Posted: 19 November 2013 at 12:32am | IP Logged
Originally posted by dsr11
Originally posted by Neerjaa
She is newly wed in the new home , you have to firdt go with their customs and rituals not to give your opinion when elders are sitting there .
Last how an Astha invite her parents for puja when she has elders in her family . You have to first ask them .Astha will learn from her mistakes .And she thi k she can change people when you can not save your own parents being insulted .
I disagree with these two points. I don't think a newly wed bride must follow customs and rituals of her new home. She can say no if she wants to because she is a human being not a cow. Respect should be given to everyone in the family, not just elders.
Can't Aastha invite her parents for puja at her own home without anyone's permission?
Regarding Shlok's and Aastha's imperfections, they are made for each other. One is uptight and the other is nosy.
Here I am not talking about following for your whole life which are meaningless in todays time and not to be carried for the sake of going on for age old era .I am not a bit ritualistic person who goes because its going on .
In every community , there are some customs and rituals which are performed with newly weds when they enter the house . When your elders are sitting there with other guests , not necessary to tell what you think or how its performed at your home .Every family has their own customs and traditions and all this does not make you conservative .Its takes time to bring change in the thinking when its joint family .
As for your second point , you are new member of the family and she knows what she is getting herself in to . If this puja is just for them and family , Astha should be asking her mom in law about inviting her patents . You can not go on with your thinking that you are authority on that . Astha is immature and CVs has not changed her character . Here again Shalok will get the opportunity to let Astha face the music alone and then immediately will defend her .Here I find him having Niranjan , s traits .who is cool and sharp .He is subtle in his approach , to teach Astha few lessons which Astha was lecturing him about , he is giving her back with honey dipped slapped .
You bring change in home when you have understanging with people living in the house .First you have to become member .This home is carrying on age old customs and traditions .I k ow many well educated family where slowly and steadily changes are coming but not with Astha kind of person .
I never want girls to be treated like cows as Agnihotri family is treating .Shalok also have some of his opinion of woman like this . But he is rebel .
I have not seen any newly wed bride to do on her own . Here respect also is involved .My in laws has highly qualified professionals but never seen them crossing the lines . I amfrom libral family with progressive thinking . There are no restriction but one should know where to draw the lines. Respect is earned with your behavior .
Sorry I also went onbut daily hear this kind of situations with girls even in libral well educated families .
Thats why I think life itself is great teacher . Astha in her innocense and impulsive nature , ignored the truth which was itself facing her .But there are girls like her in real world but life is different from reel life .
Shalok is male chauvinist , egoist but has some softness hidden behind his darkness .