There are some things in society which are there because they are. While pre marital sex is personal decision, it effects the society and individuals living in it. In countries like India and other countries in South Asia it is unacceptable. While you are most welcome to have your life to yourself , you are also bringing another life to the community who will have to love with the stigma of being illegitimate child.
There are not single moms? Of course there are , unwed mothers too but over the ages people in the western countries have opened up to the idea but it is not still viewed as a completely normal custom.
It depends which Western country one is talking about, as for some it is pretty normal, while for others as you say, it's not viewed as a completely normal custom.
Meera is not at fault with sleeping a man before marriage .. Agreed .. But when he didn't commit to marry you , why would you? Did she never think this man was fishy ?
He would come and go ..
Yes, she was stupid. However even this wasn't something of a fault. If he had just been a single man who had no intention of marrying her, it would have been still stupid, but still her prerogative to sleep with him.
I am not being shallow when I say meera is at fault .. I wouldn't care if she had sex before or after marriage but that baby is the result of anirudh's betrayal to nandini and also to meera.
When this baby comes to the planet , they will not receive the same love as they would if they were a married woman's child.
She had no intention of letting the truth to come out. Once she found out he was married, and also after Nandini's miscarriage, her plan was to leave and never contact them again. So her decision to keep the child is not a wrong one. Though I do agree that her reason to keep the child is because she still loves the Ani she spent time with, and she wants to keep the child. However no matter what, it's her choice, and she's not wrong in that.
That said, it also raises probability for more fingers raised.
No matter how modern India is , or how Bollywood is promoting "sex"
Our tradition is still our tradition
And there should be some values
I also think the number of unwed numbers are increasing on television which is not exactly the best message to send out to the young people of our community.
Television is showing these things because such things are actually a reality. And actually, television had been showing some 'bold' stories back in the 90s, before it got taken over by Saas Bahu, with a bit of Ekta's premarital sex love stories thrown in there.
And Indian literature, mythos and art are no strangers to pre-marital sex, etc. It had existed long before modern times.
No, I am not being conservative.
But meera's fault , is to sleep with someone she doesn't know fully of , someone she "assumed" would marry her
And even that, she is not at fault. The only problem was that he was a married man, and that I agree she was stupid in noticing the signs. And I think it's pretty unrealistic in this day and age that the son of the man who heads India's top pharmaceutical company--one whose real name, address and history she had--wouldn't have been found out by her or her peers. And that's another thing, we never see her friends or peers. We've only seen just her, her mother, Ani and also the children at the school (and maybe that school's headmaster, not sure).