Joined: 03 November 2004
Joined: 24 March 2005
I think that only education and proper upbringing is the solution. To a certain extent, one has to realize that this is only entertainment and should not be confused with real life.
On TV, divorce is a 1,2,3 process, but in reality if someone was smart enough to understand this, the process is far more complicated than that.
I think the more appropriate question here is "why do directors take the Indian audiance to be so stupid"? and further more "why are we as an audiance so attracted to this stupidity"? People still watch Kusum and this show makes no sense...there is not purpose of this show except for suffering....."why do we enjoy all this heart breaking drama", why do we gain by all these shows?"
Joined: 22 May 2005
i agree wid u especially ekat kapoor she shows marriage as a joke
well u all probably heard of the song pyar koi khel nahin here it should be "shaadi koi khel nahin" cause its not
and i agree kkusum is the msot f***** up show for showing marriages since its all a playing toy marry sum1 and u get tired so u divorce and then marry sum1 else and goes on......
and i think its wrong to show dat cause in her show and it just doesnt suit her especially when she's so religious and wears that long red thing on her forehead its like shes only pretending to be religious cause i dont think even hindus treat marriage as a joke infact i know they dont and i think that all tv serials should show real life characters and not bored ppl who can get married several time jus cause they want to.
Joined: 01 June 2004
Technically, the divorce rate has gone up even in India, so in that sense, what TV shows portray is not completely inaccurate.
However, the issue here is about marriage and its sanctity. Even today, compared to the West, Indian society is not indifferent to multiple marriages. A more adult audience would watch a drama like Kkusum or Kyunki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi and just shrug it off as one of Ekta Kapoor's nonsensical serial formulae. What is a major concern is the fact that younger people who watch TV shows, who idolize the characters will ultimately be influenced by them. They will begin to think that multiple marriages are a norm in Indian society.
Ideas such as commitment and stability when it comes to a marriage are slowly dying out as we see stars like Aamir Khan and Saif Ali Khan divorcing after 10-12 years of matrimony.
Portraying divorces or multiple marriages is not wrong; some families are truly dysfunctional, but to do so in almost every serial is just ridiculous.
I'd rather have a story which has some meaning even if it contains multiple marriages. Kusum has no story whatsoever; its a rubberband which has lost every bit of elasticity it had ever possessed.
The unfortunate reason is that in general, we enjoy seeing other people being miserable; its human nature to alleviate one's own misery by concentrating on someone else's messed up life.
That is the reason shows like Kkusum, KSBKBT and Jerry Springer still exist.
Joined: 02 September 2004
the divorce rate in india is increasing exponentially...that part is quite. however there are many factors responsible for the change including the impact of tv.the way i see it marraiges are breaking bcoz the meaning of relationships and lifestyles and desires are changing.if you analyze the old concepts of marraige and family, it was based on very strong feelings of commitment,sacrifice,living for others with kids and family taking priority over everything including personal desires and ambitions.divorce or breakup was not even an option (unfortunately this also lead to many abusive marraiges).
with changes in times, women have become more overpowered and ambitious, guys have become more specific in thier choices. in this fast track lifestyle people rarely spend time trying to devlop the understanding part of the relationships, most concentrate on the the thrill/romantic/fun part of relationships. pre and post marital affairs are becoming a common thing(this taboo a few years old).women are opting for kids outside wedlock(could be birthchild or adoption...this was unthinkable a few years ago).kids are weaned on nannies and daycare centre.while this lifestyle has given everyone a chance to live thier potential to the fullest , it has taken its toll on relationships. most relationships are more based on emotions/feelings than commitment.
what the tv show potrays may shock us but it shows the extreme version of this changing lifestyle.kkusum and abhay never got along together becoz abhay was never too commited to his marraige initially and later it became a question of his wanting kkusum at any cost(even a few fake marraiges).similarily while kumud tried to be commited to each of her relationships ,the guys never did(they were always suspicious,weak characters with an opportunity of commiting infidelity all the time). garv's handling of his breaking marraige with kumud was hilarious(he never put in an ounce of serious effort or threw the source of trouble kali out). nakul is ready to marry kali inspite of knowing that kali is doing it to spite kumud(a sensible guy would have refused and walked out). incidentally even on this forum there are times when people take marraige too easily(and shock me to core). in ymlh when ronit married poornima and decided to move on ...most members were outraged(people suggested options ranging from divorcing poornima to killing her to ronit having an extramarital with pooja). in jjkn people swallowed the misbehaviour of jassi with her fiance without a second thought(after all she was in love with her boss armaan so her commitment was apparently worthless or compromisable...people blamed it all on purab).similarily armaan's commitment to mallika is compromisable bcoz he is not in love with her.in astitva abhi goes through 3 marraiges without realising what he wants or ever working on a relationship. all his marraiges were designed to please someone(first with simran for himself, second with kiran to please his mom, third to please simran).it is like love is the most important thing in life and getting what you want at any cost is justifiable.while one can blame the tv show directors but the truth is that public/masses does not like oldfashioned values(it bores them).everyone wants to live on edge even if it is through a tv show.i have often wondered if a show like humlog or buniyaad would have any success in present times.
it is a sorry state but if they younger generation does not imbibe a few of oldfashioned values in thier lives , we are headed for living the soap opera lives in our households in future.
Joined: 20 September 2004
Joined: 12 January 2005
In my personal opinion...............i think that TV is misleading the viewer.................and Tv has a great influence on the younger viewers.............noadays kids are like glued to the TV......................growing up............they are gonna think that it is okay to marry and divorce...................but we obviously as parents need to guide our kids in the right path...............But what about those kids whos parents are working long shifts.................and dont have adequate time to spend with their kids..................the only friend the kid has is the Tv....................
Infact.................here in South Africa recently........................we had two twelve year olds kids who commited suicide after getting hooked on to watching Pokemon.................Can you believe it????????????????.............it shocked the entire community.....................the both were indian kids just for the record.....................Another thing is that nowadays all these Cartoons aired on Tv is way to violent for little kids.................after research it has been proved that kids have become more violent after watching these violent cartoons.........................
Joined: 29 December 2004
But commonly people don't marry 4 times.
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