Originally posted by moomin4455
Well...this is part of life. These are issues that people, men or women, face across the globe. And yes even in India, where society is beginning to change in metropolitan areas. It's not just icky stuff that happens in the West.
Rape of women, men and children, other forms of non-consensual sexual violence, infidelity, live-ins, these are all real. I wish we could consign all the violent stuff to FF or literature. Unfortunately for some people these are part of their daily life. These should be discussed and I see no problem with them being discussed here.
Ha, what's the use even if it happens? India refuses to criminalize marital rape.. !
But, Mooms, I completely agree. The "ickiness" is one of the main reasons domestic abuse and sexual violence doesn't get reported. People are ashamed to talk about it. I mean I don't talk to my parents about sex for example... I am still embarrassed to watch awkward scenes on TV with my parents around! Hoping that would change with the next generation... 'coz its best if your kids learn about it from you than from TV or other media. I was always embarrassed to talk about stuff I had heard, seen or experienced.. but I once did, and it helped one of my friends move on with her life and she is happily married now. Since then I freely talk about what I know, who knows who it might help!
BD I'm all for consensual sex, even you want to include kinky stuff in that - whips and chains and what not - then it has to be consensual.
If it's not consensual it's wrong and disgusting. That's all I have to say.
I am glad you brought that up. Sometimes even consensual is wrong... you know when? You might not really want to do it, but you say yes to make your partner happy. That is why most domestic violence prevails, 'coz the abuser convinces his/her rape victim that the act is alright .. and the victim, out of their love for the person, gives in.
Those people who like such FF or literature are just consigning it to fantasy I hope - there's a big difference between a fantasy and experiencing rough, unwanted treatment even if it is from a hot guy (or gal) in reality.
Unwanted bruises, rape, verbal or physical assault and rape is just disgusting.
I changed my post to make everything (s)he.. 'coz you are right even women can be violent! The speaker says about 85% abusers are male, but that means there are 15% female abusers too!
I don't know if they can understand the difference. I know moral policing is not allowed on IF.. and this post is not trying to tell them what they are doing is wrong, but is to at least give them a chance to form their own opinion!
Edited by boreddamsel - 24 March 2013 at 11:44am