Posted: 11 April 2013 at 12:08pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by enova2011
@Agree with you. Lavanya unknowingly became the scapegoat in Arshi realizing their feelings for each other. The vacillation of Khushi, from this nave girl who would classify her inner feelings, dhaks dhaks for a man to acidity to the woman who is supposedly well read into scriptures and firmly aware of the values and virtues of the institute of marriage,was rather blurred.
I know this topic is about ASR and La and whether or not he really wronged her, and the arguments are great on both sides. I admit, I wished they could have shown in a flashback how the relationship started, and I'm just going to assume that La initiated the relationship. I don't know why, but I can never picture ASR asking a girl if she wanted to be his girlfriend, I just sort of picture him going along with it and then laying down his terms.
Anyway, there was one part of the show that really bothered me, and it was the Khushi-LA equation after Diwali miss-kiss. Now I know that Khushi is a small town girl, naive about the world, men, etc., but I don't care what village you're from, when a man has you pinned against the wall with his face in your hands and is moving his lips towards yours, you kind of know what is going to happen. I mean, she must have anticipated it because she closed her eyes. It was a great Arshi moment, but what bothered me is that there didn't seem to be a reflection from Khushi's part on how this betrayed La. Now, I do get that she is overwhelmed and confused about what he just did, and she's thinking about her own heartbreak, but even when she was being fake happy to La after he announced his engagement to her, she never has a reflection about what this means for La, how they both sort of betrayed her. Just because they didn't complete the kiss doesn't mean that they still weren't betraying her. Khushi was only thinking about her sadness and her heartbreak at the time, which is justifiable, but for a girl who values everyone else's happiness, and has a very strict moral code, this actions just seemed un-Khushi like to me.
I mean, she knew immediately that she had to tell Anjali the truth about Shyam betraying her, so why didn't she see it here? I don't think the makers of the show would have actually shown Khushi telling LA that 'hey, your live in bf tried to kiss me,' but all i wanted to see is some inner dialogue about how Khushi recognized the betrayal to La from both herself and ASR. Yes, ANjali and Shyam were married so there's a slight difference there, but for all intents and purposes, LA and ASR were in a live in, where they were supposedly doing everything a married couple do, (as LA told Khushi) why did Khushi not think this was wrong as well? Is it because she never viewed their relationship seriously because there was no mangalsutra?
I feel that if Khushi had not been interfering in LA-ASR's personal life and brainwashing La about marriage, that the live in would have continued as it was meant to until this scene. The discord between La and ASR stemmed from La changing her thinking about marriage. If she had stuck to the original terms, then they would have continued on and eventually ASR would have broken up with her when he realized that KHushi meant more to him, that he was falling for her.
Also, yes ASR stood up for La against his family, but if the makers of the show allowed it, ASR could have stood his ground that La was to share his room. He just sort of let it go after Nani insisted.