Posted: 15 February 2013 at 1:28pm | IP Logged
"Scenario: How many of you would actually consider a woman who was either Divorced or Widowed for marriage? Would you accept her if she had kids, or would you rather her be childless divorcee or widowed? And for the girls, would it be as hard for you to think you could live a normal life once again married after being divorced or widowed? Or for the sake of your children would you remain single to only live your life for you kids? "
Once again, great topic! Thank you! And I don't know why you or anyone else would consider it to be offensive? Remarriage is one of life's realities and nowadays happens pretty regularly!
I would imagine its not that common in many societies where arranged marriages are the norm. As a widow / divorcee especially with children would be considered a least desirable match,especially for a bachelor. Maybe if the groom himself is a widower or divorcee ,or is much older!
But this is not unusual in western societies these days. I've known quite a few single men elect to marry women with a child ,some of these women have never even been married before either. And some of these men would be considered quite eligible too!
Times are changing and societal norms as well. And if these women can get a second chance at love and happiness, security and stability then good for them ,and kudos to the men that love and accept them as well as their children!
What I would advise is that if there are children involved that all parties engage in pre marital counseling to avoid many of the pitfalls that can result later on. Clear the air up front so to speak and take your time! People need to be assured that their new partners can gel well with their kids and vice versa! After all a parents utmost responsibility is to their children that they've chosen to bring into this world!