Posted: 16 August 2013 at 11:06pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by koolsadhu1000What exactly is'rishta nibhana'
Alway agreeing to fiancee and her family ?
Coz i am not that type and i would feel pressurized .
Why the expectation that he said YES so he BETTER agree to ALL henceforth ?
Any compulsion ? Mandatory unspoken rule of getting engaged ?
I differ .
Let me get this right first .
The argument is he is an adult who should have never said yes in the first place or bent before his mother's emotional blackmail and now that he has he BETTER say yes to all for a commitment to this sort of thing means deprioritising other commitments automatically and losing power to take independent decisions .
From now on , the man must take each step either according to the fiancee's wishes , the sasural's wishes or his mother's wishes .
An engagement decides that .
I differ strongly .
If calling his inability to detect cunning emotional blackmail as his fault of 'bending before his mother' yeah i admit he should have been more perceptive . But sons rarely r before experienced mothers or bitchy wives .
And nowhere did i see him dishonouring his sasural or fiancee . Not once . He cannot decide his own engagement date as per his schedule and that is deemed as dishnouring he MUST he MUST he MUST ...really , whats this nonsensical expectation in the serial ?
If i felt this pressurized i would have said a FLAT NO to the ceremony .
No professional should be coerced this way ...not Jagya , not Shiv nor any ordinary man who has some other commitments .
This kind of dangling a sword with a hair over the head and deeming a choice with some deliberate petty negative meaning is WRONG acc to me .
He said yes to the marraige but said the date was not suitable ...that is dishonuring sasural ?
For that matter even that date was not suitable for Shiv . Ws he dishonoring his sister ?
No . Infact these two professional busy men were dishonored by this foolish obstinacy .
Nobody is even making an issue of that .
Speaking of today's episode
The 2 approving queens were flanking Saanchi once more and nodding approvingly at her choices .
Saanchi simply HATES Anandi .
The JAGAN momentary scene rocked so did Dadisa with the little angel .
Mannu got a flying kiss from me along with that cute cho chweet baby .
"Rishta nibhana" is not about agreeing each and everything, but they did not show Jagya bonding with his future family or even future wife. It is always Ganga bonding. [You may say that he is helping Ganga with only humanitarian ground and then say 'Jagan' meaning they are a couple.] Rishta nibhana is like Shiv/Shyam was with Singh family even before marriage.
We cannot compare Shiv's commitment with Jagya's commitment on 16th because Shiv's commitment is in his official capacity and he cannot change it whereas Jagya's commitment on this date is in his personal capacity and he could have preponed it, and it was not Shiv's engagement. And we should accept that the situation would have been different if it was not for a woman ('other woman' as seen by his fiancee and his mother and even the viewers, because we are waiting for official Jagan). I repeat, if a man asks to postpone his engagement just because he is going to drop some other woman (even if no romantic links is involved) except from his own family like mother/sister/bhabhi etc. then it is disrespecting his rishta with his future wife because he is saying that his priority is that woman and engagement can wait.