Posted: 11 April 2013 at 1:13am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mozart66
Here's a standing ovation to you!
A very thought-provoking post. I completely agree with your views and understand your distress from the bottom of my heart. People who have turned 'blind' towards the character RK do not understand the extent of his mis-treatment and the impact or the aftermath. I had seen such violence from up-close happening to my very close and dear friends. A bench-mate of mine in the second year of college was married off by her parents (in the same year before she could even complete her graduation) to her husband who was chosen by the parents in the children's childhood. My friend went with her husband to UK after marriage only to be treated horribly - beaten blue and black, suspicious of her behavior all the time, abused exactly like RK is doing to Madhu. With no emotional support, no financial independence, in a different country with her passport in her husband's possession, it was a sheer miracle that she could escape with her neighbor's help and contacted her father in India who flew to UK right away to bring her back to India. Another friend of mine in the USA was abused by her boyfriend exactly like RK (manhandling and forcing her) and she took ages before she could come out of the trauma. She got nightmares for a very long time. It left her scarred and scared for life. Another case happened in exactly the similar manner to my mom's distant cousin. Because mom's brother, my Maama, was in Police, as soon as they got to know about the abuse (she was locked up in the bathroom without food and was told to drink water supplied from the tap in the bathroom. She cleverly dropped a chit writing about this incident from the bathroom window which her neighbor luckily saw and read and contacted her family), they freed her from her husband, got her divorced but she was so scared that at the young age of 23 she refused to re-marry and settle in life. She till today has not re-married. She hates men.
The bottom line is that you, me and many like us in this forum, however much we scream and tell people that what is being shown is wrong and can impress the minds of young generation, our voice of reason will be lost in the so-called passion and glorification of the character RK. So I have learnt my lesson - come to the forum to read only the posts that still make sense and do voice my concern whether people like it or not.. Just as these people have a right to watch TV and express their opinions, however wrong they may be in our eyes, we too should continue to express our views whether they like it or not. Unless one of them actually sees or experiences the pain Madhu is going through, they will never realize. If they want to learn the hard way, be it. I just wish even though we feel distressed over the state of the forum, we should continue voicing the reasons too.
And now they will say, see RK is not starving her or beating her, so it's not really abuse. Someone made a gif of the scene where he kisses her hand, and they say- there is no disgust in her eyes. She says no, she doesn't want to enter, she asks him to let her go, and all they can see is this is his love.
I'm reminded of Mr.Collins from Pride and Prejudice who couldn't accept Elizabeth was rejecting his proposal so he kept saying a girl's no really means yes. Same here- no matter how many times Madhu says no, RK and his bhakts don't understand.