Once again...another brilliant topic!!!!
DOWRY... i believe is the beginning of different problems that comes in any marriage...and often gives rise to problems after the marriage...
if a girl's family is unable to meet the demands of the groom's family, the bride is insulted and then Domestic Violence comes into action!!!
again... if the woman fails to give them a son, then the things get worse... they start saving money for the new born daughter's wedding.. or, the woman is just thrown out of the house along with her daughter...
it's difficult to say, where the root exactly lies... i believe it's in a person's brain!!!
it's difficult to cut out the root from the minds of millions and millions of people!!!!
i was in my second year of college... and we were asked to make a presentation on any non-technical topic...
i chose 'Crimes against Women', which i believe is something that needs our attention...
i mentioned several topics like Female Foeticide, Child Marriage, Domestic Violence and definitely DOWRY of course!!!!
i mentioned several incidents related to it...where the girls were even tortured to death...
i was going fine with the presentation... but then i noticed some changes in some boys... they were going restless and some of them just shook their heads...
i got a round of applause from 70% people of the hall, but 10% just looked up with a half-hearted smile and the rest 20% people just looked away..and their faces clearly said that they didn't agree to it!!! they were also ready to create a chaos in the middle of the presentation!!
our mentor asked them what was the problem about... THEY DISAGREED TO WHATEVER I SAID!!!!
on asking them their POV, one guy said :" ladki ko layenge, itne din rakhenge, khilayenge, pilayenge, toh uske maa baap se paisa nahi lenge kya??"
(not mentioning his religion/culture/state)
i was left shocked!!! Being this new generation, who are all set to get married in the next 4-5 years were having such mentality!!!
they have inherited it from their family tradition! and they are still not able to come out of it...
another instance,
my friend is getting married in two months...
we had always discussed about these things and had also decided to not give in to the demands of our future in laws, if they have any...
my friend is having an arranged marriage, and her in laws demanded Nothing!!!
yet, her parents are taking a loan of a HUGE amount...
i asked her the reason for it...
she said-- we have to do it... even if they are not asking for it...
and that's true again... the groom's family is not asking for anything directly.. but they have expectations, which are quite HIGH!!!!!
my question is, where did her resolve go now???
where did those thoughts vanish now, which were against the culture of Dowry even a year ago???
it's the responsibility of the younger generation to say NO to it.. and parents should also be well aware of the fact that, if once they give in, their daughter might get the love for a day or two... but in this way they are just fanning their demands..!!
the solution lies within US... we were the ones to start this, and we can only stop it...
in well cultured families, no direct Dowry demands takes place, but all of this still happens in the name of the daughter's happiness...
Edited by BeYourself - 9 years ago
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