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Balika Vadhu Written Update 19/8/2013 (Page 6)

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Posted: 20 August 2013 at 12:32am | IP Logged
Developing affection towards a person who helped her means those feelings have come out of gratitude.

Love for a man is all about wanting to share life with him.That desire to share life out of gratitude for that person cannot be termed as love.

If what she feels is love for that person she should go ahead and build her life which is worthy enough to share it with him.Make a beautiful life for herself and her child and ask him to share her life with him then I will accept it is love.

From what they have shown so far it does not look like love to me.It only looks like infatuation combined with gratitude.If people are convinced that it is love then it is up to them and their opinion.




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Posted: 20 August 2013 at 12:46am | IP Logged
Originally posted by aparnauma

If they thought that she was making a wise choice why would they have to try so hard to convince themselves?
They just felt it is easier to give in to her than trying to convince her otherwise,

If parents find it easier to give into their childrens' whims rather than convincing them that it may not be right for them then obviously something is wrong with the parenting.
 
Her thinking process - How is that she knew only to take from her parents and never knew that she should be giving them something back too?


@red - I find this interesting.  Why does saanchi need to give something back to her parents?  Children don't have any obligation to parents.  Parents have not done anything great by giving children life and then paying their way through life.   Children don't ask to be born, parents foist life onto them.  Parents have children for their own happiness,  child doesn't ask to be born.
 
I had my children because I wanted the experience of bringing up a child,  for my own happiness. My kids don't owe me anything nor do I expect it from them.  I don't apply any guilt tactics nor do I nurture a sense of obligation onto them or try to codify it into a contract.   If they happily want to give me something, I am happy to take it.  But  none of my kids know that they "should" be giving back something to me or that they "have" to give it back to me.
 
The only people that my kids have to give back to is their own children (my grandkids)
 
@ blue  -- They did have a long discussion, but saanchi was adamant.  I don't think at this age,  there is any sort of control over the child, and even if ira and co. were to exercise control over saanchi, it would be a sort of temporary exercise.  After a while, saanchi would rebel, even if they were successful in getting her married to a boy of their choice.
 
At this age, what can shekhars do beyond giving her an overview of their concerns? They did do that.  She is also an adult and has her own marzi and viewpoint. 
 
I don't feel that they adopted a defeatist attitude here.   "Trying hard to convince saanchi" does not mean that they can repeat the same arguments over and over again.  They had an initial shock reaction,  mentioned it once or twice and the matter had to come to a stand still when saanchi refused to have any discussions.  After all she is an adult.
 
 

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Posted: 20 August 2013 at 12:58am | IP Logged
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@red - I find this interesting.  Why does saanchi need to give something back to her parents?  Children don't have any obligation to parents.  Parents have not done anything great by giving children life and then paying their way through life.   Children don't ask to be born, parents foist life onto them.  Parents have children for their own happiness,  child doesn't ask to be born.
 
I am not talking about her giving back to her parents or being obliged to her parents.

It is about inter personal relationships and relationship with fellow human beings,It just does not look like she has been taught how to respect fellow human beings and consider their feelings.This has to be in childhood by the parents,It is their duty to educate the child that just like her feelings get hurt other peoples feelings get hurt too,
If she had been taught to respect fellow human beings since childhood they wouldn't have ended up with a child who is so unmindful of the hurt that she causes to them.

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Posted: 20 August 2013 at 1:01am | IP Logged
Originally posted by aparnauma

Developing affection towards a person who helped her means those feelings have come out of gratitude.

Love for a man is all about wanting to share life with him.That desire to share life out of gratitude for that person cannot be termed as love.

If what she feels is love for that person she should go ahead and build her life which is worthy enough to share it with him.Make a beautiful life for herself and her child and ask him to share her life with him then I will accept it is love.

From what they have shown so far it does not look like love to me.It only looks like infatuation combined with gratitude.If people are convinced that it is love then it is up to them and their opinion.

 
But don't we all develop affection only towards people who help us?  Whether it is friendship or romantic love?   Who develops affection towards people who kick us and are not our well-wishers?
 
So how is Ganga's love (even if born out of gratitude) a lesser love than someone else's love (which may be born out of lust ?)
 
I also don't think that there are pre-conditions to falling in love -- i.e. ganga must make her life for herself first, and only then ask him to share her life.  Why?
 
She can ask him right now to share her life.    
 
Ganga has made a connection with him -- a connection she never had with anyone else in life till now.  We all seek that 'zen' connection with someone else -- and she has found it in Jagya. 
 
She is not in love with him for his money,  she is not in love with him for his looks (though it doesn't hurt that he is a hot sexy doctor LOL)  -- she is in love with him because he sees the person that she can be,  and the person she is meant to become.   
 
Is that so very very wrong?
 
 

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Posted: 20 August 2013 at 1:05am | IP Logged
Originally posted by aparnauma

I am not talking about her giving back to her parents or being obliged to her parents.

