Originally posted by Tamilwife
The guy had no idea that the wife had told his parents abt not consummating. But I guess he would have realized it when his parents suddenly started giving a talk. The wife had already suggested seeing a doctor or a therapist prior to telling her parents. Being insecure he didn't respond to the wife to all er pleas. Frustrated, she told her parents. She would hug and kiss him but he wld nvr respond. It's not only abt sex. He would not even put his arm around her or hold her and. Now after a week since the condom incident she feels he needs to be angry at her so his parents won't pressure him. He has still not spoken a single word to her, even though she is the one who serves his food daily.
She feels he is shy, insecure and is hiding behind his mom now. Should she patiently wait for him to change? Which she realizes will take lot of time and effort. Or should she just leave him and forget abt him, not that he ever spoke a loving word in the last 3 months. She does not love him enough now to go thru living with him. She is sure he will only hurt her more.
Well...in that case, this is a no brainer. It isn't fair that he is dumping all his issues on her and expecting her alone to adjust and make all the changes. This guy is a married adult yet he still cannot cut the strings from his mother's apron loose. He obviously has extreme dependency issues among other things. She should file for divorce. It seems like he will not change and if she sticks around waiting for him to change, it might take forever. She will only be wasting away her youth that way. It is better for her in the long run to leave this sourpuss of a husband and start over.