Posted: 26 June 2013 at 4:22am | IP Logged
Originally posted by Angie12
Misti, very nice analysis and really appropriate reading of characters the way they are being depicted so far. Thanks Angie
.I actually liked today's episode as the emphasis was on emotions of three characters and for a change some depth was shown. Of course, I have given up on ever finding out about the past of these 3 characters. Thats why I am not even asking anymore for the back story....
I can understand you feeling sorry for Raj because he is played by Divya - the one whom he trusts the most and the one who was his emotional anchor. I felt sorry for him yesterday in that room scene where he was baffled at Divya's behavior. On one hand, she encouraged him and gave him hope by coming back in his life and now she is pushing him towards Sarita. From his lines yesterday, it is clear that he would not have approached Divya if she hadn't come back by herself. It was not just hurt ego that was stopping him from approaching after she came back to Bhopal. It was also his way of giving her a space in his decisions. The way he was behaving with her when he was coming in her space was neediness and also his understanding (maybe illusion too) that Divya and he were going to be the way they were all those years ago. So he was reliving that perfect past, but now he is getting a reality check. So I did feel sorry for him today especially the way he was torn looking at that locket.
However, my sympathy was for Divya even though she is playing with Raj's emotions. The way she broke down after Raj left because she herself has not been able to move on. How is it possible for her to move on when she has clung to a hope, that they would be together, for 10 years? I felt sorry for her the most because this girl did not have time to process any of the stuff that has come her way. She not only lost her parents at a young age, but also felt guilt of leaving the needy Raj behind. Probably that ideal that true love will be waiting for her when she finishes her responsibilities kept her going when things must have been tough for her - struggling to establish a career in a new world. Then she got shattered when she realized that he had actually moved on in his life. Then when she had just accepted that truth, she is filled with this guilt that her actions made him destroy his life. Now an emotionally needy desperate woman is looking at her hope that she would make her life whole. That is a huge responsibility for anybody to take. So even though this being a serial would not go in the direction, but I am now seeing Waheeda Rehman's character of Khamosi that Misti you mentioned. She too was considered the strongest person on whom the doctor (Ashok Kumar?) put this huge responsibility without thinking about her own emotions. That movie started with flashback where Ashok Kumar's character is wrecked with guilt at destroying her life.
So far I was seeing Raj as this fragile person. Misti, after your description now I see Divya as this person just before a nervous breakdown. She is not only being pulled from opposite directions by Raj and Sarita. Then she is getting different forms of guilt both due to Sarita and Raj. So she is aware that she is doing wrong to Raj, but she feels that Sarita's needs are more important because of how low is Sarita is feeling at the moment. That's why I feel that she needs Gaurav by her side.
I do feel sorry for Raj too because whatever decision he makes, it won't ever be perfect one for him. He is carrying too much baggage with him. I cannot see him leaving Sarita and settling with Divya because that life would be filled with guilt at what he has done to Sarita. So he won't be at peace especially now that Divya has made him aware of Sarita's desperation and suffering. Probably the best will be that he gives a chance to his relationship with Sarita. But will he be the same person that he was before? No... that is not possible. There will also be guilt that he hurt Divya. I hope they don't show that his love for Sarita would be same as his love for Divya because that would be not realistic. People change after such experiences and cannot be same with another person. But again the question is should people be forced to live with someone if they cannot generate that feeling for another person. Is Divya doing the right thing in manipulating him to accept Sarita? Is it not better that both Raj and Sarita set each other free and get healed first before entering into any relationship?
But he did need to hear the bitter truth from Divya's mouth as he has been acting like an ostrich regarding Sarita. He had seen Sarita making desperate efforts to woo him, but so far he had ignored all that. Now Divya is forcing him to confront what he wants to ignore. He does have a responsibility towards Sarita because he did wreck her life (even if she is also culpable to some extent) by his passivity and detachment.
Angie, Raj did need to know the bitter truth..there is no doubt in my mind regarding that. He needed a reality check and his actions did lead to Sarita's condition. Divya is also the only person who can force him to face reality but I would have prefered that this was all done openly. Divya did want to have an open discussion with him and I also feel that it would have been better if she had done that but she got caught up in Sarita's insecurities and now she is wrecking her life so that Sarita gets over her insecurites and jealousy. I also accept that the image that Divya had of Raj and the thought that her love is waiting for her is what most probably helped her survive in Mumbai. She always wanted to get married to Raj and used to ask him regarding when she will be his bride, so her taking care of her family duties was not something that was her first choice but something that she had to do. So after she finished her duties towards her siblings she came back for what she always wanted, a life with her love that is Raj. I would have really loved to know that what exactly happened between her and Raj that made her hide herself and run away to Mumbai?Was it because she thought that she has no choice and that her emotions for Raj will pull her back from doing her duty towards her siblings? But we are not going to get the answer to that question because sadly the makers do not think that it is important. The reason that yesterday I felt more sorry for Raj than Divya is that despite all this Raj does not know that the person whom he trusts the most and idolizes is playing with his emotions. In contrast to this Sarita knew that Raj is in love with someone else and she got married to him. I don't know whether it was her conscious choice or whether she was manipulated by the mad house but the fact is that she knew. Divya also knows what she is getting into. But Raj doesn't know and that is why I was more sorry for him yesterday than the other characters.
Now coming to Raj and Sarita maybe as I have mentioned in my reply to Roshida that he will accept this relationship of his with Sarita as his retribution for what Sarita had to face for 10 years. Maybe he might also accept this relation becuase he will see that this is the only way he can free Divya from the guilt and stop people from blaming her for something that she had no idea about...that she is responsible for the way Raj has treated Sarita. Whether he will change as a consequence of this choice is something that only the makers know if they are thinking of taking this path. He might accept it as a fact of life that he has to deal with everyday...maybe he will also become bitter...maybe he will find other avenues like his plays to fill the emptyness in his life and help him to live life...maybe Sarita will realise that her ways have made her loose empathy and maybe she will change and maybe they will slowly learn to live each other...
Cming to Divya the reason I saw similarity between her and Waheeda Rahma's character in Khamoshi is because both were considered to be very strong characters...but both went against their nature and played with their own emotions. Waheeda Rahman's character was a nurse and she has been trained to take care of psychiatric patients so she should have known what is there for have and should have known the ways to encounter those situations. Divya is an actress so she also should know what she has to face and should know how to handle it...but when emotions get on top of you then it is very difficult to keep a grasp on reality. Here she is not only playing with the emotions of someone whom she loves the most but also she is playing with her emotions...where is the guarantee that those emotions will not make her loose reality. On top of it she is under constant pressure from Raj and Sarita...and she has no help. Anybody can crack in that situation and Divya will need immense will power to keep her sanity.
Edited by misti73 - 26 June 2013 at 4:26am