Posted: 13 April 2013 at 4:57am | IP Logged
I was greatly interested in your background, being Tamilian myself (the B stands for, what else, Balasubramanian!), and I will PM you one of these days to go further down that road. As for the age factor, you are on safe ground calling me Aunty, as I am 60+ and a retired diplomat, having doin 38 years in the Indian Foreign Service.
I see where you are coming from on Arjun and Purvi, and while I would accept the logic of what they did if it was a shared decision, here, it most definitely was not. And that is what I mean by Purvi trying to play God. Now it will be Onir, and I would not be surprised if he ended up in jail, with a very distinguished medical career in ruins, because of his obsession with catering to this girl's ideas and sudden flights. Well, he made his choice and he has to suffer for it, but for me, he is the sole bright spot in PR today, and I would be very sorry to see such a train wreck..
Shyamala Aunty, I took the liberty of replying to you in this thread for the simple reason that I could not spend time to find the previous thread where I responded. You see, I do not spend a lot of time in the forum and I find there are many threads on similar topic !! I thank you for taking in yet another niece from the forum , I am much honored though I do confess that I am that young as I may sound with the 'auntyji'. Well, there is a certain perception on the average age of the Arvi fan.
I am called Vasu at home and as background, I am originally from Chennai, have been living abroad for 17 years - all of it spent raising a family and being a hardcore professional in a global firm. Though I can manage a smattering of hindi, this is the first soap I have watched and that too, only from Feb last year ,thanks to a friend who mentioned Arvi in a casual conversation. I got hooked, began to invest whatever time I get on the forum and watching the serial. To sum it all, this side of me is a surprise to my family and would definitely be a shock to my friends if they come to know about it.
My journey with Arvi has been like everyone else's. I now favour the two actors than of their characters. It would be quite distasteful to me for Arvi to reunite in their current condition but deep down in my heart, I am hoping some "twists and turns" in future would justify the means and the end !
Without boring you or anyone kind enough to read my rants, I do not justify every act of Purvi , Arjun, Soham in the same way I do with Ovi. And I may be the only person in the forum who don't see Purvi's act of giving up Arjun as her loving him less . I firmly believe there are different shades of love ; I have personal experiences in my own friends circle on how two soul-mates decide not to enter marraige-hood for the sake of their family. I can only imagine the torture they endure in the name of life with such scarred hearts but the decision had made sense to them at that point of their lives. The only difference in the soap is that it wasn't mutual decision at least not prior to the hilltop scene.
I do not judge the strength in anyone's character in their ability to take 'right' decisions , that is decisions that strictly confirm to the norms of the society but how they face the consequence of their decisions , control the damage and moving on. For me, the differential factor is the intentions ('Karanam' ) and not always the actions ('Kariyam').
On your specific points about Ovi's current plight on the truth of Pari, I had written earlier this week
in the forum that this is a horror for any woman. And on Arjun's reaction on baby Pari, I felt that that was momentary reaction on the overwhelming odds on how Pari survived given how she was conceived, Purvi leaving the town and had to endure till that point of time. Remember how grateful he sounded to Ovi when she stopped drinking and started caring for herself and the baby, though this would be the normal expectation from any husband? I may be wrong but I haven't seen him behaving with the baby any more or any less affectionate than before.
I enjoyed my first venture in the forum of putting my thoughts into words and sorry again for the length of the mail. I hope we will continue our interaction in the coming days and weeks. Take care.
p.s: On the user name, it is actually an anagram of names but there is also a meaning on what 'archis' means.