Posted: 24 July 2013 at 4:57am | IP Logged
it is not so easy my dears to file for custody and get children in courts in rural parts of India , has anyone seen the legal system there ? It is not easy even in cities in India , the rural parts r WORSE . The judicial system is corrupt and nothing moves forward without a bribe ! From where will that abused woman pay her lawyer even if she finds one ? And does anyone have idea of how court matters proceed in these parts ? At a snail's pace ! Giving up ur child to ur husband means losing him forever , coz dates upon dates will be taken by the jubiliant husband till the child grows up ! The mothers there don't even get visitation !
About Ratan Singh wanting only his son not Ganga ...Ratan Singh does not want his son out of love but because of male ego . It is such a brutal chauvinistic world out there that such women like Ganga who bother to rebel against rape , domestic violence etc r tied to trees and burnt down , see the news , u will find these instances daily reported i am not exaggerating a bit here . Ether they r gang raped , or burnt , or hit mercilessly to 'teach them to stay in limits'.
Ratan Singh wants Mannu back coz his ego has taken a battering when Ganga dared to rebel by running away from him . It is the bruised ego of an abuser , very very dangerous . If it had been a girl instead of Mannu he perhaps would not have even bothered so much but Mannu is his reflection whom he will make just like him ...a boozer , rapist , with scant respect for woman and in all probability illiterate !
And Ganga should accept this and send her son back to him ? And she was cowardly to run away from this horrifying abuse ? R all the women in the world , even in developed countries , who are victims of terrible domestic abuse , cowards to run away from their abuser husbands ?
no , they r BRAVE as hell to take this first step ...NGOs insist they take this step ! Does anyone know how difficult it is to take this step ? The abused woman is like a bird petrified of a snake , hypnotised in fear , she cannot even move !!!! Women activists coax and coax them to file cases against their abusive husbands , and they refuse or go back to him fearing their life !
The bruised ego of a chauvinistic abuser is coz he feels he is not in control . He always wants to be in control . When he feels he is losing control , he becomes like an angry rattlesnake . Ratan Singh's want for Mannu is exactly this .
There will be many who say then Ganga should go to an NGO but let me say that NGOs in such remote villages r often ineffective against this system . I appreciate BV for taking up this cause and showing Shiv Anandi discussing this option so many out there know the options if they r leading these abused lives .
About Dadisa having NO right to put life of her pregnant bahu in danger ...then what exactly is her right , she has right to put life of an abused woman and her innocent child in danger to save her own family ? As i see it Dadisa has no option in this crisis . I am not talking of her tussle with R's men etc , that bravery part is put there by CVs coz they want to show the Singhs as a family who is brave and stands for right etc . I am talking of the criticism levelled at her for jeopardising her own family ...they knew what they were getting into when they gave shelter to an abused woman . Choosing her own family and washing hands off hurriedly off a woman and perhaps sending her to death and her child to doom may be regarded as sane and noble by many but i see it as a human crisis . When hostage situations r there and certain people r demanded , may be all feel a sense of relief when they go and rest r safe . Well , they DIE , and life for those who live is assuaged with guilt and nightmares . Nothing is so black and white . Why is only Dadisa expected to speak up , Sumitra and Gehna can open their mouth too and reveal Ganga is in the house . They r not . Anyone thought why ? They are not gagged . They r silent although they fear their own life coz they know the repercussions . Neither will Ratan Singh let them go once he elicits that information nor will he keep Ganga alive .
Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 24 July 2013 at 5:48am