What does Manav think?he really expects that? - Page 4

This content was originally posted by: GodhuliLogon

sometimes .. girls change themselves .. my dearest friend after marriage wore burqa while going to in-law's home .. and she dated that person for 4 yrs .. but sometimes for his happiness girls would do this stuff.. so its quite common..  specially in regards to in-laws.. 

hopefully manav will show his modern thinking in this case .. 

This content was originally posted by: lazylad8-FauZi

Why does the woman have to change??? 

This content was originally posted by: crazyforsanaya

Absolutely agree with everything you say.

It really boggles my mind that the girl is supposed to erase her entire life just because she gets married.

in the words of one who knew:

UN. FREAKING. BELIEVABLE!!!!!!!!

 

And please, I don't want the excuse that the "girl loves boy so she will do everything for him and change" bull! Why doesn't the boy do that???

 

PUHLEEASSSE!!!!!

This content was originally posted by: DiyaS

Chill, guys 😃 
No man is an ideal husband immediately after marriage ... in fact most men grow up after marriage 😛 Okay - 'most' might be an exaggeration ... but all guys, especially if they have lived  only at home, don't see anything wrong in many of their family's customs and traditions. Manav has never questioned the rules of his house earlier, especially not the one applied to his bhabhis. So he automatically assumes CC will follow them. And he hasn't realised till now how uncomfortable she is in sarees ...

Guys learn to be good husbands after marriage only ... their wives teach them 😆 Manav will also learn slowly ... it does happen in real life that way.

The operative word in your sentence is 'think' - I don't actually think Manav has actually thought about it much, if at all. For him this is the norm. I doubt if he ever thought about what his bhabhi's wore before marriage as far as he knows the women in his home wear sarees and manage fine in them. I don't think he actually has any idea at all of how difficult it was for CC to manage and she was apologetic because she was feeling bad for letting UB down and she told him the sari was heavy not that she didn't want to wear it. His response of 'you'll learn...' was actually encouragement. Had she said 'I don't want to wear a sari' and then he'd said you'll learn that would have been condescending and inappropriate. Yes he knew that CC wore western clothes but how is he to know that she's not comfortable in a sari. I've lived my whole life in Europe and my normal dress code is western wear but I can wear a sari and am comfortable enough in one to do light houswork (never tried with a pallu on my head though and I think I'll give that one a miss😊) so I think Manav can be excused for not knowing that CC would have a problem with wearing a sari

This content was originally posted by: PhenoixTears

As far as my personal experience goes, after marriage both man and woman undergoes many changes and adjust their life according to each other but in terms of learning traditions and culture, its always woman who has to learn new things as she is the one who is coming to live in another house which can be natural but those changes should not kill some one's personality and beliefs! Worst is if someone doesnt want to follow the traditions, rather than trying to understand her situation, everyone thinks that she is not obeying elders and has no respect for them. I am a punjabi married to a bengali family but now after 4 years I think I know more about Bengali traditions than my husband eventhough I live miles away from my in-laws and in 4 years I been with them only for 15 days 😊 Lectures can be done via phone and skype too, you know 😉 

This content was originally posted by: golpokobita

If that gives her happiness, i don't find it wrong. Men change too after marriage. 

I know man who never saw any woman in his family without Burqa,accepted his wife with pallu only and didn't ask her to wear burqa knowing she was uncomfortable. and the girl who never thought of covering her head did that for her husband's happiness. So its a middle ground where they met.

Having said all these, I don't think Manav will make CC do what other bhabis do. He will certainly be much more logical, if not rebel. And for CC .. there are lot more bigger issues in her hand. Wasting time and energy for dress will not do something great for the society. When she will change UB's attitude towards women, dowry and other bigger social evils, she would succeed. Thats where the girls of today's generation should concentrate. If CC can make a bigger change at the cost of moder outfit, whats the harm??