Originally posted by ruchisahay
Great posts Misti and Angie
I have stopped watching the show for last few days - my MIL found Raj-Divya romance repulsive; she was like why can't Raj wait till his divorce goes through. So now we watch old episodes of Sarabhai vs Sarabhai or some similar series at that time.I can understand your MIL's POV. I was also cringing last week when they showed Raj hell bent on applying lipstick on Divya. Raj and Divya are not husband and wife ...Divya is his ex-girlfriend so I guess many people might be having the same reaction.
Though I don't follow the show, I am still curious to know what happens to Sarita, Raj and Divya - so I keep up through posts and yours make a very good reading
I, for the most part, agree with your views on Sarita. What she feels for Raj is not love, no one can fall for someone as closed as Raj. But I still feel that she stuck to the marriage as she had no other choice - choices are not always about logistics, they are often about mental conditioning. If you start believing firmly that the love of your husband is your ultimate goal, your salvation and you do not and cannot have any other purpose in life, if the success and failure of your entire life depends of making your marriage a success, then how does having money or parents' support help? Money and support can only help if you know what to do with that and Sarita doesn't know that. Partly a fault of the people she grew with - wish they had told her that her life is not constrained by her husband's opinion about her, wish they had instilled some belief in her own self worth. She is very clingy and needy, with a big mouth and low self esteem. Ok I get your POV. I would have accepted that emotionally/mentally she does not have any choice because she does not know anything else than her marriage being her entire life and that husband is the ultimate goal in life. But she did walk out after she had her chat with Divya. That night she did realise that she is fighting a loosing battle and she did board the bus. So she did utilise her choice in leaving this marriage behind. She came back when Divya told her that she will help her get what she wanted. So to me it does not seem that mentally or emotionally she does not have the choice.If she thought that she this is what she has to live with then she would not have walked out that night. Thats why to me it seems like her choice regarding wanting all this at any cost. destructive - an isolated case of impulsively cutting her hand does not prove that. I am sorry Ruchi but I beg to differ. Self harming is an issue that I take very seriously. Usually it begins with isolated cases of cutting wrists or hands. But if it is not checked and help is not given then it becomes a pattern which usually has disasterous results. I have seen cases where things started as isolated cases of self harm They were ignored and they did lead to disaster. So I am unable to take it lightly. Also it was not only just cutting her hand...other signs of delberately courting injury were also there...infact afterterwards she told Divya in a very excited tone that what else dangerous stuff that she has to do. Divya by that point had realised the major blunder that she commited regarding the chandellier falling on Divya's head and she was trying to make Sarita understand that they are not going to do any more dangerous stuff. Raj openly showing concern for her is very new to her and she is reveling in that.and also getting addicted to it. I feel sorry and concerned that she too is moving toward her breaking point. I too think that she is moving towards her breaking point .
Divya - I feel sorry for the mess she is in but I am also alarmed by her stupidity.
It was a party with lots of people - that chandelier could have fallen on anybody, and caused death or severe mutilation. There's no way she could time it to fall on Sarita only - anybody could have come up to talk to the hostess. Also, she must be having ultimate trust not only on Raj's intent (to save Sarita) but also on his reaction time. A nanosecond slow reaction from Raj and the prophecy would have come true and she would have spent rest of her life in prison.
Also, if you do something once in the heat of a moment, that can be impulsiveness but if you continue repeating the same kind of mistake again and again, it's stupidity.True if one repeats the same mistake again and again then one can be considered as a stupid person. Its beyond my comprehension that how on earth did she even think that a dangerous stunt that is usually done in a controlled environment in a studio can be pulled off without any safety precaution ina real life situation. To me Divya is also walking on a tight rope. She has this highly clingy, bitter and insecure person after her...she is living in this mad house ..she does not have anyone to talk and is pressurised to give quick results. Wonder if all the pressure is pushing her to take these decisions which she would have herself avoided if she had calmly thought about it. Divya has been shown as as a very emotional person (although it is a different matter that she herself thinks thats she is a very practical person) and every time her emotional buttons are pushed she comes out with these plots which in the end does harm her. She needs a cool headed person beside her.
Emotional manipulation of Raj is stupid - does she truly think that Raj will fall for Sarita in 20 days. Don't know whether she thinks that or whether she thinks that Sarita is close to going off the rails and the quickest way to get her somewhat on stable gound is to make her believe that she did not waste those ten years of her life. She is also trying to make Raj see sense that whatever be the condition under which he married Sarita, the fact that he did marry her makes Sarita his responsibilty and that he cannot hide from it any more. Maybe she thinks that Raj will realise this and accept Sarita and maybe over time might care for her if not love her passionately.
What will she do after that? Why can't she just say to Sarita - "sorry lady I don't have any plans because I don't know what to do". Well I wished that she said that to Sarita
She should be proud of her accomplishments - that she could fill in the gap left by her parents in her siblings' life and be so successful on her own. Instead she is wallowing in guilt that too for people like Raj and Sarita who have offered her no support till now. Yes to all here
Or, maybe she is moving towards sainthood.Well all the main leading ladies of hindi soaps do attain mahanta.
Raj - so finally he is guilty. I too think it's just concern for Sarita at the moment. But seriously folks, candle light dinner???? You don't do that out of concern - and on top of that, he's concerned that people will mistakenly assume his care for love. I think he should stop and think what will he do if Sarita does not die in 20 days. It would be more cruel to get Sarita's hopes up and then crash them (strictly from Raj's point of view). If the emotional manipulation of Raj is wrong, then what he's now doing to Sarita is also wrong. He said that he married Sarita as she was waiting for him at the altar - didn't he pause and think that after marriage, she would wait for him in their bedroom. Did he think that jilting a girl on altar was worse that brutally rejecting her on wedding night? Does he think that he can go back to be the indifferent Raj once again if Sarita does not die? Or is he prepared to keep up the charade his entire life. About Raj I am not able to comment because I have to see why is he going for this candle night dinner...Is it because he has finally having doubts that something is not right...since Shiela has already said that love will blossom in Sarita's life and he should be wary about it. So is he doing this to test waters and see what is actually happening? Yes he shoudl thik that what will happen is Sarita does not die but at this moment from his behaviour it seems that he is too paranoid that something might happen to Sarita and also that he and his family are guilty for mistreating Sarita.