It is about inter personal relationships and relationship with fellow human beings,It just does not look like she has been taught how to respect fellow human beings and consider their feelings.This has to be in childhood by the parents,It is their duty to educate the child that just like her feelings get hurt other peoples feelings get hurt too,
If she had been taught to respect fellow human beings since childhood they wouldn't have ended up with a child who is so unmindful of the hurt that she causes to them.

As a general principle, I feel this is correct.
 
But in what way has saanchi hurt them?  She wants to marry someone like Jagdish.  Is this hurting them?
 
Did shiv not do the same?  He married anandi going against the express wishes of his mother and his chhoti maa.  Did shiv not hurt them?  He never even consulted them or asked them their views.  He just presented them with a done deal.
 
 

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Posted: 20 August 2013 at 1:09am | IP Logged
Originally posted by sectoreight

Originally posted by aparnauma

Developing affection towards a person who helped her means those feelings have come out of gratitude.

Love for a man is all about wanting to share life with him.That desire to share life out of gratitude for that person cannot be termed as love.

If what she feels is love for that person she should go ahead and build her life which is worthy enough to share it with him.Make a beautiful life for herself and her child and ask him to share her life with him then I will accept it is love.

From what they have shown so far it does not look like love to me.It only looks like infatuation combined with gratitude.If people are convinced that it is love then it is up to them and their opinion.

 
But don't we all develop affection only towards people who help us?  Whether it is friendship or romantic love?   Who develops affection towards people who kick us and are not our well-wishers?
 
So how is Ganga's love (even if born out of gratitude) a lesser love than someone else's love (which may be born out of lust ?)
 
I also don't think that there are pre-conditions to falling in love -- i.e. ganga must make her life for herself first, and only then ask him to share her life.  Why?
 
She can ask him right now to share her life.    
 
Ganga has made a connection with him -- a connection she never had with anyone else in life till now.  We all seek that 'zen' connection with someone else -- and she has found it in Jagya. 
 
She is not in love with him for his money,  she is not in love with him for his looks (though it doesn't hurt that he is a hot sexy doctor LOL)  -- she is in love with him because he sees the person that she can be,  and the person she is meant to become.   
 
Is that so very very wrong?
 
 
Isn't it better to wait and see how these things pan out and how lasting they are?
I am sure in Ganga's case they will survive the physical sepeartion and I am sure they will withstands the tests of time too 
But all the same I would like to see how this seperation would work out for both Jagya and Ganga.

Jagya was very much in love with Anandi before he moved to Mumbai.But his feelings for Anandi took a back seat when he met Gauri.Probably Jagya was at about the same age as Ganga is now.

So why don't we wait and see if seperation affects Ganga same way as it affected young Jagya?
Jagya was also full of gratitude towards Anandi.After all she took the bullet that was meant for him.But that did not stop him from being unfaithful to Anandi.

I am sure Ganga is no Jagya and her feelings will stregthen unlike those of young Jagya's

In every which way this physical distance is good for both Jagya and Ganga.



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Thanks for the update khushi.

Cvs are intelligenct and I don't blame them.They are cashing on JaGan as much they can.Jagya meeting Ganga was so important for viewers that we have to watch some indigestible scenes.

CVs are hell bent to compel viewers to dislike anandi.What was the need of that kamarbandh scene only they know.And the dialogue of mother should name the baby! Ok,I will give that scene a chance because though it unnecessary and long but it had a good message that parents should have the right to name the baby but the kamarbandh scene was extremely bad.CVs kuch to sharam karo!

Sumitra is one amazing lady!She is on the verge of getting mad.Ganga jagya ke saath hi gaya hoga,she was chanting it.It would be excellent if jagya would have gone with ganga putting all of you in an embarrassing situation.If my family would have fixed my engagement date without consulting me and pressurized me I would have blast them and vanished for two three weeks from the house.But poor jagya,bechare ki problem yehi hai ke wo sudhar gaya,otherwise how adament is jagya you all know,especially sumitra and ds.Kash ke wo apni zidd ganga ke sasth jane mein laga pata,it would have been great.But alas!Ganga stooped him and he got convinced.

Sanchi ka sajna sawarna to aise dikharahe the jaise hum sabko issi dinka intezar tha aur hum maar rahe the sanchi ko sazte hue dekhne ke liye.Aur itna kaha beautiful lagrahithi I don't get it.Because she always uses the same amount of make up,same hair style just she wore a new dress and kamarbandh,thats it.Kuch bhi dikhate hai ye cvs.

Finally Jagya got the chance to meet Ganga and gave the teddy bear to mannu.Bear ne jo heart pakra hua tha wo khul gaya hai,lagtahe fevicol se lagana padega.Jagya on motorcycle wearing a helmet is the fantastic thing I have ever scene.And the way that day he was aggressively riding the bike from the hospital was just WOW!JaGan scene will continue today,eagerly waiting for the scene.

What was that precap especially ds.I will watch the episode before commenting on ds.



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