Nice post Farhana. The Sun goes down to come back the next day. All this drama will definitely take them to the top in TRPS chart. Now my take on the episode.
1. I was not surprised what Bhabo did. If she had behaved differently I would be shocked.
2.I know the mood of the forum is garam garam and they may find my thoughts disgusting, but I will still say it.
3. If we expect a conservative mind to react to change so quickly then we are living in a fool's paradise. The killing of girls in Haryana for eloping by their own family members, the killing of a Pakistani girl by her own father for talking to a boy, the shooting of Malala, the killing of a Pakistani girl in Britain by her parents for her liberal outlook are all examples of the same mindset.
4.If we are asked to give up wearing jeans,stop going to college, stop talking to boys, stop using the mobile phones or net, stop watching the tv are we going to say ok if that is what you want. Will we not fight tooth and nail over these regulations being unfair ? Why do you expect Bhabo to behave differently ? If we find such ideas primitive, they find our ideas horrifying.
5.We being of a liberal frame of mind will sit back and think and weigh the pros and cons, they cannot as they are not educated and cannot dream of breaking traditions they are brought with. Their indoctrination is so thorough that they can take extreme positions to prove they are right. It is like the Taliban recruits who are brain washed into an ideology of killing people in the name of religion. No matter how much you rationalise with them they will continue to kill.
6.Do not worry, Bhabo is doing this only to see the love her son has for her and to what extremes he can go to prove that. It is her ego at its peak. She is highly insecure after this revelation and is getting a reassurance by testing whether he still loves her as much as his wife. Going to extremes is nothing new to her.
7.I all along said lying was wrong morally, more so tactically and Sandhya will be blamed and that is what happened. Since he has lied he will have to bear the punishment, if he does not have the guts to break away. Either you rebel or you pay, no other way out. In all this Sandhya is a bigger victim and is being shouted at for no fault of hers. If Suraj had no long term game plan why did he venture into it in the first place, despite Sandhya's reluctance. I cannot have sympathy for this kind of lack of foresight.
8.Change takes time and education. These episodes will help in the thought process to start.
9.Please do not misinterpret my comments as justifying Bhabo. I am not. I am only making you try to see the real picture as it exists, good or bad it cannot be wished away by our high tempers. It has to be reformed gradually.
Edited by UMDU - 16 January 2013 at 5:18pm