I personally don't see anything wrong in that because the society is that way only ... I have uncles whom I hate to core but out of respect to my dad I go, plus you guys are not married yet ... was he there for u once the marriage ended?
as for MIL well thats her son, It may sound weird but usually in this kind of situations mothers are very clingy to their sons and love to control them ... if you do decide to continue with this relationship, you need to speak with the bf and mother ... you need to tell them both, what you are not comfortable with ... r u close to the mil does she likes you? if yes then maybe ask him or her about why she did not speak with you ... also marriage is a very auspicious occasion maybe she didn't wanted to jinx it by talking about death ... I know it seems like an excuse but she is an old lady even younger generations sometimes think that way ... I think communication is the key, she might be jealous of you ... you really need to set rules before you continue with this relationship, because what seems abnormal to you may be normal to them like you said they only have eachother so I m sure its going to be hard for the mother to accept you ... I don't know what other problems you have with him, but u stayed with him for two years so there must be something that you admire or like about him, but if you think that you cant really tolerate the way he takes care of you then you need to look somewhere else ... you mentioned something about his mother sleeping in the same bed as him , I know it seems abnormal but I have seen married guy sleeping in the same bed as mother, (not at night times but in the afternoon for nap) you know my parents moved to a new place, at that time brother was married, he even had a kid ... my mom is big in size and has health problem, they didn't moved all the furniture to a new place, I went there to visit, it was around afternoon, my bro's room had bed because it came with the house, so my bro would actually tell my mom to sleep on the bed and he slept there too, obviously they had different blankets and it was in the afternoon and my sister in law never objected to it ... I guess it all depends on the situation, but your bf is very close to his mother, you really need to talk to him and see what he says ... you cant continue a relationship where you have doubts and concerns for future
Edited by trupat - 03 May 2013 at 8:06pm