Originally posted by TheBoss
...our community and their flawed mindset full of archaic and barbaric thoughts but it wouldn't do any good as most people are thick skull-ed to get your point across.
Don't know how you're defining "our" community (South Asian? Diaspora? Upper caste? Upper class? Male? Straight?). You shouldn't presume we all share the same experience. There is no hive mind full of "barbaric" thoughts. There are historic and ongoing systemic forms of oppression everywhere in the world, and it's true that most of us are complicit in re-producing those forms of oppression on a daily basis and in our everyday lives. It's easy to laugh at stereotypes of sexist behaviour, but much harder to tease out the "innocent" ways in which we might participate in that behaviour. We have the ability to challenge our role in that participation, because history, or herstory, or whatever, is also full of examples of collective responses to oppression in the form of social movements and freedom struggles.
If you're trying to "educate" all of us (again, not sure who the "us" is), thanks, I guess, but maybe your starting point shouldn't be that we all share some kind of unfailingly cohesive set of views and experiences. There's nothing wrong with writing books or satire, but we all need to challenge what I call the "white documentary-maker approach." The assumptions of that approach are 1) I know everything, 2) It's important for the world for me to just put my voice/views out there as if it is uncontested, or as if I am the only one who feels this way.
The opposite of that approach is to spend time learning from people, especially by spending time with the ones that are so "barbaric," to try to hear the other voices of resistance, the subaltern voices, amidst the "wife-beater" stereotypes. Figure out where critical conversations/struggles are happening within your geographical area, humbly ask them if you can contribute to their project/struggle (if in fact you can). See, that way it's not about the white documentary maker and her quest to educate the rest of us. Instead, it will become part of some of those genuinely creative collective responses already happening out there.