Debate Mansion
Debate Mansion

India-Forums

   

Social Norms Vs True Respect

Athena90 IF-Rockerz
Athena90
Athena90

I-F Crazy Creatives
Joined: 15 May 2005
Posts: 5483

Posted: 29 July 2006 at 6:36am | IP Logged
hello

Most of us call people elder to us, esp on IF di or bhaiya. The interesting thing would be that many times we dont call our own elder sister or cousin that way. So when we call someone di, do we really do so because they are just older than us by approximately few years? or do we do so, because we see that everyone is doing so?

I admit when i came to IF, the whole concept of di was rather mysterious to me. I have called my cousins akka (tamil for di when i was younger) but stopped when i grew older. The concept of this di calling took me some time to adapt too and i too was immersed in this culture. Recently, i stopped. I realised that i dont have to call someone di just because they are a few yrs elder and if i might ever say not wiser or more mature than me always. Sometimes though, certain people are more mature and really like a sis than i call them a di.

So the questions i pose to you guys today (after a LONG intro) would be:

- Why do u call someone di? Social Norm or real respect?
- Do you think everyone that calls someone di really means it?
- And if u think its more of just a norm, is it worth following and why?

Looking foreward to hear your comments

Cheers,
Sneha

MNMS Goldie
MNMS
MNMS

Joined: 15 December 2005
Posts: 1989

Posted: 29 July 2006 at 7:53am | IP Logged
Hmmm.. Hot hitting topic LOL   LOL LOL Wink

-Why do u call someone di? Social Norm or real respect?

Personally speaking.. i have got 2 elder sistersin real life.... and i have a huge age difference from them.. i call them baji.. here in IF there are "di's" who are of the same age.. so it is automatically a di..not becoz of social norm... but becoz i respect them as i respect my sisters...Smile ...but the a**** is just to pick them LOL and they know it Tongue .. are u listening di's...i mean a****** LOL Wink (anybody! HELP me to find a hide-out LOL LOL LOL )

- Do you think everyone that calls someone di really means it?

I have given the answer.. personally yes.. but can't say abt anyone else.. it depends wht the person's perceptions are!

- And if u think its more of just a norm, is it worth following and why?

it is respect ... i have been taught it this way as im the youngest member of my family cousins ..sisters ..uncles ..aunties ... so u have to give them respect like this.. this is our culture no matter where we live... u can be quite open and free to them -I am... but the formal respect is necessary in real life... And in virtual.. it is a form of respect too.. if u call them di.. Smile

sosweet IF-Rockerz

Joined: 11 August 2005
Posts: 6872

Posted: 31 July 2006 at 3:02am | IP Logged
THE ACCOUNT OF THE MEMBER WHO POSTED THIS MESSAGE HAS BEEN TEMPORARILY BANNED.

If you think this is an error please Contact us.
IdeaQueen IF-Dazzler
IdeaQueen
IdeaQueen

Joined: 23 August 2006
Posts: 3152

Posted: 01 February 2007 at 8:38am | IP Logged

 Hi All!

All my replies in this Post will be dedicated  to Abhijit Shukla Uncle and MNMS aapa!!LOL

MNMS Goldie
MNMS
MNMS

Joined: 15 December 2005
Posts: 1989

Posted: 01 February 2007 at 9:04am | IP Logged
Oh come on Myth Cry Angry This is going bizarre!! Ouch First you were teasing me with MNMS ji... now MNMS aapa... I think now is the time to use my most worthy weaponEvil Smile

Wondering to lift the ban on the word AUNTY now Tongue

Edited by MNMS - 01 February 2007 at 9:06am
mermaid_QT IF-Sizzlerz
mermaid_QT
mermaid_QT

Joined: 25 September 2005
Posts: 11613

Posted: 01 February 2007 at 9:44am | IP Logged
I think more than respect, it is a neat way of bonding given that all this that we share is confined to a virtual world!! I actually like it. Respect on the other hand, is what one earns for their deeds/ posts in this context. I applaud and respect so many viewpoints so many youngsters (i hardly have any dis in this forum LOL). Calling someone Di is mere bonding that I hope is mutual rather than it being a norm / pretense.
IdeaQueen IF-Dazzler
IdeaQueen
IdeaQueen

Joined: 23 August 2006
Posts: 3152

Posted: 01 February 2007 at 9:59am | IP Logged

Originally posted by sneha3105

hello

Most of us call people elder to us, esp on IF di or bhaiya. The interesting thing would be that many times we dont call our own elder sister or cousin that way. So when we call someone di, do we really do so because they are just older than us by approximately few years? or do we do so, because we see that everyone is doing so?

