Posted: 24 June 2013 at 11:35am | IP Logged
Have yet to see the epi, tonight. TEN more hours to go!!!!!!
Don't understand why the girl ALWAYS has to change and do EVERYTHING!! I would have thought Manav would be a supporter of his wife. Not say something like "you'll learn!" To his NEW wife. She needs his support. She is in new surroundings. Is he clueless??
It is upsetting to think that he would say something without thinking of the effect it would have on his NEW wife. For instance, why would she want to learn how to walk, be or work in a saree. She didn't walk around in a saree before, why should she do it now?? Did anybody ask her her wish? Why would her wants, desires, wishes, her WILL be of any less consequence than say, UB's or anyone else's for instance??
And first of all, it is not even humane or in good ettiquette to make someone wait to eat until you have eaten. Now that, I would say, is disrespectful! And is Manav eating without his wife? Disgusting! Are the women in that house second class citizens? And does Manav condone that for his wife?? Hell, I would want my husband to tell me to eat with him. And insist upon it! This is not tradition! This is an example of tradition twisted to suit the convenience of the dominator!
The title "Modern Bahu" depicts the thoughts, ethics and idealogies of today's woman. Does not necessarily mean she does not believe in traditions. Traditions are the necessity of generations for their identities. However, ancient and depressive idealogies in the name of traditions are an evil on society. And human beings from time immemorable have changed the truth to suit their convenience. I think this is the basis of the show. Modern does not mean that one wears western clothes or is rude or disrespectful or goes to clubs. But that is the way that society depicts the "Modern" people. And probably, the CVs want to change this idea and make people understand that ( to take a real basic example) if someone wears a mini dress, does not mean they are shameless or without ethics. Or that if someone is strong enough to voice their opinions, and follow them, does not mean they are being disrespectful!
And yes, you are right, there is learning to be had on both sides. But I really want Manav to support Chhan Chhan in everything. Otherwise, there was no point in getting married! Imagine Chhan Chhan's position. A new house, new people, outworldly friendly, but when push comes to shove, do not support her. A MIL who is by all appearances, loving, but doing everything happening to her that is negative. And then to top it off, a husband who is not supportive!! What's the point of romance and cute moments, when your husband does not understand you when it comes to crunch??!
Sorry, i'll stop my rant now!!
Edited by crazyforsanaya - 24 June 2013 at 12:17pm