Amazing post Swasthi and very balanced on how the two couples reacted to being parents
I wish I had the same generous view on RaJi that you have. But still here is what I felt seeing the episode.
Gopi and Ahem have grown solidly in their relation before and after they became parents.. Is it because Ahem had time to see how much Gopi cared? Is it because he enjoyed being part of his baby, their love growing and finally taking shape in the form of a girl that he so much wished for? But there it is.. Their love shines in their eyes as both Gopi and Ahem look at each other and see their souls mingle as they try to outdo each other.
Mingled with this love is the respect for each that shines and for me so important.
Woman who stay at home are not on a picnic like Rashi called it. They have hundreds of things to do everyday. Similarly men working put in a lot of work. In a family there needs to be a balance and a respect between spouses.
A very solid respect for the other makes life easier and also instills confidence and happiness in the marital life. GoHem seem to have found that balance. Ahem's obvious understanding of just how much work Gopi does at home and Gopi's worry and concern about Ahem and his health.. These two respect each other and care of each other a lot. Their love adds to this and now with Meera, their life revolves around her.
It is heartening to see Gopi giving Ahem the confidence to be himself with his daughter. A new dad, Ahem is still a little worried about whether he is doing all the right things and like the saathiya she is, Gopi is assuring him at every step that all Ahem needs to do is be himself. His daughter will love them both like her parents love each other
Their bickering today reminded me of all those things this couple forgot to talk through before jumping in for an adoption. I get Rashi and Jigar's anger at each other. However the anger and irritation at each other is too early and the way Rashi keeps demanding that she be listened to really does rile Jigar up a lot.
Unfortunately, although these two have got a child, the child is highlighting the lack of understanding and trust between these two. Today Rashi's need for help from Jigar was right but what was wrong was the way she assumed and demanded Jigar to help her. Given her husband's nature, he would have come to her aid if she had been politer and had made it a request. But Rashi considers that she is entitled to demand and also Get everything she demands because she has Vansh now. Unfortunately Vansh is not a leverage to get her things..
Jigar on the other hand I think is ill prepared to handle all this. He is also human. His work at office finds little appreciation with his wife and he comes home to a highly irritated and often gets high handed treatment from his wife.
A marriage needs to have appreciation between two partners and that is missing between these two. Unfortunately I do not see that happening between Rashi or Jigar. Rashi does not respect Jigar and his work.. Jigar finds Rashi childish but cannot handle her in any other way other than giving in to her demands..
Vansh unfortunately happens to be in the middle of this all. So the question remains as to whether Rashi or Jigar really love Vansh as their own or are they taking care of him because to one, he is the way to fulfill her dreams and to another, he is the way to have his home quieter.