DOTW - 2nd Feb to 9th Feb 2013-DT Note page 4 - Page 2

My first reaction when I first read the post is does Urmila even deserve to be a mother.  She is so intent to access the good life that she will willingly push Rashi forward in that aim.  But then I thought about if we take away what we know and have seen.  Gopi's mistreatment at the hands of her mami.  The lies and deceit enacted by the mother and daughter duo.  The conniving that they do, pulling the wool over everyones' eyes.  No one else sees that.  So stripping Urmi of that what do you have?  A mother who wants the best for her daughter.  Always ensured that she had the best of everything growing up and taught her that she is special and then to ensure that her daughter will not suffer in her married life, hence marrying her in a family that is comfortably off, ensuring no hardships financially.  And if she can benefit from that alliance too then all the better. In essence she is a mother who wants the best for her daughter.  How she goes about it and the attitude she has is questionable and is hard to swallow.  If you look at both examples, both mothers are doing what they think best for their daughters.  Can we really fault them for that?  

So this mother does whatever she thinks will make her daughter's life secure in her in laws house without realizing that her perceptions of security are unneeded😕 There is an iota of truth in what Urmi said though.. In many families still in India, the bahu who gives them a heir and a child, male or female depends on the families is certainly given a better priority.

So is it wrong that Urmi wants Rashi to have a baby? I totally agree that this thought is not incorrect.

But how one goes about it is also very important. Stealing babies and teaching Rashi to continue this farce will only blow up on her daughters face. The adoption in itself is not very easy to accept for a father. Now down the lane, if Jigar finds out that Rashi and her mother knew that the baby was stolen..😲 If it was not Jigar, I would say that Rashi would be sent away for life for going ahead with this dupe. 

Whatever Urmi's intentions are, she is short sighted.  With her cunning and devious plans she makes you wonder if she really is Rashi's well wisher

The other mother was no better but was she devious and cunning? I do not think so. She did something that she thought would save her daughter and then realized her mistake. Both these woman's end thought is to keep their daughter happy. However the way they went about it makes Urmi worse

Not related to the topic but I still think Rashi 'loves' Vansh as a toy and not as a child. If she did love Vansh, she would consider his emotions when he grows up and understand that he would want to be with his mother and not with those who stole him. Nope. I still do not see Love there from Rashi😕

For example she wants Kinjal to respect her husband and Ahem to respect his wife. Urmi wants her daughter to trod on all.

I think Koki is wrong a number of times but Urmi just suffocates Rashi with her ideas which by the way Rashi accepts. The letting go which I thought Koki would have a problem with seems to be with Urmi. She wants Rashi to live the life Urmi dreamed. 

One other thing.. When her children made mistakes, atleast most of the times Koki did try to correct them. Urmi on the other hand wants Rashi to do mistakes if that would serve a purpose at short term. But what about long term? Will her daughter be happy?

 

With Urmi?  This is what is wrong with parents trying to live their lives through their children.  It does not work.   Although sometimes I think that Urmi is the bigger child in this. 😆

 

 

Urmi is vicious. Being a baby and wanting material things for your daughter cannot be faulted. Heck is that not what a parent first looks for when arranging a marriage for their children? They look for the job, security, position... I would not say that is wrong. But to what extent can one go to in order to get what they need?

Everyone dreams of getting riches. But will that justify killing another to attain what you need? Is there not a limit. Urmi I think has gone over that limit😕