Posted: 03 April 2013 at 10:46am | IP Logged
So Indu is actually caught red-handed by Indira. Her worst fear came true even if the spanking did not.
There are again too many questions with regard to today's episode. Those of you who deal with children and child psychology may have a more informed approach, but to my layperson mind, things needed moderation. Everything, I thought was at an extreme. Do not get me wrong, however. Not for a moment am I doubting the intentions and motives of Indira as a mother.
The first thing she did was slap her daughter in front of her school principal and someone who is a rank stranger (as far as Indira goes, Sajni is a rank stranger). For Indu, that's worse than being locked in a room, deprived of food. All rotten behaviour is a defense mechanism and a loud scream for love and attention. Indira realizes this to an extent, I think, but does not know what to do with it or how to respond to it. Its not as though she is not capable of love, but she has her own personality issues which are a result of her own upbringing and mental makeup. If she lets go of her hitlerpana, she becomes vulnerable and uneasy in her skin. And yet, she wants to raise a good, decent, educated human being. But if she wants that, she needs to first befriend her daughter.
Okay, a couple of things I do not understand. Will a school demote a kid on the request of a parent? Does that happen? Indira's second request was: if she clears Class 1, promote her to Class 3. What would happen to Class 2?
Made me think if it would have been a better alternative to see to it that Indu is tutored and home schooled and brought to par with the class she is supposed to attend in the next academic year. Wonder if that is unrealistic. Because even if the humiliation is not of the type that Indu is facing in which knee high kids are making fun of her, surely, it would dent her confidence. Maybe for life.
Rishi is at the receiving end for raising Indu so badly. There is truth in some part of that and some part of that is unfair. I have often wondered why no one keeps Indu in check. But all said and done, Rishi is more in tune with Indu's psyche and manner of thinking. He can read her well. Something that Indira is yet to begin doing. She loves Indu, no doubt, but does not know her well enough yet. And before she got to know her, she has started disciplining her. In Hitler style. Too much too soon.
Rishi's "excuses" for being a bad father (according to Indira) might sound lame, mostly because he does not earn and run the family. But the fact remains that Indira was the one who forced him to marry Shweta. There are some who can deal with decisions that are forced on them and some who cannot. There is a huge patch of grey there which can be called a number of things. But at the end of it all, he understands Indu more as a friend than as a parent. He is able to put himself in her shoes and think from there. He has sensed that this incident will further fuel the rebel in Indu who, by virtue of being a nine year old, does not know how to deal with her emotions. Indu is feeling betrayed, let down, and insulted by her own mother. And he lets Indira know this without mincing words. For Indira, this is a revelation. It comes back to the same point raised yesterday: is it that Rishi and Indu do not expect Indira to understand them when they tell the truth? Or is it that they know that regardless of the situation, she will react in the only way she knows?
Throughout I kept thinking what could have been done or should have been done. Is there really a right and wrong here? Sure, this could have been handled in a hundred different ways, but who is to say that any of those would have worked? Is Indira wrong? Maybe in method, but not in intent. Is Rishi wrong? Again, maybe in method but not in intent. This is what I meant about extremes. Both these parents are at extremes. One is too strict and the other is too lenient. The moderation is missing.
Ultimately, Indira's sole aim, motive, and vested interest is to raise a 'good' kid who has her heart and principles in the right place. But her way of doing it is rough and tough. Rishi wants the same, but his approach to things and people are gentler and more accepting. He lets people be what they are and loves them for whatever they are. Hitler is a case in point. Not once has he asked her to change for his sake. In the short time that she was in Sharma Nivas, he understood Sajni. (His reference to her heart of gold would have had some more value if they had developed that track).
I am not sure either of them is right or wrong. They are just approaching it from their individual standpoints. Most of all, they are just two people who are learning to be parents.
It actually felt nice to see Neha Talwar. That scene with everyone talking to her as though she has polluted their surroundings belonged to the 80s. She has a nice face though I thought she is better at the light hearted scenes rather than these heavy-duty emotional ones. If nothing in this post made sense, please overlook. Those who stayed with it till here, thanks for reading.
Edited by AllThingsNice - 05 April 2013 at 10:14am
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