serious threat to parents ,

In between cartoons too they show all types of adult things

Its in tom & jerry tooOuch

And advertisement ki baat naa hi kiya tho acha hota hai

Yeh cartoon channel ki ad mein bhi kissing & huggings hoti hai

And bacho ko tho yeh unke dimag mein feed hoti hai aur baad mein yeh unki characterisation ko affect karte hai

In my home here is no tv

My kids watching cartoons from lap

That too with me

I didnt allow them to see it alone

And i divert thr attention to reading good stories & art books

And developing interests in arts is a good way of diversion & they will enjoy it too

And some indoor games too like carams,chess,or playing cards etc

Thats the way get their attention from these issues

Pls dont give them mbl or laps alone

I dont give my mbl to kid for playin games too

And  dont allow them to use internet without our attention.

We parents are the one responsible for most of their bad characters

We can try to make them understand the problems.

They will understood us.Thodi patience chahiye aur bahut saara pyaar bhi




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Posted: 02 June 2014 at 3:38am | IP Logged
Originally posted by LoveOnlyAsYa


Sis, Vinita that's a brilliant topic. I totally relate to it
not because I come from a dual heritage but because my son will be one.



Sis knows am married to the man I loved, ignoring the fact that he was from a
different culture altogether. He's a Christian and I am a Hindu. When we fell
in love the last thing on our minds was what culture or religion our children
would follow.



But after we had the addition to our little family there were a lot of
insecurities that my husband and his family had regarding what religion the
little one would be taught. This definitely was an initial hiccup as they
belong to a minority in India and I come from a major religious group, hence
the insecurities. All settled soon as he was the first child in the family and brought
so much happiness to all of us. But what my point is that it's not just the
child that feels lost sometimes not understanding what he/she is supposed to
follow but parents also feel the same. Both want to teach the child their
respective cultures.



My son has been baptized so he can follow his father's religion (I have no
issues with that) but we have not kept him away from the fact that his mother
follows a different religion. He is well aware about the difference in both the
cultures and their practices.



The question that Sis asked "How much does having a dual heritage
affect ones identity, self-definition and ones understanding of ethnicities and
cultures within a diverse World?
" I don't have an answer to how
much it will affect ones identity or self definition because I have not
experienced it, but what I know is that if the child is taught well about both
the religions and cultures, then he is definitely going to be a stronger person,
understanding different cultures and would be more tolerant too. In the country
where I live, where practically every state follows a different culture, it
becomes very important that people develop that respect and tolerance for other
religions and cultures. This can only happen when families like mine teach the
child about both the cultures with an open mind.




For a second I thought I was reading my own life story LOL
I am in exactly the sane situation as you are. I am a Hindu. My husband is Christian. We had love marriage. His parents had lot of problem with our marriage. At last. I had to convert to Christianity in order for he to get marry.

Of course our children follows Christianity, but my kids have no knowledge about Hinduism. I am not allowed to teach them or practice my self. You have no idea how much bothered I get with all these things.

Before marriage I never thought about these issues? Sometimes I seriously wonder "was it all worth it?"

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