LoveProfusion, Definitely this is an important topic. But I strongly don't believe about premarital sex.
We seem to copy everything non sense from the Westerners. Whether people believe in being modern or not, some rules of this World never change whatever be the era and these are the rules which help a person to make a mark.
Sex is an important part of the marriage but not everything in the marriage. Marriage whether it is arranged one or loved one, it works when the two partners work continuously to be with each other, present to each other and available to each other. Marriage works when each partner improves the capability of being more caring, compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding to each other. The partners have to improve the capability of being forgiving to each other and developing unconditional love for each other. This is the way the two persons improve the trust one has for the other and also become committed to each other. When the two partners develop these qualities, they grow a lot with the help of each other. This is the way the marriage has to be made to work.
When the premarital sex, a man would have sex with a woman and then he will reject her and then move on to another woman as he is just having sex without any commitment. If she feels he is totally for her, she would be extremely dejected and disappointed. how will she be taken care of? Don't talk about she could get legal ways to take care of herself. the judicial system is really terrible.
it is definitely good to know someone before marriage, but that doesn't include having sex before marriage. There have been arranged marriages because the youngsters with limited experiences don't know what is best for them and are not that mature to find everything about their prospective partners. How things are before marriage is not the same as how things are after marriage. This is the reason many marriages fail in the West.
Edited by maha2us - 17 November 2013 at 9:41pm