Originally posted by: Samanalyse
@inlieu: I don't think it is fair to brush Yash's own abandonment issues under the rug and dismiss it as selfish behaviour. Also, I think you have the right to be selfish when you all but lose your child. I am not saying his behaviour towards Aarti is right, but it is not surprising me either, after the initial shock and some thinking. Everyone sees Aarti's issues because she shares with people and becomes more needful of approval when she feels abandoned. Yash goes into his shell and makes his anger known when people try to pry him out of it. There is a reason for that. He is a really sensitive person and if he were to come out of his shell, he is not sure he could cope with the emotions that would wash over him, especially when he feels abandoned by Aarti right now.
Both Yash and Aarti took each other's strength for granted. They both have a lot of introspection ahead of them. Yash's will come automatically when Ishita's truth is revealed but Aarti's? I am still not convinced that the CVs will ever step beyond martyring her because of her basic nature.
If you read one of my earlier posts, I mentioned how Yash is going through the same sort of emotions and reacting similarly to how he did after losing Arpita. Going into a shell is his nature, and makes him selfish. Not because he deliberately means to be that way or hurt people, but he makes it nearly impossible to reach him if he chooses to. Only the kids seem to have been let in, whereas in the past, that wouldn't have happened either. I was basically saying what you said, that his behavior is true to his nature. I'm not surprised, silly as the track may seem timing-wise. I guess this is what we're seeing with Yash, though in his case, he alienated Aarti. I am curious to know if this has extended to his siblings too. Aarti and the kids got through to him before by showing him he was needed, and this must happen again, though I'm not sure how. I am pretty sure one of the reasons for his anger is low self-esteem, feeling that he wasn't a good enough father to prevent Aayu being kidnapped. Isn't that how he felt too, when Aarti and Ansh left home? He kept wondering where he'd gone wrong and I guess it is like that now too.
As with the post-Mumbai phase, I totally understand where Yash is coming from and am also not surprised at his behavior. I also disagree completely that Yash only 'loved Aarti because of Aayu' because we know better. He will come around...What bothered me was Yash pointing out to Aarti what "she'd done to him". Again, it's about him, his grief, his loss, etc. What about hers? She fought like crazy to have Aayu, yet she has to remain strong because that's who she is and is expected to be. We have yet to see a total breakdown of Aarti, and I'm praying that we get to see it now. Despite being treated so bad by Yash, she has never given up on their relationship or called it quits, but he seems to do that so much easier. I know it's Yash after all, but it must be killing his wife to think about that over and over.
Yes, Aarti made a mistake, made several in fact. She needs to start to think of sharing and consulting, not diving headfirst into crazy situations. Her 'crazy' behavior is only making Yash angrier. As for her abandonment issues, I'd like to think the CVs had a whole track planned for that, but never got to it because they had to kill Prashant off and have the little family abandoned by SP!
I guess Yash and Aarti still have a lot to learn about being good partners and soulmates, because though love conquers all, it isn't enough.
@bold - could you explain what you meant by that please? Not sure I understood you. 😳
Edited by inlieu - 10 years ago
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