I admit when i came to IF, the whole concept of di was rather mysterious to me. I have called my cousins akka (tamil for di when i was younger) but stopped when i grew older. The concept of this di calling took me some time to adapt too and i too was immersed in this culture. Recently, i stopped. I realised that i dont have to call someone di just because they are a few yrs elder and if i might ever say not wiser or more mature than me always. Sometimes though, certain people are more mature and really like a sis than i call them a di.

So the questions i pose to you guys today (after a LONG intro) would be:

- Why do u call someone di? Social Norm or real respect?

Just for coutesy.Later on after good interactions with that Di we develop respect automatically. Same with Sowmyaa di and Subha Di in my case.
- Do you think everyone that calls someone di really means it?

Yes.I don't call every tom dick and harry with a relation.


- And if u think its more of just a norm, is it worth following and why?

this makes us grow as better human beings

Looking foreward to hear your comments

Cheers,
Sneha

For that matter, I call Abhijit Shukla of this forum as Abhijit Uncle and Jatayu as Uncle J .I really mean it and respect them.

MK

drymaple Senior Member
drymaple
drymaple

Joined: 07 December 2006
Posts: 516

Posted: 01 February 2007 at 10:22am | IP Logged

Originally posted by sneha3105

hello

Most of us call people elder to us, esp on IF di or bhaiya. The interesting thing would be that many times we dont call our own elder sister or cousin that way. So when we call someone di, do we really do so because they are just older than us by approximately few years? or do we do so, because we see that everyone is doing so?

I admit when i came to IF, the whole concept of di was rather mysterious to me. I have called my cousins akka (tamil for di when i was younger) but stopped when i grew older. The concept of this di calling took me some time to adapt too and i too was immersed in this culture. Recently, i stopped. I realised that i dont have to call someone di just because they are a few yrs elder and if i might ever say not wiser or more mature than me always. Sometimes though, certain people are more mature and really like a sis than i call them a di.

So the questions i pose to you guys today (after a LONG intro) would be:

- Why do u call someone di? Social Norm or real respect?
- Do you think everyone that calls someone di really means it?
- And if u think its more of just a norm, is it worth following and why?

Looking foreward to hear your comments

Cheers,
Sneha

- Why do u call someone di? Social Norm or real respect?

i even call a auto-rickshaw driver...bhaiya..and my kaamwali bai as mousi and any dukaanwala as bhaiyaLOL

it has become a formality nowadays to call someone by 'di' or 'bhaiya' rather than respect. maturity has nothing to do with it. its the age difference which actually matters. and it's entirely upto any individual to decide if this kind of addressing is appropriate or not.

but i like it...because it separates me from other ppl of my age in any other country...xcept japan ofcourseLOLthey follow the same way of addressingEmbarrassed


- Do you think everyone that calls someone di really means it?

i mean it.Embarrassed dunno about anyone else.Embarrassed


- And if u think its more of just a norm, is it worth following and why?

it is worth following...because everyone gets their share of importance...its sometimes good to feel that the person respects you by addressing you as 'di' (even though they r many other ways to make you feel impLOL)but nowadays; ppl don't mean it..when they say it....and i wudn't like to be addressed as 'di' by such ppl.Embarrassed

take care,

devyani.Embarrassed

ta ta.Smile



Edited by drymaple - 01 February 2007 at 10:26am

Go to top

Related Topics

  Topics Author Replies Views Last Post
Social Networking and responsible positions

Author: IdeaQueen   Replies: 4   Views: 588

IdeaQueen 4 588 07 November 2009 at 12:54pm by return_to_hades
Social Media Revolution

Author: return_to_hades   Replies: 3   Views: 431

return_to_hades 3 431 05 October 2009 at 9:46pm by Summer3
AccessAbility - Leading social change

Author: accessability   Replies: 1   Views: 415

accessability 1 415 10 June 2009 at 9:47am by corvette
Social norms..where is the balance?

Author: raj5000   Replies: 6   Views: 460

raj5000 6 460 23 January 2008 at 12:46pm by Gauri_3
norms followed for years, right?

Author: raj5000   Replies: 5   Views: 367

raj5000 5 367 29 June 2007 at 10:20am by Gauri_3

Forum Quick Jump

Forum Category / Channels
Forums

Disclaimer: All Logos and Pictures of various Channels, Shows, Artistes, Media Houses, Companies, Brands etc. belong to their respective owners, and are used to merely visually identify the Channels, Shows, Companies, Brands, etc. to the viewer. Incase of any issue please contact the webmaster.

Popular Channels :
Star Plus | Zee TV | Sony TV | Colors TV | SAB TV | Life OK

Quick Links :
Top 100 TV Celebrities | Top 100 Bollywood Celebs | About Us | Contact Us | Advertise | Forum Index