Posted: 17 March 2013 at 10:07pm | IP Logged
Woman takes to Facebook to get back husband
After Dimple Mishra, a 27 year old from Mumbai, abandoned by her
husband, turned to Facebook for support, a panchayat in Bhadohi ordered
her husband's family to accept her as their daughter-in-law or face a
Dimple, a native of Chaubepur in Varanasi who had been working in Thane
with a telecom company, married Vipin Mishra after she met him in the
city in 2009. The marriage was formalised without the consent of Vipin's family.
During that time Vipin, who also hailed from Varanasi's neighbouring district, Bhadohi, was working at a photo studio in Thane.
But when Vipin's family came to know of the marriage, it started to
pressurise him to return. For some time Vipin resisted, but in April
2011, a few days before a daughter was born to the couple, he returned
to Bhadohi and re-married another girl as per his family's wishes.
After appeals to her in-laws and letters to the district administration
did not help, Dimple turned to Facebook this September to build support
for her cause.
"Whoever I turned to for help, wanted something in return. The police
paid no attention to my complaint. So I thought of turning to Facebook
and befriending journalists and bloggers to help me and my daughter,"
She says that her in-laws had once come to Thane, physically assaulted
her and demanded Rs 10 lakhs. Her husband had discussed with her the
possibility of getting re-married to please his parents but to continue living with her. The stress of the situation killed Dimple's father Balwant Mishra in April 2011.
"My in-laws said that our marriage
was not in accordance with local customs. For it to be accepted, we
would have to give them dowry and host a feast. Vipin left in April on
the pretext of seeing his ailing
grandfather and married a girl from Allahabad
in return for a huge dowry. He met me a few times after our daughter
was born but then told me he could no longer be responsible for us. My
in-laws began to
threaten me saying that I had brought shame to them," she says.
On Saturday, Dimple reached Varanasi with her daughter and was received
by a crowd of supporters, among them social activists—many of whom had
first heard of her plight on Facebook. The local
administration provided her security as she reached the locked home of her in laws home in Bhadohi.
On Sunday, a panchayat was called to discuss the matter. Dimple presented photographs as proof of the marriage
and of the couple's life together. In the absence of representation
from Vipin's family the panchayat ordered that Dimple be accepted as his
wife within a week, failing which the family would be socially
"I had written to the National Human Rights Commission (NHRC) and to the
National Commission for Women. But it is the support from Facebook
which gave me the courage to come to Bhadohi. The panchayat has spoken,
now it is for Vipin's family to respond. This is a fight for my
daughter's rights. I need to have answers to the questions she will ask
me when she grows up," says Dimple.