Going by the mood of this forum from past 2-3 days, this thought popped out in my mind-how the woman is viewed by a man or to be specific, Indian man?
I know most of us forum mates are blessed with wonderful men in our life. But to go by the reality of Indian society, the number of wonderful 'real men' is very less compared to the so called men! From my personal experience I have felt many times that if a woman is outspoken, liberal and can debate over social injustice, political affaires etc, there are a lot of men (including so called educated) who think that this woman is not a 'perfect woman', she lacks femininity etc. The bitter truth is that we all women of new age know that inspite of modernization, urbanization there is a large number of male population who still has a stereotype mentality when it comes to woman as a wife in India! Still people feel a humble, shy, traditional girls are real women and the modern, liberal, outspoken girls are not so! And we all are fighting against such stereotypes at one or the other phase, Dehli gang-rape protest was eye openerfor our society, we saw a lot of young men standing up for women at the same time there were men including IPS, IAS officers who blamed women's dressing, staying out late night, being friends with men as a cause for such atrocities against women!
The 'misfit' comment on Zoya just reminded me of one of my personal experience, few months back one of my friend(male) was suggesting one of my colleague(who is looking for a girl to get married) that, he should take advice from me as to what are girls expectations from a guy, immediately this colleague of mine asserted that 'no way! Bhavna! If a girl is like her I wouldn't marry such girl! I mean, Bhavna is nice but she suits better as a social activist but not as a wife!' He said this infront of me, I always call him a jerk and that day before I could open my mouth to show him what he is, my friend showed him his place😆 Here I have two men, both are equally educated, both care a lot for their loved ones, both are decent guys(even that stupid colleague is a very decent and helpful guy), but their perception about women is different! Asad Ahmed Khan is a symbolism of well educated yet chauvinist men that we have around us!
QH is actually touching upon this bitter truth, that's why Asad is a caring, decent, well educated and principled man, yet is a big time MCP! He adores his mother, feels she is a definition of perfect woman. Now, for me Zoya and Dilshad are very much similar except for Zoya is loud, wears jeans and Dilshad is not tech-pro! 😊 But Asad feels zameen-asman farak between this two ladies, because his just decides character by outer appearance as many men do! It would be great if CV's actually show the growth in Asad's character from a judgmental MCP to a real man who accepts and respects woman for what she is than how she is!
Zoya's character has been portrayed strong and it's not butchered
yet, she is a normal human being without any ego, who is insecure, so she is
being immature and childish, at times strongest of us also tend to do silly
things sometimes, so Zoya is justified at the moment and it's just 3 episodes!
But if the track still drags with same humiliation to Zoya then I would curse the
creatives for making a mockery of a new age modern woman! We do act silly at times but not always, and we have enough self respect to crash the jerks away!
I would never forgive and would quit (already skipped 2 epi,
just reading WU) watching this show if they don't redeem rather teach lesson to
Asad! I am hoping that all this heartbreaking episodes are build up for future tracks
where Asad will learn to understand the person beyond their outer appearance, in
Zoya's words tehjeeb and tameez dil me hoti hai! As of now I see potential in the
show as it looks like they are trying to throw light on the stereotype chauvinist
attitude of our society and send a message through the character development of
Asad Ahmed Khan!
Please share your views or experiences.
P.S: Don't justify Asad just because Karan is playing the character! In reality Karan is no way closer to what Asad is.
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