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Gulaabo
Gulaabo @Gulaabo IF-Sizzlerz Inactive
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Posted: 9 years ago
Yes u r absolutely right...
I want to share one incident that happened with my friend at the time when we were in class 7. My friend tanaya was a very extrovert person. She easily talked to people who were complete strangers. At that time orkut was very popular. She added her pics...that way a boy (that's what he told us) started chatting with her...who said that he lived in USA. After many weeks of chatting, he started telling her that he's in love with her n wants to meet her on his next trip to india. She wasreally tense and her behaviour showed that...she became extremely irritable and on much coaxing she told me the reason. She gave me her id n pwd and that day i realised what a sherni i am!! Lol...
I gave him an earful...i behaved like an adult and implied that someone close to me is in police department. Poor guy, he was scared.
Then we somehow blocked his account and from that day i never looked back to that awful site.
Now also, i am on fb but i really befriend those whom i know personally. I even keep a check on my little brother's account and advise him to do the same.
I think putting parental control is not a solution because kids these days are even smarter than their parents...they could easily find out a solution. The only solution according to me is that elders talk about the merits and demerits of internet and social networks.  They must be warned about the threats loitering over there and so much trust should be between the parents n kids that if something wrong is happening, the kid could easily share their fears...

Really a worthy topic didis...waiting to read more of views.
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raneeb
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Posted: 9 years ago
Sorry forgot I had this page open!

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BeYourself
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Posted: 9 years ago
Saima Di and Vinita Di...  

the topic for this week is absolutely awesome..👏

i would like to share my opinion on it...

I am 22 now.. and have been a part of many Social Networking Sites since i was 13...i did change my age at that time and created an account, just like every other girl of my age had done...

i had talked about it with my mom, and she was the person to guide me and fill me in with all the pros and cons of being a part of a SNS... 

everything was unknown to me at that time, and i myself had a fear of making my life so public.. hence,  i had no pictures of my own, and did not accept any friend req from any unknown person...

i don't accept it even now...

So... ya.. my mom played a big role in teaching me my limits... and that was possible because she had always given me the liberty to choose my own way.. She became my best friend and adapted  herself according to me...

The word 'Generation Gap' had never existed between us... it doesn't exist even now...
She tries to understand me a little and i too do the same 😛

So... all this was never a problem for me...

And ya... don't think that my mom interfered in every move of mine when i used to be a kid 😆
I have mostly stayed alone till now.. 😆

She gave me my space, yet guided me through out 
And she does the same even now 😳

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vinita459
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Posted: 9 years ago
Originally posted by Saima-Syed




Thank you so much Rivs, that's exactly what we did want an essay lol

I totally agree with you. As parents the onus is on us and it's a shame that we don't exercise our powers as parents to stop or monitor what goes on, and like you said it is either through negligence or because parents don't know how to.

Things that really scare me are and I have come across in my own line of work with young people are issues like cyber bullying, grooming of young girls by sick men, accessing mature content and misusing it and creating groups that attract vulnerable young people who end up making suicide pacts.

Cyber world is as real and as dangerous as the real one we live in.

Yes the key is open communication with our children and other parents, something that we need to encourage more of

Thank you for sharing your views

😊


Thank you so much Rivs for sharing your views with us. I absolutely agree to everything you have said. Especially, "the key is open communication with our children and other parents, something that we need to encourage more of".
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vinita459
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Posted: 9 years ago
Originally posted by rajnid68


Rivs..u said it all...and fully agree with u..
yep..as sincere parents we need to keep an eye open as to what sites our kids are visiting..our kids might think that we are meddling and invading their space. but we are here to see that they don't burn their fingers .they think that they are a mature a lot..and yes we trust them..but that niggling feeling of something untoward happening...puts us parents on high alert.
now a days kids would rather discuss with their friends or surf the net for the information.. but certain topics need to be discussed with parents for the right information...
with so many serials on air how web has led a wrong being done...kids still feel that instead of listening to parents and keeping them in the loop of their where about and friends...they are mature enough to handle the world...
its different inside the four walls of the house...but outside its a different world altogether..


I absolutely agree with you a Rajni. Kids might think that we are interfering in their lives but as parents it's our responsibility to teach them the ways of life.

I can totally understand from their POV too and why they rather discuss their problems with friends and not their parents. When I was at their I did the same thing.

