Posted: 25 June 2013 at 12:56pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by DiyaS
Originally posted by golpokobitaVery nice post. A balanced summary with logic and humor.
Not all traditions are bad. So long they do not undermine a particular group or class,(especially women in most cases). For example, not allowing women to sit and have meal together with other family members is prehistoric and discriminatory. I am happy that CC expressed her disapproval on that.
But asking married women to wear sarees is not a bad or discriminatory tradition. In fact, saree is not only traditional but also the signature wear of Indian women. So I won't say its a tradition to be outright discarded. But the question is whether somebody is comfortable in it.
CC is not comfortable with saree but I don't mind if she takes the challenge and manages with that. (of course without pallu over her head!). I liked the idea that she wore ready made saree and that was absolutely perfect. The problem is with UB who didn't like the short cut and wanted CC to be embarrassed.
However, regarding manav's reaction,i have a reservation. I expected him to express concern when he learnt that CC stumbled .. he should have asked if she was hurt! But I was brought back to reality. Manav is very much a real person of this society with flawed upbringing. He too would learn a lot from CC in coming days..
Exactly ... not all traditions are bad, but they have to be adjusted with convenience and comfort as well. Why not a ready made saree? Why not a rotimaker? If UB can use mod cons like mobile phones and cars for her own comfort, why deny convenience to her bahus?
Manav is learning ... he is still not ideal husband ... IS there such a thing as ideal husband?
Till four weeks back, he was a Mamma's boy ... then he discovered a spine when he fell in love ... right now he doesn't know how uncomfortable CC was ... she didn't say she didn't want to wear a saree, merely that she found it difficult because it was a heavy saree ... and he understood that and was completely sympathetic. He will learn from CC as time goes on ... men grow up only after marriage, not before!
Men's maturity depends on situation (in fact both men's and women's but specially men's). In our society, 'only' sons or the eldest sons are more matured than others simply because they face responsibilities and deal with complexities in their own hands.
Think about manav. he was born in a rich and joint family. he is the youngest of 4 brothers.. Always lived a carefree life.. never faced any problem or need .. He doesn't even work (as we saw today) and even if he wants to work, he doesn't need to look for it. He has his office cabin ready in his family business.. So you can't blame him if he fails to understand other's problems... He never had any problem in his life!
Tough time and hardship brings maturity and manav never experienced that. It would be really tough for him to live up to CC's standard.