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Posted: 16 August 2013 at 10:23am | IP Logged
What exactly is'rishta nibhana' 

Alway agreeing to fiancee and her family ?

Coz i am not that type and i would feel pressurized .

Why the expectation that he said YES so he BETTER agree to ALL henceforth ?

Any compulsion ? Mandatory unspoken rule of getting engaged ?

I differ .

Let me get this right first .

The argument is he is an adult who should have never said yes in the first place or bent before his mother's emotional blackmail and now that he has he BETTER  say yes to all for a commitment to this sort of thing means deprioritising other commitments automatically and losing power to take independent decisions .

From now on , the man must take each step either according to the fiancee's wishes , the sasural's wishes or his mother's wishes .

An engagement decides that .

I differ strongly .

If calling his inability to detect cunning emotional blackmail as his fault of 'bending before his mother' yeah i admit he should have been more perceptive . But sons rarely r before experienced mothers or bitchy wives .

And nowhere did i see him dishonouring his sasural or fiancee . Not once . He cannot decide his own engagement date as per his schedule and that is deemed as dishnouring he MUST he MUST he MUST ...really , whats this nonsensical expectation in the serial ?

If i felt this pressurized i would have said a FLAT NO to the ceremony .

No professional should be coerced this way ...not Jagya , not Shiv nor any ordinary man who has some other commitments .

This kind of dangling a sword with a hair over the head and deeming a choice with some deliberate petty negative meaning is WRONG acc to me .

He said yes to the marraige but said the date was not suitable ...that is dishonuring sasural ?

For that matter even that date was not suitable for Shiv . Ws he dishonoring his sister ?

No . Infact these two professional busy men were dishonored by this foolish obstinacy .

Nobody is even making an issue of that .

Speaking of today's episode

The 2 approving queens were flanking Saanchi once more and nodding approvingly at her choices .

Saanchi simply HATES Anandi .

The JAGAN momentary scene rocked so did Dadisa with the little angel .

Mannu got a flying kiss from me along with that cute cho chweet baby .

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Posted: 16 August 2013 at 10:25am | IP Logged
The mother who is saying ab yeh ghar Jagaya k faislon pai chale ga 
humain ussay apni maan maani karane sai rokna ho ga 
Kya hum uss ki zindagi ka ek faisla bhi nahi lai sakte hum uske bade hain 

This woman would have been ok if he would have taken a stand and said no for this proposal Here he would have been disowned by now 


The grandmother who cheats her grandson In front says you have right to take decision of your life behind back cheats him so how he can take a stand 

i failed to understand  where he is insulting his relationship  with Sanchi just because he wanted to postpone an engagement for a work and the work happens to be helping a woman that is why this issue Ermmif any other work it would have been ok  so all is here woman thing ?

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Posted: 16 August 2013 at 10:41am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mahi12

Ermmif any other work it would have been ok  so all is here woman thing ?

Yes... all here is the woman thing.
 
The woman thing is not a trivial thing and cannot be compared to other things.  It is a very big thing.
 
 
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Posted: 16 August 2013 at 11:33am | IP Logged
Posted this on another thread: wanted to post it here too.
It's a poem by Khalil Gibran called 'Children'
 
CHILDREN
Khalil Gibran
 
And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."
And he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

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Posted: 16 August 2013 at 11:37am | IP Logged
Originally posted by sectoreight

Originally posted by mahi12

Ermmif any other work it would have been ok  so all is here woman thing ?

Yes... all here is the woman thing.
 
The woman thing is not a trivial thing and cannot be compared to other things.  It is a very big thing.
 
 
can i ask why?

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Posted: 16 August 2013 at 11:41am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mahi12

can i ask why?
 
Sure you can ask why. 
But I wont give you an answer because 'the why' is related to obvious reasons. 
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Posted: 16 August 2013 at 11:47am | IP Logged
Originally posted by sectoreight

Originally posted by mahi12

can i ask why?
 
Sure you can ask why. 
But I wont give you an answer because 'the why' is related to obvious reasons. 
LOL You won't give me answer because there is no answer  because so called obvious reasons are no reasons No one can ever answer this why because this why ? has no answer with solid reasons 

My tone is not rude to you i hope you don.t take it this way 

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Posted: 16 August 2013 at 1:35pm | IP Logged
sectoreright that poem is lovely and true .

Its very hard to forgive when the child has blatantly disregarded your repeated pleas ...arrogance of youth . So arrogant is youth that at a point it incenses . Patience wears off . Perhaps thats the time one remembers Kahlil Gibran's truth 

they come through u but not from u .Smile

Ultimate truth of life .

which saddens at first but enriches ur mind as u keep pondering about it .

And then comes the stage where u accept the truth without sadness or anger as a fact of life and try to do ur best , this time , without expectation before u go .

I think the poem is a must read for all parents for my views r always different ...i don't believe children are necessarily things of joy but experiences of various shades that envelop a life .

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