Originally posted by rayadallie
chemistry comes first and foremost in any relationship/marriage, mutual trust and understanding, respect etc etc all comes after the chemistry.
No marriage is a happy one without chemistry between the partners unless my definition of chemistry is different. That special bond/attraction is where it all starts then there are additions like trust, respect, caring etc
So I do not think that some people are being fair when they just throw chemistry out the door to bring over their point about purvi and onir's marriage and they keeping it together as they recognise the institution of marriage as superior to one's happiness, wants and wishes. I sometimes wonder If we are living in today's world or is it yester year world?
just my point of view
My parents do not necessarily spark fireworks when they are around each or together...nor do my grandparents and nor do a lot of the parents of my friends who have all been married for 25+ years. There is a lot of love, respect, admiration and understanding that comes through though when they talk to each other. They are all happy loving marriages? So would you say that these happy couples who have no sparks flying about the room, are yesterworld couples who probably don't find themselves fulfilled in their marriages?
My husband and I don't exactly sing shirt da button in the rain nor do we eye lock each other across a room full of people or anything ( maybe we are not as exciting as ARVI), but the love my husband and I share is very visible to people around us and I call my marriage a very happy and fulfilling one and so does my hubby. I for one know that he will not pass me off for his mother's happiness at a deal offering in his entire life. And for me, and I am sure many other happily married couples, that trust and understanding gives so much more love and security rather than some fleeting sparky chemistry of touching hands and feeling electric jolts but which can lead to being given up like a toy for higher gains.
I guess, this is how any world is and not yester world. !0 years down the married line, people need love and trust and respect and if love is there, romance will follow but romance alone does not inspire any marriage to work.
P.S - Onir has all the givings of a loving and mature husband who gives 100% to his relationship ( as much as I dislike henpecked people) he is the one who is more like a life-long companion than Arjun can ever claim to be to either Purvi or Ovi. Arjun blindly heard Purvi's plea married Ovi and even had marital sex with her. Onir, does not look like he would heed to Purvi;s demands of him giving her up and marrying anyone else, let alone having physical intimacy with another girl. He brings maturity and a sense of grown up love that is lasting. But what is left to see is what Purvi gives him. At this point, purvi gives nothing to him, nor arjun nor her mother. She is all for herself, so hope that she realizes the importance of Onir in her life and gives him his due in the marriage. they make a lot of sense together and their marriage can be a very successful, lovely understanding and mature relationship if she gives her part to it.
Edited by pari87 - 21 March 2013 at 3:14pm