Originally posted by: sree_20
Before I begin to write my view points on this topic, I would like to thank all the members who have given their input on this topic. I must tell you all that the replies were simply great, one exceeding the other.
I would like to give a special mention to the replies by Akshata. Tremendous analysis, very thoughtful, I must say. Keep it up, Akshata.
This topic as Anjali puts it, "Nature Vs. Nurture" is very debateable.According to me, a child inherits some qualities, some mannerisms from parents. But it is also true that the child gains from the environment in which it grows. So I would say that it is a Mixture of both "Nature" and "Nurture".
In general, if you see a child or a grown-up, you can indentify in his /her face, a resemblance to either of the parents. The child might have acquired certain mannerisms from them, it may be anything - standing style, walking style, way of speaking, likes and dislikes with regard to food ....the list is endless.
I would at this point, like to tell you all something about me. I have a unique style of holding my pen or pencil while writing. Unique in the sense, many of my friends, who have noticed this, have burst into laughter. But, to tell you the real truth, my father holds his pen the same way I hold it. So do you all think that I have copied this minute stylefrom my father? The answer is NO. This has just come in me, my parents noticed this similaritiy in our writing style when I was in my Std 6...This is just a very small example thro' which I want to tell you all that "Certain Qualities can be inherited".
Now i will move on to the real Topic of Discussion.
I would list out certain characteristic traits in AStha and Sia and then compare them to their parents.
The Wavery Nature of Astha: Astha wants to become a doctor just because Simran is a doctor. She has promised her mother that that she will one day, become a doctor. But, to become a doctor, one needs to put in lot of hard work. But Astha, a playful character as she is, wants to enjoy life. She is not serious about her studies. She always makes up her mind to study well, attend classes, read in the library. But she then thinks otherwise, does not keep upto what she has thought.
THis wavery nature in Astha has come from her father Abhi who also suffered from this. He married Simran, then went to Kiran, repented forleaving Simran, wanted Simran back, married Neha. So he never had his prorities straight on marriage.Astha not Understanding Situations: Astha after knowing the truth that Simran is not her mother, could have calmed down, understood Simran's viewpoint. But she never did that. She got wild at a woman who devoted 18 long years forher.
Abhi also messed up many situations because of his immaturity. To talk of the worst, he allowed Neha to brood over the fact that he was more friendly ans caring for Simran.
If only Abhi had the maturity, he could have clearly bridged between Friendship for Simran and Love,Affection for Neha. This line between Friendship and Love is very thin, but one should be very clear in drawing this line. Abhi did not do this, did not understand the situation , thus lost Neha.The Impulsive, Insecure Nature of Astha: Astha has been brought up by Simran in a very pampered way. One thing, Astha has known in life is that, she should be loved by all. When she saw Simran caring for Divya at first, then Sia, Astha lost her cool, felt insecure and jealous.
This attitude , she has inherited from her mother, Neha who was a very insecure character. She was very insecure before marriage because she had a mentally unstable mother, then, she was a very insecure wife, always used to have the fear of Abhi going away to Simran.Astha is very impulsive in her reactions. She always has the attitude of jumping into conclusions without analysing things. She behaved very rudely with Simran after she got to know that Simran is not her mother.
Neha, her mother, also did the same thing. She could have analysed the Abhi-Simran issue in a better way, talked her heart out in a cool and composed manner to Abhi. She did not do it and was very impulsive in whatever she did.Now I would move on to Sia.
Liking for Photography, Books: Sia has a liking for photography. She loves to read books. She gets so involved reading those books that she remembers the writings in the books she has read.
Abhi was a fashion photographer, so Sia has inherited that trait from her father. Abhi used to write columns in papers, now writes books. So the intellectual mind to read and understand human relationships has come to Sia from Abhi.Great Level of Maturity, Sensibility, Determination, Dedication: Sia at her tender age, is so mature, has her priorities set. Though she reacted rudely to Archana once she knew about her truth, she quickly analysed the issue, told Archana some soothing words that she is her mother.
Sia is able to advise anyone, be it Simran, AStha, Sid. She shows a high level of maturity, sensibility.
She has inherited this from Simran who was very mature from a small age. Simran had her priorities set, wanted to do service as a doctor, achieved it. The same levl of dedication and determination can also be seen in Sia. Sia was determined to ctach her friends' killers. She did it. So, Sia, like Simran, knows the art of setting targets in life and achieving them.So with this comparison, I say that AStha has taken up all the worst qualities from her parents. Though there weer certain nice qualities in Neha and Abhi, AStha has inherited a set of bad qualities from her parents.
Sia on the other hand, has taken up only the good qualities of her parents, Abhi and Simran and not inherited the bad or negative qualities in them.
Sree! Very well said.
There is one point in you post that I throughly disagree with. Astha might have gone after Neha and Abhi, but I can't say that she's has all of there "negative" qualities.
For one, Astha can't see any injustice happening, so she may react harshly and take drastic measures, but her heart is in the right place. This can't be negative. This was Abhi's quality as well.
Her actions may be considerend bad or negative, but that doesn't necessaryly mean that she has "bad or negative" qualities.
Compare to SIA, she is very emotional. She thinks through her heart, not her head, but agian , that doesnt mean SIA is a better person than the other.
Astha should not be blamed for how she feels or reacts. To a certain extent, I can understand how she's feeling. Her reality was hidden from her for so many years. She was raised by her mother, and with out a father. Now all of a sudden, she finds out by chance that she is not Simran's daughter. She feel all alone in this world. To add to that, Radha who is her actual Nani feeds her will all the other crap, it's only natural to reach that way. She finds out that her real mother died because of Simran. Who can she trust?? What would any of us do in this situation?
We as an audiance know what Simran is all about and how she loves Astha, but for her prespective, it's going to take time for her to understand the reality.
Sia has the same feeling too, otherwise why would she insist on looking for her real mother, even after she realizes her mother and Nani love her so much.
The only difference is that SIA thinks with her head and Astha with her heart.
But I believe no quality or aspect of a person's life is bad or negative....only thoughts and actions are. It's all in the prespective and circumstances.
Sree, I hope this was not too offending to you. This was my prespective on the matter.
Thanks
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