Is love a good thing? - Page 4

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

i dont get it. Of course, love is a good thing. It's such a good thing that I make myself fall in love with the arrival of every new season. 😆 

  Hahaha ...😆 ...And what's the frequency of those seasons ? Does a new one arrive everyday ? 😆

  Vintu ..😛

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

i dont get it. Of course, love is a good thing. It's such a good thing that I make myself fall in love with the arrival of every new season. 😆 

Are you referring to the seasons of the Call Girls 😆, I think there's a new episode every couple of days 😆

Ultimately, love is about companionship. Most of us tend towards long-term domestic relationships, someone with whom we share our time (not all our time), a home, family, etc. That sharing and growing together feels good. Co-habiting feels good for some people. But I also know couples who have been together for a long time who prefer maintaining separate residences.

Love is a good thing if you accept/practice the following principles:

- it doesn't mean you have ownership over all of the other person's affections (including sexual affection), energies, and time. You get to enjoy quite a bit of it when you're in a committed relationship with someone, and that's great, but you have to be able to have your own life and not expect that person to be your whole life (which is pathetic anyway, but that's just me).

- it is possible to love many people, and to love more than one person romantically (whether or not that goes anywhere or one acts on it is another thing altogether)

- it is not a license to treat someone like crap (being controlling, manipulative, getting jealous, dictating what they should do/wear, whom they should associate with/avoid, etc.)

- it is not "unconditional." Of course it's conditional -- on the other person not being a jerk, on the other person being able to grow/challenge themselves, on them being receptive to constructive criticism, opportunities for emotional growth, and so much more.

At least that's my point of view. I wouldn't be able to accept that someone "loves" me if the above wasn't true, and same goes for what I feel for someone too.

Overall, a pragmatic and progressive approach towards human relationships is important. We are all fed so much sentimental stuff on a daily basis (because card companies need to sell cards, and magazines need to sell sex advice, and cosmetic companies need to sell insecurities and so on). I think deep down we are all beautifully complex and are able to live with respect for one another, as long as we are able to challenge many of the norms and assumptions that come with romantic relationships.
Edited by --arti-- - 11 years ago

But all said and done, a lot of people these days live fulfilling lives without having relationships (it doesn't mean they don't have any romantic love or any sexual interactions). I think in many ways the primacy of coupledom is challenged more today than before. I also think that many queer couples or even straight couples with feminist values are able to challenge some of the patriarchal assumptions around how a romantic relationship should be practiced.

Originally posted by: McNinja

Is it really possible to love without expectations though? Just in general, it's part of human nature to want and expect certain things, not just in relationships. That's an ideal I feel is hard to meet. 

It is unrealistically theoretical to believe in unconditional love. There are conditions that your significant other fulfills, that's the whole reason why you love them. Love is a good feeling when one makes it into their strength even when circumstances make sure to weaken them because of their feelings. For, there are factors and issues regarding loving people and the problems that love entails. But I'd like to believe that given your heart is in the right place, you'll make it. And that way, love would be a good thing indeed. Otherwise, it could really affect us and our lives the way we allow it to. I personally believe that it is through love we learn to appreciate and respect qualities unlike us even if we make the choice of who we love. And that is wonderful.

Originally posted by: King-Anu

I have prepared a MCQ. lol. To love stricken people. please pick one option
 
A

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JB_4xapDKlk[/YOUTUBE]

B

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sZg4EUB3IM[/YOUTUBE]

According to me, love is something like a patience, i mean something aberrant from the movies and t.v.s. A thing which can't be expressed from your mind or from any logical view... it's an adoration which comes because of true feelings toward some person or thing. it's a real nature where you can the reality of the world.

Its almost funny how our mind works... most of us feel that love is a bad thing and we're better off without it, yet Valentines day is one of the most celebrated days of the year by not only couples but also by singles.. :D