E-Flings = Cheating ??

Hello folks, new member here and my first topic. This forum looks like an old cemetery, all quiet with no ruckus, so thought of making it more spookier 😆

Jokes, anyways not sure if this has been discussed, but here goes.

What is your take on E-Flings especially when one is involved in a relationship out in the real world. Do you think it is cheating on one's partner with a virtual identity. And where would you draw the line in terms of feelings, involvement and time.

I shall input my thoughts as we go along. So please discuss away, I would love to hear what is your take on E-Flings and if you would call it cheating considering one isn't single.

Edited by CestMoi - 10 years ago

Hey, Mulan! Welcome to the section. :) First things first, who do you have these e-feelings for? 😆

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

Hey, Mulan! Welcome to the section. :) First things first, who do you have these e-feelings for? 😆

Just kidding! If you wouldn't do it in person, don't do it online. There are real people behind these virtual IDs, and it does not take very long to bring the virtual world out into the real world. Also, there is a very gray area between harmless flirting and flings/cheating. If you wouldn't be okay with your partner doing it, don't do it yourself either. 

Last thing - whatever you do, DON'T do it on a forum like this. There are plenty of online dating sites that are far more secure (well, maybe). But either way, be careful. 

Well, since you are the first one to comment, I say I have e-feelings for you 😆😆

On a serious note, this site is filled with people going all out and getting involved. What can I say, I keep my ears open and hear all sorts of gossips 😉

And I agree with you there, harmless flirting with no strings attached seems considerably healthy especially if one is single ready to mingle, but would you call it cheating if you have a partner out there in the real world waiting with a bouquet of flowers in his or her hand ??

CestMoi, Definitely it is cheating when someone with partner does E-flings. There is no harmless and harmful flings as flings are definitely flings both for men and women. How the person behind the E-identity feels does the casual fling person care? When a person goes for fling, it has to be with another person. If the E-partner finds the flinging person has cheated, how he/she would react if he/she believed he/she is getting genuine love? Who is the source of anyone's love is not something we can control. When any person is loving to himself/herself, he/she would behave maturely and wouldn't go for casual flings. And if the person who feels cheated takes recourse to drinking or any other drastic steps, who is responsible? In this World, love is at premium and there are persons online who had been ridiculed by parents and siblings and they believe they get love from the E-boyfriend/E-girlfriend, how would that person feel once he learns the person who E-loved him/her has really cheated him/her? Playing with another person has to be avoided always as it can have dangerous consequences. Edited by maha2us - 10 years ago

Nice topic...

Originally posted by: CestMoi

Well, since you are the first one to comment, I say I have e-feelings for you 😆😆

On a serious note, this site is filled with people going all out and getting involved. What can I say, I keep my ears open and hear all sorts of gossips 😉

And I agree with you there, harmless flirting with no strings attached seems considerably healthy especially if one is single ready to mingle, but would you call it cheating if you have a partner out there in the real world waiting with a bouquet of flowers in his or her hand ??

Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*

What is wrong with all the girls on this forum? There are plenty of men around here as well! 😆

Hearing all sorts of gossip? You sure haven't been around the forum long enough for that, now have you, new member? 😆

Back to the topic - yes, I would call it cheating. But only because if I caught him doing the same, I'd dump his sorry ass! Generally speaking, my thing is- if you have to ask, the answer is probably no.

Well who knows, I could be a dude donning Mulan's avatar ;) Or if I am a dudette, who knows you could be a dude donning Preita Zinta. So you see, on virtual world, what gender, so why loose a chance to hit on anyone possible 😉😆

New member on DM, but I have been around since last year and it doesn't take long to hear all sorts of gossips, all you need are your clean ears (make sure to oil them twice a week) and you can hear all sorts of juice 😆😆

And I agree with you, what we can't tolerate our partner doing in the real or virtual world, we shouldn't be doing that either. But then again I have seen many indulge in open flirting on the forum even after being in a relationship. So where would you draw a line ? What would you do or say if someone tries to flirt with you if you are occupied with someone in real ? And if someone married tried to flirt you considering you're single, does it depend on you to shoo him away or does the burden lie on his shoulder ? And if you do indulge in flirting with him, again where do you draw the line ?

Edit: Typo
Edited by CestMoi - 10 years ago

Originally posted by: .Dr3viL.

@ the TM .. Have you heard about RTH and Woh too?? 😆

Anyway I think a relationship is time and feelings .. And it's like the experienced e-love guru woh said it doesn't take much effort in derailing from online to take it offline as well.. and to get emotionally involved with someone. But to answer your question it would be cheating to flirt and play around online..

SO STOP HURTiNG MY FeeLINGS! 😡

LOL, Who hasn't heard about their passionate E-affair especially the silent stalkers of this forum 😆  Let's see if one of them spills the beans here.

Dude, that went over my head, how am I hurting your feelings, come again 😆
You call yourself evil, but look at that, your heart is like a candle, ready to melt any second 😆😆
Edited by CestMoi - 10 years ago

I say how about first hand experience... I am ready to offer you my flirting services CM.. 😆

Originally posted by: CestMoi

What is your take on E-Flings especially when one is involved in a relationship out in the real world. Do you think it is cheating on one's partner with a virtual identity. And where would you draw the line in terms of feelings, involvement and time.

I shall input my thoughts as we go along. So please discuss away, I would love to hear what is your take on E-Flings and if you would call it cheating considering one isn't single.