Originally posted by: cinthiann1758
While reading this I had a mixture of emotions. While being raised in the west to an Italian American family, my youngest sibling is male. I am the middle child, my parents eldest was also female. My brother was god especially to my mom. We still to this day call him the messiah. He could never do any wrong and he walked on water according to mom. Still, I never felt inferior, in a matter of fact I would fight for my rights to do things but I do remember me not being allowed to go away to college. I am not sure if it was that my parents couldn't afford it (which I very much doubt) or girls just didn't leave the house until they were married.
Anyway I got married at 20 to a hateful, abusive man- maybe I just wanted to escape. Needless to say you all know my story and I found my John because of it...now 32 years later!
What disappoints me is when I read the FF and all the girls write about someone biting them during lovemaking. This disturbs me, for I have heard of love nips but not the description of actual biting. Without going to deeply into this I "assume" (hate doing that), that this is an amorous part of the culture or is it the man's dominance over a woman? I know that when lions mate, the male bites the neck/shoulder of the female showing his dominance until she submits. Is not love suppose to be a sharing of each other in a beautiful way? So like I said it disturbs me and I apologize for bringing this matter up especially to our youngsters they do not need to hear this.
In IPK what disturbed me, was how attracted I was to the ASR character, whom I in my POV, was very abusive to Khushi in the beginning. He degraded her, physically man handled her and kept putting her "in her place". Why was I so attracted to this terrible man? But deep in my heart I knew he was hurt and his reactions were because of this. I still feel terribly guilty when I am attracted to the alpha, dominant male. I play the role of the lowly female/ lion awaiting domination.
I was watching a show called Jodha Akbar and I am ashamed to say I love it. There must be something deep in my core that calls out for the dominant male and I probably was raised not knowing that a woman does not have to be dominated.
Until we raise our daughters, (which unfortunately have none), with the belief that we are equals to men in all rights and aspects of this world, nothing will change. When G-d created us, the story in my Bible states that we came from the rib of man, formed so he would not walk this earth alone. People take that literally. A woman gave birth to the G-d, he would never exist without a woman! Men should remember this! LOL
AND finally I hated the Khushi of the last few episodes. I remember calling ArshiH and screaming about the Miss India contest. Just like Miss America, Miss World, Miss Universe what's the point? A woman's talent and beauty does not have to be judged at all. The CV's could have had Khushi run the tilffin business or join AR Designs to prove that point. Ughhh, absolutely hated it.
Our zany, cray girl was one to be admired. I never felt that she was not worthy of greatness and love. BTW of love the culture of the extended family and everyone living together. The mother-in-law in charge and all the women helping to run the household and caring for the family. This is a beautiful! But if a woman wants to be educated and go out to work why not? Some love to take care of family while others want to enter the business world, either way neither is wrong unless imposed and forced on someone.
Okay, my idle chatter and rant is done. I love and respect all you wonderful women of this thread and we know no matter what we are stronger than anyone thinks!
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