E-Flings = Cheating ?? - Page 5

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

yeah, having an e-fling is bad, really bad. It's like having physical sex with just an immaculate twist to it, no?😛 Cheating, all cheating, no difference, right?😆

Looks like the sarcasm in your reply gave out your take on E-Fling 😉
So please can you give us more details about your E-Fling now that it's out in open 😆😆

Originally posted by: CestMoi

As for online fling, let's choose a concrete example: Someone who is married, but has a full fledged affair with someone online, from chatting away in the most intimate manner for months while the husband or wife has no clue of it whatsoever. Would you call this cheating or intolerable or something that is limited to online.

What exactly is the difference between e- flirting, e-fling, e-affair, and a full fledged e -affair? What kicks do people derive out of it? Is it even possible to feel infatuated with a virtual Id you have no means to be sure of?😕  Isnt it being paranoid?

Any fling, e or otherwise outside of an existing relationship is called infidelity. Cheating. Simple as that. 😳

Originally posted by: CestMoi

Looks like the sarcasm in your reply gave out your take on E-Fling 😉
So please can you give us more details about your E-Fling now that it's out in open 😆😆

Originally posted by: peridot.

What exactly is the difference between e- flirting, e-fling, e-affair, and a full fledged e -affair?

Flirting €" light hearted chatter between two people who are attracted to/like each other. Usually it is friendly and fun, involving complimenting and teasing. Doesn€™t have to or doesn€™t always lead to something more. But if one or both people are really into each other, the flirting gets more serious and indicates an interest for more be it sex or relationship.

 

Fling €" A short term, no strings attached relationship, usually involving some sort of physical/sexual intimacy. It isn€™t expected to last and people quickly part their own ways.

 

Affair €" A long term relationship other than your actual long term relationship, usually involving physical/sexual and or emotional intimacy as well. It lasts longer, can strain relationships and put doubts on existing commitments.

 

When such things take place online it becomes e-whatever.

Originally posted by: peridot.

What kicks do people derive out of it? Is it even possible to feel infatuated with a virtual Id you have no means to be sure of?😕  Isnt it being paranoid?

Can't speak for others, but I flirt with many of my friends online - just because. Its just fun and timepass. Maybe because I'm usually introverted, online gives me a channel to let loose a bit.

I've had crushes on virtual Ids. But it isn't a crush on the person, but more on the persona they have online. It doesn't mean anything. You realize you don't know them.

I don't get the bit about being paranoid.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

I don't get the bit about being paranoid.

I meant the hype and fear about all these e- flirting and e-flings.

I think many things are considered to say whether a person is having e-affair or not.Like most of the time if its just flirting...I think its normal..
But if someone is married/in a relationship but is spending more time with someone online more than their partner near him/her,and needs to hide it from their partner then it is cheating...
But sometimes its like someone make online relationships for emotional support but there is not sexual then I don't think it could be affair...
Also I think there can be e-feelings,e-crushes,e-affairs...but can't be e-love as love takes a lot more than a virtual identity and couple of private messages.
Also,for e-affair,how would u know u are having an e-affair???If someone mutually agree that they both have e-feeling for each other and will always be e-together...
e-flirting cant be e-love as u would never know the other person is really flirting...or joking..or if that how someone's personality is.
Also I do feel that mostly teenagers have e-crushes especially on FB...And I think on I-F its mostly like u cant stop admiring some people's thoughts,or wittiness,intelligence etc which are one of few things people get attract to so there's e-attraction.

Originally posted by: peridot.

I meant the hype and fear about all these e- flirting and e-flings.

Unless there is a chance of it getting real instead of remaining confined to the virtual world would it matter?

 

From your definition of flings I still dont get how virtual flings can be feasible. I know that technology has made huge advances but e- physical intimacy is beyond me 😕 Do we also have e- babies and e-divorces and e-cremation? I must sound like a dodo

Virtual society is as real as the society we live in. Sociologists have shown that virtual societies evolve into their own civilizations with norms and hierarchies just like real society. Majority people do draw lines perceiving the virtual world to be somewhat fictitious. However, sociologically speaking virtual ties are like any other social ties. As long as a person perceives it to be real, it is real.

 

Just like real relationships become virtual when people move to different places. Virtual relationships can be very real should be the people choose to. I actually worked with a married couple who actually met each other on World of Warcraft.

 

Have you heard of phone sex lines? You call in and the operators talk you through sex acts and fantasies. It is a similar concept, but using emails, PMs and IM instead of the phone. Sounds weird to people who need real physical intimacy. But it isn€™t really farfetched. Meeting, dating, spending time together is actually a radically new concept.

 

Go back to the Victorian era. A lot of men and women just heard about eligible singles from family and friends. It was often not feasible to date someone across the country. So men and women would write letters of courtship to each other. Full blown romances as well as close friendships were carried just through writing letters. Some courting men and women may not meet each other for years. World war era also saw a lot of young teenage boys being conscripted. Many of them wrote letters home and carried on relationships with their sweethearts just through letters. While they had actually met these sweethearts before conscription, the relationship didn€™t blossom until they had been exchanging correspondence for some time. There was no phone calls or web cams in these examples either.

 

So developing a relationship using just words and sentences may seem bizarre to many of us, human sociology is completely capable of doing so.

They can't virtually procreate, but there are e-divorces and when a person gets banned or chooses to disappear - it is an e-death of sorts. 😆

If you're at a point that you're questioning it, you most probably shouldn't be doing it. Different people have different yardsticks for measuring things so no one here can definitely say it is or it isn't. My advice: use your judgment.  Edited by Rapier - 10 years ago