But now as a parent, I want to build a stronger and friendlier relationship with my kids. I do not want them to be afraid to share anything with me. I keep telling them if they are in some problem ... Mamma will help them solve it 😊
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vinita459
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Posted: 9 years ago
Originally posted by -Crazy4AsYa-


Yes u r absolutely right...
I want to share one incident that happened with my friend at the time when we were in class 7. My friend tanaya was a very extrovert person. She easily talked to people who were complete strangers. At that time orkut was very popular. She added her pics...that way a boy (that's what he told us) started chatting with her...who said that he lived in USA. After many weeks of chatting, he started telling her that he's in love with her n wants to meet her on his next trip to india. She wasreally tense and her behaviour showed that...she became extremely irritable and on much coaxing she told me the reason. She gave me her id n pwd and that day i realised what a sherni i am!! Lol...
I gave him an earful...i behaved like an adult and implied that someone close to me is in police department. Poor guy, he was scared.
Then we somehow blocked his account and from that day i never looked back to that awful site.
Now also, i am on fb but i really befriend those whom i know personally. I even keep a check on my little brother's account and advise him to do the same.
I think putting parental control is not a solution because kids these days are even smarter than their parents...they could easily find out a solution. The only solution according to me is that elders talk about the merits and demerits of internet and social networks. They must be warned about the threats loitering over there and so much trust should be between the parents n kids that if something wrong is happening, the kid could easily share their fears...

Really a worthy topic didis...waiting to read more of views.


Thank you for sharing this story with us. And I am really proud of you that you've helped your friend who was in need:)

I know many such incidents like this actually happen in real. Girls and boys do meet after few days of chatting online. This message is specially for girls: Please 'do not meet' strangers if they've asked you to meet in private. This is a very dangerous situation :(

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rajnid68
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Posted: 9 years ago
Originally posted by vinita459




I absolutely agree with you a Rajni. Kids might think that we are interfering in their lives but as parents it's our responsibility to teach them the ways of life.

I can totally understand from their POV too and why they rather discuss their problems with friends and not their parents. When I was at their I did the same thing.

But now as a parent, I want to build a stronger and friendlier relationship with my kids. I do not want them to be afraid to share anything with me. I keep telling them if they are in some problem ... Mamma will help them solve it 😊
i had a strong base due to my mum..
and am trying to lay the same foundation for my daughters...
anything under the sun...been frank to explain to them...
now the topic floating around is rape and contraceptives...
and girl do i have to do my homework...
as i dont want to be caught offguard...
and the best part is...during these discussions hubby is red faced..but now opening up slowly..
no choice as it is 3 to 1...ha ha ha 
  what a topic...🤗 🤗..for u S and  V


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GitaIyer
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Posted: 9 years ago
Thats' a very relevant topic for discussion, Vinita and Saima.
Internet is a boon as well as bane. Fully agree that as parents, it is our responsibility to ensure that we are aware of what kids view. Completely restricting is also not an option. 
 
Using parental controls and other filter conditions will help only so much. With kids as young as 8 and 9 creating programs, am sure these controls can be easily overpowered. Personal supervision and open communication is the need of the hour.
Supervision, which should not sound and feel like supervision. 
Communication which should be two-way.
In case of smaller kids, its best to engage them in outside play and sports. Even if a kid doesn't study everyday, its fine. But make sure that kids do play everyday with their friends. Not inside the home, but outside in the playground or garden. 

In case of bigger kids, I guess being their friend. A lil bit of letting go, a lil bit of being strict. 
And most importantly setting an example as parents. We ourselves have to reduce the phone and computer surfing and online chatting. 



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fifi1297
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Posted: 9 years ago
I totally agree with you...I m a teenager...nd I use internet for information under my mama's supervision...she gave us permission to use internet...but she has also taught us merits nd demerits of using social networking...
she understand me vry well...wen evr I have a problem my mama z thr to solve for me...she z a friend to me who understands me nd make me understand...
She always knw wat I do on internet...
I knw we children feel bad wen dey tell smethng not to do...but if we children just think for 1min dat watevr dey said it was for our benefit...
We children say dat v knw evrythng but the fact is we knw evrythng inside the four walls of home...not the world...my mama always say wen u will entr professional life u will knw how is this world...
Evry child need a supervision of parents..nd I will say I m nothing without my parents...I dnt knw anythng if my parents dnt tell...
This world z dark with many wrong paths nd parents especially moms are the light who tells us nd make u follow right path...

Thanks vinita api and saima api for bringing dis topic...

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yum_immy
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Posted: 9 years ago
I agree with u all... My parents always said to me and my sibilings that if we are not allowing u guyz to do something it means tht its for ur own benefit and we dont argue bcuz we know tht they are not wrong...
My parents are really strict in this mater and they even checks histories of our cell phones and laptops every week...
They knows what we are doing and when we are doing... But we dont mind bcuz its for our own benefit and they are slowly starting to trust us and its our responsibility to keep tht trust and not to break it...
I think ever child should have the supervision of parents.:-):-).
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