Posted: 25 June 2013 at 4:48am | IP Logged
Originally posted by DiyaS
Originally posted by bkamber
Hmm...all have to adapt...but for me...I will not wear a saree all the time, when I do I will not cover my head and by no means will I ever touch anyone's feet. My mother does not like my thinking, but that's that. I intend to let this be known to my future in laws and of course the boy I marry. I don't live in India so it should be easier but we do have relatives that are orthodox UB like. And then there is always that love factor that always throws a wrench in everything.
Again, it depends on one's thinking, and one's choice ... I have no problem wearing sarees, but I won't wear it daily, I do love wearing them as formal wear, they are the ultimate formal wear for me, much better than any gowns ... I never put the pallu except
when I am sitting in a temple or in a puja ... I have no problem whatsoever in touching the feet of elders ... most elders don't even expect it these days and are so touched when I do that they invariably stop me halfway and I get their blessings. My point is, if I'm not forced and it's not hurting me, why not?
If it doesn't matter to you, then why not ... if you're dead against it as a matter of principle, then stick to your principles and say so.
And my husband is crazy ... he doesn't bother about anything, if I complained about anything, he would say, why are you doing it if you don't want to?
But I have been married many years ... he's well trained
see its the same with me and sari issue. I LOVE wearing saris! despite having a closet full of various western party-wear I have not worn one to a wedding in around 4 years now. I always wear the sari, cz its the most gorgeous dress on earth..in fact the young generation in SL have started wearing saris with a vengeance for weddings..its the latest trend..
and our own national dress in Sri Lanka is that, but we never cover our heads, otherwise its almost the same thing as in India. all government sector female employees HAVE to wear sari. my own maternal grandmom and great grand mother both were from a bit affluent families and used to wear sari 24/7 (even to sleep in the early days). But now at home nani wears loose frocks that is ankle length. though I am yet to see her ever in anything other than a heavy sari and the traditional beads necklace around her neck when she is out of home. A mom cannot walk in to one of our schools for a parents meeting unless she is in a sari. etc etc..its part and parcel of our lives too..
my problem is someone ELSE forcing me to wear that as a 24/7 dress!! its not the sari that is my problem, its my choice being taken out of my own hands.. it is my body and I will wear what I please! a Jean + t-shirt covers a lot more than the sari & blouse combo i would wear. Cz i would never dare to get in to a public transport with a sari i would wear for a wedding, but the regular jeans and T is not even given a 2nd thought cz it adequately covers me. so it is not even an issue of covering...
that is why I personally have a problem with the sari..not cz it is a national dress or cz it is ugly or anything.. it is simply inconvenient for me..just like it is an inconvenient for CC.
thus it is a huge personal preference and freedom taken away from her.. that is all :)