Originally posted by archis_infinity
I agree that this is not the "norm" for partners to ask each other prior to marriage but I also ask you is it norm for people to be married to a partner when they know how much one of your partner is in love with someone else at the time of proposal?
What made OVi close her eyes to the fact that Arjun and Purvi belong to each other? Remember the hospital scene after Arjun got hit with bullets? She saw with her own eyes on how much Arjun loved Purvi and how he chose Purvi's hands over hers? If any of what Arjun had told her before about not being in love with her did not get to her, the above act should definitely had made the message loud and clear.
This is how I see it. I don't think that Ovi accepted that fact that Arjun and Purvi loved each other. We can call it denial, or a blind trust that she had regarding Arjun, refering him always as "Meri Arjun". Maybe, she being an emotional girl and Arjun being always there for her while growing up made her deny this important fact. The other problem was that no one, Arjun nor her immediately family or even DK tried to talk it through. She needed time to slowly cope or maybe even accept that fact, but that even never happened, for Sulo, Archana and Purvi - all just rubbed Arjun Purvi''s marrige in her face, and she being emotionally weak, it was hard to cope. Personally, I hate emotional ppl, but I do know the trama a person acn go through, when unexpectedly an engagement or relationship is broken. It takes time to heal and accept, none was given to her sadly.
I call her really stupid when she accepted Arjun's the second time, clearly when she herself accepted that Arjun loved Purvi. To me she should have simply walked away. But alas, her love made her blind and made her think that Arjun really wanted to move forward with her. He said so himself, that Ovi is his wife and future. Here she may not have trusted him - but on the other hand, not trusting him - couldn't have been the right foundation for any relationship, let alone a marriage. Yes, she was simply stupid and trusted Arjun blindly. Arjun didn't deserve this trust and now it is backfiring on her.
In such circumstances, why wouldn't any girl make sure that her Partner that she is going to marry is ready for the life commitment?
No, I as a person couldn't advise to make sure that the partner isn't in another intimate relationship. For (call it old fashion), I could trust my partner and hope that he tells me the truth. And more importantly that my partner acts with honor, even if he was in any other previous relationship as this partner chose to marry me on his own accord. For that is the foundation and building block for any relationship - trust that the partners are true to any commitment, has faith in each other, self respect and honor. Now, of course, not saying that people aren't let down. It happens too often. But, say if partners are willing to honor their commitment, asking such questions only pulls out a bag of possible misunderstanding, a doubt reagrding the other partner's commitment and more importantly, a possible mis-trust about a partner's past that could spill into the present relationship. This is how I look at it...
Purvi is often blamed for being stupid of giving in to Ovi's deal even after being intimate with Arjun that day but how stupid Ovi has been with the self-denial of Arjun not loving her? Everyone is living through the consequences of their stupidity. For Ovi, it is the sense of betrayal that she is acting as the mother to the child that is her husband's with his ex-fiancee (god forbid, this should be the horror for any woman) and for Purvi, she is well aware of the "nafrat" that she is going to endure from her aai and family which always has been her first priority.
Originally posted by Kalapi