Originally posted by farheen75
U know what arti love is a very over rated thing between a man and a woman... Both the parties demand a certain amount of everything to make that relationship work... A long term and stable relationship depends on how the couple treat their respective partners and what they both bring to that relationship... They work as a couple if the expectations of the both the parties r met or at least met to certain extemt which is keeps them and satisfied, whether they r physical, emotional or financial... After the initial attraction part is over what makes the couple stay together is the dreams and ambitions they share together and r willing to work on the differences they might have.
Physical relation is a very important part of a relationship so they have to be compatible in this area as well.
As far as unconditional love is concerned then sorry to say it doesn't exist in a relationship with your partner, for example u want your partner to be loyal to u and with this first want unconditionality goes out of the window bcz its the first condition u put for that relationship to be successful and so on and so forth... U want your partner to respect u and not treat u like crap so this another condition for the that relationship to progress... I personally believe that every relationship needs certain conditions to make it work and keep it beautiful and fulfilling at the same time.
PS: only unconditional love is parent's love bcz only your parents can love u no matter his good or bad u r... I didn't mention it above as its not the topic of the discussion.
Oh.. very interesting reply, sweetheart. I agree with everything.
So a relationship works if the couple's expectations about each other are met.. that's a great way to put it. You also mentioned respect, compatibility and willingness to work together!
So I guess you go into a relationship with expectations .. and not knowing whether the person is the ONE .. and if you realize later that your partner doesn't meet your expectations, then you try to work on your differences!