@Angie: You say, 'What one considers as standing up for ones right may be seen as harassment by the other party.' if a person wants to fight for his/her own rights, he/she won't go to courts. In courts, both men and women don't get justice or get due rights. The only chance they get is for harassing each other because law has a lot of loopholes and the judicial system is very lazy.
I am sorry, BoredDamsel, the statement I made offended you. I can see I didn't make my point clear. I have nothing against female PhDs or techies. I have only complain against those women who behave like the female doctor you have mentioned. I know the case of one Phd and one techie woman who instead of utilizing their talents harassed their husbands.
Please don't apologize! I put a smiley at the end with the hope that you understood I was joking! I just wanted to point out that people do generalize like that..!I don't understand some people.. what happiness do they get out of torturing others? I'm unhappy, so I will make others around me miserable too??? 😲What I know is a nice husband supports his wife if she is ambitious and on whatever she likes to do in life. He is prepared to live away from his parents if he could see that living with them is against the interests of his wife, if she could mention him clearly what she wants to do in life. This is how I had been to my deceased wife. I shifted to the city where she wanted to work because I knew I could do well in that city also.Agreed about the bold and that applies to a wife as well.. she should support her husband too, even if he wants to study at a later stage in his life, for example.I'm sorry to hear about your wife!Edited..Ok, just wanted to add.. those women must have had some mental problems. The doctor I mentioned.. he and his wife went for marriage counseling and it was revealed that she was suffering from some condition .. nothing serious, but something like issues adapting to new situations .. but that's how they managed to get the divorce in the end! No one in their right mind would do such illogical stuff! Normally such things happen in marriages when one is insecure or jealous or has ego issues or spoilt or adamant or just unable to adjust.. or maybe they might even be homosexual and not know it!The girl you mentioned was clearly depressed, and because of her ego, she wouldn't admit it was her own fault she was depressed.. and blamed her husband and her family. Baah, screw her! Your friend deserves better..
@Moomin: You say, 'Why do courts believe the wife rather than the mother or sister? Because often mothers and sisters collude with the male members of the family to abuse their daughter in laws especially in dowry related issues '
That means courts can believe the wife because in majority of the cases, mothers and sisters abuse the DIL. And so the court need not look into the merits of any case and just make a decision because of what is happening in majority. Still my question stands, 'What kind of justice is this?'Every case is unique and every human being whether it is male or female deserve to be understood and heard. Males and his family members also deserve fair hearing. And as far those women, who are able to work as doctors, engineers or MBAs or any other working woman, anyone can only laugh if she tells the court that she is being tortured by the family members of the husband. All that she needs to do is take up another residence, concentrate on the job and put pressure on husband that the marriage would be continued if he prepared to stay with her where she is and telling him that what she wants to do is important for her. Good husbands understand what she says. This is in total contrast to taking the husband and his family members to the court and harassing them which nobody can accept. Probably if these women harassment laws were used by housewives and those who have low education and it these women tell in the court that the husband's family tortured her, what she says could have some merit and could be accepted. But then this issue became prominent because the laws 498a and DV act are (mis) used by women who are techies, doctors, PhDs and MBAs and others who can work.Definitely everyone has right to fight for justice. But fight for showing your strength. But don't cry a victim, if you have means to help yourself.Cheers,
I agree to this side today
infact women now a days is no longer bechari or abla naarii have seen and experienced it myself as well...now a days women cares less if they are getting divorced or their marriage can break.i am MUSLIM AlhumduLillah...and near ALLAH SWT in all legals works Divorce is the one most hated one...now a days women in houses are more dangerous then stupid politicans hell man they can do anything to get their motives doneinfact we can see Ekta's famous K shows vamps inour houses lolharrasing not just man in family but womens as wellALLAH protect us all from such stupid womens
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